Get your Patriarchy On.
Humans are not historically centered around the nuclear family. They have and are adapted for family as in kin, tribe, and extended family.
In nature, we have pairbonder species and tournament species.
Pairbonder species involve a male and female, alone in their territory together, perhaps with offspring.
This is decidedly NOT the human dynamic, until the wealth and opportunity of cities combined with rapid transportation and eventually discreete messaging obliterated that.
Since the 1950s especially, we’ve seen the rise of nuclear families, and the expression en masse of pairbonder men.
The problem with pairbonder men is that they are usually controlled by the women, do not build or defend good territory, and in focus all their efforts into the low return tasks of provisioning women and heavy investment into parenting.
A mans value is in building and providing the territory.
@Meta_Trav
has laid this out masterfully. A well designed territory contains:
- The wordspace and rule set
- The congregation point
- male fraternity
- female sisterhood
- council that provides moral authority and accountability
How many men are providing territory like this that their wife, children, or community are benefiting from?
Almost zero.
Notice also, that no man can do this by himself. A one person council is a dictatorship.
It requires adult cooperation between men, and their leadership to create cohesive, safe, high stimulation territory.
Territory is not something you “fight over”. It’s built, designed, and engineered. This can be achieved only with mature, adult cooperation.
That said, there will always be those with spite that wish to disrupt, harm, or take over your territory. Rights and benefits exist insofar as you can secure them, and as such defending territory is a key imperative and major reason men form coalitions/packs/fraternity.
Modern mainstream thinking is that thriving families are built by a man investing in a woman and his children alone in the pair territory.
Couldn’t be less true. No one thrives in a house by themselves, a lone wolf, as the large fraction of people live today.
What does work is building territory with other men that affords for, and insures, the cooperation of men in providing: a cohesive, stabilizing rule set; safe haven; congregation point; fraternity for men; sisterhood for women; and plenty of stimulation.
This is a territory in which men, women, and children are able to thrive because they have the love, support, resources, care, and protection of a cohesive territory and community.
Development happens naturally because women and children have all the correct incentives, lots of healthy stimulation, and support to thrive and grow.
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