SigmaFrame relates the story of a woman who married young.
When my father started looking for men for my sister and me to date, we were flooded with dates by VERY ATTRACTIVE men. I am talking about doctors, engineers, lawyers — very high status men. Why? Because we had a high MMV (at that time).
The man I married paid for a plane ticket (as he was living in another state) to come see me for our first date. Why did he do that? He told our sons the reason why. Even back in the day, pretty Christian virgins in their early 20’s were hard to come by (those were his words not mine).
That is it! Those were my qualifications. I was a virgin, pretty, and in my early 20’s. Just THAT got me a date with a man who paid for a PLANE TICKET to come see me. OK, it took a bit more to get a wedding proposal out of him (ha ha!), but realistically speaking, pretty much ANY woman could do as well as I did — IF she works her MMV to her advantage during the time her MMV is high.
Would you buy a plane ticket to meet a woman like this?
I would. Why?
First, we are not “dating.” We are discussing marriage — basically Courtship. Also, since we are getting to the fly-out-and-see-me stage, with a young woman who lives with her father, obviously the man has already passed whatever screening process you can do remotely. So, we are already probably 70% of the way to getting married. And, since there is no sex (or cohabitation, or a lot of other things) before marriage, there is not really much to do before deciding to get married. You can probably do it in three days. You aren’t going to have to go back and forth many times on a plane. You aren’t going to have a “long distance relationship.” You just get married, or you don’t. $500 for a plane ticket is a lot, but $500 to get a wife is pretty cheap. How many dinner dates is that?
I think a lot of men these days would like to find a virgin wife under Age 23. But, men just daydream about it, without actually doing it. There actually seem to be a lot of beautiful women these days, under Age 23, and actually virgins, whether they are active Christians or not, and who actually prioritize marriage and family. There are a lot of “I thought I would be married by Age 22 and have three children” girls.
So, if you just go and look for such a girl, they shouldn’t be hard to find. This should be Courtship, not “dating.” There should be an explicit expectation, among all involved, that you might get married within six months, or maybe you won’t. No open-ended “dating.” Also, no sex before marriage, which simplifies things a lot.
75% of women arriving at Harvard are virgins
And then there is this:
When my father started looking for men for my sister and me to date,
These women themselves didn’t pick their partners. Because who would they pick? Did you guess — the guy with the best pictures on Tinder? No, their father found their husbands. Of course the women had some choice afterwards, among these men that already had passed their father’s first screening. It would be interesting to learn exactly how their father found all these Suitors.
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