Wrong Solution

Here’s Evie Magazine:

It’s akin to a bad movie where people seem to be on a race to the bottom in an effort to see who can screw up the most with the opposite sex.

I’ve heard of endless unfortunate dating incidents where people will unmatch their Tinder dates within minutes following their first, last, and only sexual encounter. In the car on the way home, they’re right back on the app, cruising for more casual sex. They quite literally jump in the jeep and leave, braving the walk of shame, where they unmatch said dates while driving off. The insanity.

Many women find themselves getting ghosted right after sex. One woman shared her experience: “Of course, some men ghost after sex even if you withhold it for weeks. I once dated a guy I waited two months to sleep with. In that time, he took me for expensive dinners, texted constantly, and surprised me with flowers and gifts. The day after we got physical, I never heard from him again.”

Ghosting aside, another issue we’re witnessing is men resenting having to be chivalrous and shell out money for dates. One man wrote, “The lack of consistency [around who pays] has left me wondering if the standard script of men paying for first dates is harder to find than certain rare bottles of wine. I think that now, with the emergence of so many dating apps and more frequent first dates, guys are less willing to cough up the cash on dates.”

And women across the board are entirely fed up with trying to find that one single guy out there who isn’t trying to have sex with them on the first date…while also trying to nickel and dime them and make them pay for coffees and go for hikes in secluded areas trying to score a casual romp in the bushes.

This is all largely due to the commodification process currently in full swing, where people find themselves getting nexted and ghosted, and they’re left wondering where they went wrong. With every “shiny new model” just around the corner, people are eager to nonchalantly pass up an otherwise decent connection with a person who doesn’t appear to check off all the boxes concerning their personal standards.

But people won’t commodify you if you don’t commodify yourself. It’s really that simple. And if you choose to have higher standards for yourself in the sexual marketplace, it will give you a leg up in securing a chance at finding a fulfilling long-term relationship.

So what can you do to increase your desirability in today’s sexual marketplace? Let’s take a look……

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Most of the reasons for these outcomes come down to women’s behavior, namely:

1. They only choose 10% or 5% of men, giving those men lots of options
2. They consistently choose men than any man can see is a Player or Fuckboy, and then wonder why they keep acting like Players and Fuckboys.
3. They consistently reward (with attachment) men who have sex with them quickly, and punish (by losing interest in) men who defer sex, preferring to build up some kind of connection beforehand — supposedly what women want, but we know that is not how they behave.
4. They play the “foodie call” game constantly. Whenever you see a woman on YouTube talking about her “fifty first dates,” ask who paid for those fifty first dates, and how much the total cost was, for all participants.
5. The monogamous “relationship” was a kind of degenerate form of Courtship and Marriage, and never made much sense, as Dalrock used to describe in detail. Women simply have not made good “relationship” partners, typically using it as a way of extracting the benefits of a “relationship” while also looking for a “better deal” elsewhere, or just whoring around. Basically “relationships” have not worked for men, especially in the last 20 years, reducing women to “situationship” status.
6. Marriage has also been a disaster, largely due to the legal ramifications of divorce, but also due to all the bad wives who eventually got divorced, including sexless marriages, nagging, complaining, endless dissatisfaction, and other Feminist horseshit. Again women are reduced to “situationship” status.

The basic pattern here is the degeneration of “dating” in all its forms, which was always degenerate from the start. Basically women will have to drop “dating,” because even for the woman who really does aim for a husband and family, she can easily end up getting passed around for a decade, in the process not only consuming her peak marriage and childbearing years, but also making her damaged goods for marriage by the time she starts to worry about running out of time around Age 28.

The solution is Courtship, which has certain characteristics:

1. No sex before marriage.
2. Get Married Young, around Age 18-23, more broadly 16-25, when a woman is at Peak Marriage and Peak Childbearing years, and also, because asking a woman to be celibate for a decade and get married at Age 28 is both stupid and impossible.
3. No “Relationships” before marriage. Get married, or don’t. But, don’t spend 3-5 years in some kind of sexless limbo. A woman can be Engaged, even for an extended period of time (perhaps until she finishes college), but otherwise, a woman can entertain other Suitors.

But as we look at this long list of problems, and our proposed solution, we can see that at no point was “desirability in the sexual marketplace” a problem. The fact of the matter is, most any 22yo woman, who isn’t fat and who doesn’t make an intentional effort to uglify herself (tattoos/noserings/purple hair/bad clothes) — two things that are easy to fix, or avoid, for any woman — is sexually desirable enough for most any man. Again women are trying to bag that Top 10% man, and they think the solution is to “out compete” other women. It won’t work.

But, this is why we Just Tell The Bitches What To Do. They will never figure it out.