There is a rule for contraception, and it is this:
No female contraception. In practice, this means condoms, or solutions such as vasectomy. (I don’t recommend that men cut their balls off.)
Besides the many problems with birth control pills (more here), all female contraception (IUDs, diaphragms, spermicide, etc.) represent the female’s intent to become infertile, and refuse the (implied biological) intent of the man. At a basic biological level, a woman sets herself up in contradiction to the man, rather than in cooperation. And, this tends to color all of her actions.
When a man uses a condom, he says: “we will not produce a baby today.” The woman can thus cooperate with the man’s intent, and not produce a baby. In addition, there are a lot of advantages, such as the prevention of disease. Use condoms. (At least if you are in any kind of continuing relationship. For wanton sluts, maybe the pill is best.)
The relationship between the pill and the “sexual revolution” is not really as close as people think in the U.S. Japan, for example, banned oral contraceptives until 1999. (Its permission since 1999 is thought to be a compromise with the permission of Viagra that same year.) Even today, only 2% of Japanese women use oral contraceptives, and the use of other female contraceptives is negligible. Unfortunately, this has led to a rather high rate of abortion in Japan, of 9.3 per 1000 women aged 15-49. This compares to the U.S. at 11. But, that could be reduced, perhaps, by more common use of condoms: 20% of Japanese women report using withdrawal or the rhythm method.
Every American man that goes to Japan immediately finds the women there much more gentle, pleasant and agreeable than women in the United States, even in the most minor daily interaction. I think this is related to the very low use of birth control pills in Japan.
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