I don’t think I like Warren Farrell very much. He seems to be basically a male feminist. He hosts “couples’ retreats” at Esalen in California, woo central, which tends to mean Feminism Central since Patriarchy tends to be very non-woo except at the highest levels — the relationship of the Patriarch to God.
Nevertheless, he is coming out with a new book, Role Mate to Soul Mate, which might be interesting.
I like the term “Role Mate.” I am guessing that is a somewhat negative term in Farrell’s world, as it is the starting place from which to arrive at Soul Mate. But, the problem today is that women, or men too but to a lesser extent, have a hard time being Role Mates.
In the past, it was assumed that pretty much any woman could be a good wife, within her capabilities. It was not very difficult. You keep house and raise children. And, of course, sex, which also implies: looking good. But, it seems that today, much difficulty arises because women cannot do this. They fail in their Role as Wife and Mother. This seems to be true across the spectrum, from the simple-minded girls up to the very high achievers.
I made a list of Five Levels of Good Wives. They are all basically the same — keeping house and raising children — but at different levels of ambition and effort.
The Good Wife Level 1
The Good Wife Level 2
The Good Wife Level 3
The Good Wife Level 4
The Good Wife Level 5
The basic idea is that the Role of Wife and Mother is like a job. Like a job, your emotions don’t matter. Just get the job done. Hint: Controlling, Criticising, and Complaining is not part of your job.
Usually, if a woman performs the role of Good Wife and Mother well, then a man will naturally have affection for her. Also, if a woman fails in the role of Good Wife and Mother, then that will tend to kill all affection that a man might have for her. Because, who wants to put up with this crap every day.
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