No-Nup Agreements

What if we just didn’t “get married,” but lived together, were basically monogamous, and raised children together? We are effectively married, in “common law marriage.” “Common law marriage” is not just the State pulling the rug on you with fine print. It is the “Natural Law” that exists even without the State. Humans just “get married,” whether or not there is any legal aspect to it.

Sigma Frame observes that for most of the history of the West, this “Natural Law marriage” was the norm. The State was just not involved. It was like a live-in girlfriend/boyfriend relationship today. This is actually “Biblical” in the sense that it was what the people in the Bible actually did, when they “got married.”

With legal marriage a disaster today, both men and women are trending toward Common Law marriage as an alternative. Sigma Frame suggests that women’s behavior also changes dramatically when she has a Legal Marriage. Basically, she has the State to tear your arms and legs off at her whim. Men naturally avoid this. Mostly this is just feeling your way in the dark these days, but I think that a more deliberate embrace of Common Law Marriage may be a good way of proceeding until the regular Marriage Laws are fixed; or, perhaps, mostly eliminated.

This is more common in Europe, where young people are often establishing families without legal marriage.

I think it is good to have a formal recognition of marriage, or a wedding, but in the Common Law sense — a church service. An agreement between husband and wife, family and friends. Maybe even a written agreement, which, without enforcement of the State, amounts to: vows. Don’t involve the State. Don’t sign any Marriage Licenses or Birth Certificates, which, among other things, are an agreement to sell your children into slavery.