Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?

“Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?” asked Vogue Magazine. The article is basically Feminist Propaganda, as one would expect from a major magazine. Girlbosses can’t have even the attachment of a regular partner.

But, the recent popularity of this proposition reflects the reality that the “boyfriend” is becoming more and more nonsensical, and just plain dysfunctional. Women rightly wonder if they should really participate in this “boyfriend” crap. The basic idea of ditching the “boyfriend” doesn’t sound too bad to me. The term is inherently juvenile, as anyone knows who has tried using the word over the age of 30. The reason for this is that “boyfriends” mostly didn’t exist before the 1950s. A “boyfriend” is basically a part of “dating,” and “dating” is basically fornication and concubinage. The term arose in the 1950s, when “dating” became mainstream, accompanied by a burst in unmarried teenage pregnancies. In those days, they had the good discipline to often get married afterward. But also in those days, whether prompted by pregnancy or not, people got married young. The median age of marriage for women was 20. Their “boyfriends” were actually boys — that is to say, teens. Marrying your High School Sweetheart is what most women did. Among the better families, you often married your College Sweetheart.

Part of this was related to the rise of High School itself. Before 1940, most Americans didn’t graduate from High School, and this includes women. They often worked, and lived at home, while also aiming to Get Married Young, around Age 18-22. They were not locked up with boys their same age at High School all day. They were out working or, in any case, looking for husbands, in the ages of 20-35 — not Boys. They called them “Beaus.”

Today, the process of Dating, as a path to Marriage, has become rather silly. Often, even those couples that do get married, are a couple for an average of 58.7 Months (just short of five years). And, that’s just the average — some couples are, obviously, more than average. And that’s even if it works out. There are a lot of cases of couples being together for 3-5 years, and not getting married. And there are a lot of cases of women wanting to start the path to marriage, and not getting to the Boyfriend stage at all. They end up as 30yo “never had a boyfriend” girls. Some of these “never had a boyfriend” girls are whores. But a lot of them, I think, actually tried to establish a monogamous long-term “boyfriend” relationship, and failed over and over.

So, for reasons completely different than Vogue, I also think that we should ditch the “boyfriend.” Those marriage-minded women (who ignore the advice of Vogue) should forget about “boyfriends” and instead go straight to “Courtship,” which also means going straight to marriage. But, you also have to drop the entire framework of “dating;” in other words, fornication and concubinage. When you try to tell a man “oh yeah I was ‘dating’ some other guy, but it didn’t work out, so now I want to try Courtship,” that usually doesn’t work well. It is not actually so bad — a woman can learn and mend her ways — and these “born again virgins” can actually work out well if their previous number of partners is under five. But, from a man’s perspective, why not just go for the virgin girls, and skip these scratch-and-dent items?

For one thing, that 18yo girl will be 28 in ten years — still a hot item, with a high sex drive. After 20 years, she will be 38, which is still pretty young.

Once you drop “dating,” and “boyfriends,” women should also want to get married young (18-20), for the simple reason that 19yo women are horny, because they are in their prime baby-making years so naturally they want to make babies. Don’t fight it. Get married, and then have a lot of sex, and have at least three children before Age 25.