Welcome to my blog. Its purpose is to explore various topics regarding sex, marriage and family — an area with many problems today, as has been amply explored by the “red pill community.” They have done an excellent job of analysis and description. But, little has been said about solutions, and this persistent lack has been troubling me, so I will take it up. I tried doing a little bit via YouTube, the preferred medium these days it seems, but I am not suited to it. So, I will join with Dalrock, Rollo Tomassi and others in print. Like Dalrock, I am happily married, for seventeen years, and have a son. (Yes, it really is “happily,” perhaps because my wife is Japanese, and her English even now is bad enough that she is isolated from Western media and the society of Western women.) Perhaps I would like to have my son, when he is older, to have some kind of woman available besides wasted harlots.
In general, I am a Traditionalist. This is different than today’s TradCons, which Dalrock (among many) have rightly eviscerated. But one thing you can say about Traditional solutions is that they have actually worked, in real life, for a long period of time, and produced good results. You could invent some kind of new solution, but Utopian dreams sometimes don’t work out. I am not a Christian, although I find that they are my natural allies, so I am Christian-friendly. Ezra Pound once did a broad review of spiritual traditions, including many in the East. He eventually decided to become a Christian (specifically, an Anglican), not because he was not aware of the many failings of the Anglican Church in his day, but because he realized that, if he wanted to gain the advantages that come from cooperation with like-minded people, he would have to join some kind of existing community.
I say often that “you have to tell women what to do.” They seem to be incapable of organizing their actions without external leadership. This leadership may come in the form of individual vision, or it may come in the form of social norms, in-group behavior, and the artificially-created “social norms” and “in-group behavior” manufactured by the Cultural Marxists in music, television and movies. Women have a choice of which leadership they choose. But, they seem to lack the masculine capability of analysis and description, awareness of longer-term cause and effect, and also based on this, invention of definite solutions, independent of existing norms. Without someone else to do these things, who they can follow, they are rudderless. Some women are quite intelligent, but this ability is usually channeled entirely toward the Rationalization Hamster, and also lies, manipulation, and deceit. (This is basically the Rationalization Hamster applied to others.) But along with this, women are open to suggestion. If some men start telling women what to do, and it seems to them an attractive proposition, some women will follow.
And so, although you can lament the present condition of women in the U.S. and the West today, unless you tell them what to do, they will not change. It is not enough to say “I don’t like this and I don’t like that.” Eliminating options and identifying problems are important steps toward figuring out What To Do, but do not create a solution in themselves. Along with this, men have to clarify what they want. Today, we lament the fact that most women today are unfit to be wives and mothers, and are frankly dangerous and destructive in those roles. And yet, we seem to like having a large supply of sluts on ready call, so we have been perhaps a little hesitant to say: don’t be sluts. Obviously, we are going to have to make some decisions here. Are you ready for a world in which women are sexually unavailable until after your wedding day?
Unfortunately, by focusing on analysis and description of present conditions, men are, in a way, telling women what to do. Men say that “all women are like that.” Women hear this, and, following what they are being told by men, as is their nature, behave in the manner that such men say they behave. While it is true that women certainly have the potential to be “like that,” and today that potential is reality, it is also true that, in the past, they were not like that. Just as there is “women’s nature,” there is also “men’s nature.” For example, men have the potential for domination and plunder, that we see in every gang or group of bandits, and which anthropologists have recorded in primitive human societies around the world. And yet, most men today are not like that. The difference is part of what we call: civilization.
Thus, I want to focus on concrete, specific solutions. For example, there is near-universal agreement that today’s laws regarding divorce, sexual assault, domestic violence and other interactions between men and women are grossly anti-male and dysfunctional today. But, you rarely hear anyone say what, then, the laws should be. If you were to change it, what would you do? In the past (before 1970), for example, divorce required either mutual consent and terms acceptable to both parties, or, for a unilateral divorce, abridgement of certain conditions, notably adultery or serious domestic violence, with evidence that would hold up in jury trial. In another example from history, divorce among the ancient Romans would result in the man keeping the children. This served as a double preventative: most women would avoid divorce if it meant being separated from her children; and also, a man looking for a younger, sexier wife would probably be handicapped by having custody of his children. This would naturally require someone to handle childcare; and what better (or cheaper) person than the children’s natural mother? At the same time, a younger, sexier women would probably not be very interested in caring for another woman’s offspring.
Besides not telling women what to do, men today are bizarrely, pathologically politically inactive. Men need to join together and get things done to change the laws, just as men have always done to produce any change. Look around you: who is going to do it, if not men? At the very least, men should support existing men’s rights organizations. It is true that they have been woefully ineffective. But, more money would probably help fix that. Any man who is unwilling to give $25 to an existing MRA organization deserves everything he gets. This is evidence of extreme learned helplessness. Think of it like doing political pushups. If you can’t do even one pushup, you are in bad shape my friend. Get over your learned helplessness. Give another $25 to the YouTube Redpill personality of your choice. Divorce law is State law, so eventually there will have to be an MRA organization for each state, which lobbies and informs State legislators: the Ohio Society for Men’s Rights. If all concerned men were giving $100 a year in total to the cause, there would be enough money around that other men would have the funding to establish such organizations. Unfortunately, most men cannot risk too much opprobrium, as it jeopardizes their livelihoods. Thus, we need specialists, whose livelihood is itself based on objecting to the status quo, and who can serve as professional lightning rods.
Men are the builders of civilization, not only in steel and concrete, but also in laws and principles. Women nurture the creations of the men of their choice. So: start building.
Paulina Porizkova Takes On the Final Boss
Paulina Porizkova, former supermodel of the 1980s, and who has decided to test the limits of human ability to retain a sort of physical beauty with age, is now facing the Final Boss: her Sixties.
Paulina has been playing on Expert Mode for a while now. No plastic surgery. No makeup. Not even hair coloring. And no filters.
Here she is at Age 58:
Now, Age 60+, she is on super-expert-mode.
Marriage > College
Here we will celebrate those girls who decided that they would rather get married than go to college.
This is the way. Live at home with your father until you are married.
Wait until marriage.
Get married young — ideally, 18-22, more broadly, 16-25.
Basically, like a Jane Austen heroine.
But, these girls will have to actually get married. They are definitely in our Top 30%. So, go find them.
You might just contact them on TikTok.
Maggie The Great
I am a big fan of Margaret Thatcher, Prime Minister of the UK. She is about the only woman leader that I can think of, over the past 50 years, that stands in the pantheon of greats. She thus proves two things: first, that this is possible; and second, that it is very, very rare.
Thomas Sowell serves a similar role among US black intellectuals. Nearly all educated blacks end up as race hustlers and DEI enthusiasts. Few show much merit beyond this self-serving circle. Much the same is true of women in leadership positions, in government, business or elsewhere. Most are Feminism hustlers and DEI enthusiasts, and do more harm than good. We would be better off without them. A mediocre man is far more tolerable, and useful, than a highly capable woman who is a Feminist hustler and DEI promoter.
But even Margaret Thatcher, the greatest of the great, couldn’t “have it all.” At least she had very high regard for stay-at-home mothers. “To be a mother and housewife is a vocation of a very high kind,” she said.
Like her predecessor, the great Queen Victoria, who presided over fifty years of the pinnacle of British excellence, Margaret Thatcher was an anti-Feminist. Here’s a summary from Grok:
I bring this up as an assurance that we don’t need women to have careers in general. Little good comes of it. Yes, there are a one-in-a-million Margaret Thatchers out there. But, you know what would happen — such women would just do what they do anyway, just as Margaret Thatcher did. So, we would lose nothing, really.
Percent Ever Married: Update
It looks like the 1990s babies will make it to 60%. The 2000s babies, oldest now 25, are on track for maybe 50%. I think this might have a big turnaround sometime, a new “baby boom” in about 10 years, but it will get worse before it gets better.
Just Marry Mr. Darcy
Today, a whole legion of women figured out that they should just marry a rich guy. That is their Big Plan. But, most guys reach their peak earnings or wealth in their 50s — even as an inheritance. No, we want someone who is wealthy in their 30s. And, not fat, or with a pale pasty complexion from working indoors all day, or under six feet tall. We already know this is pretty rare:
$300,000/year is not “wealthy.” It is upper-middle class. You aren’t going to have a yacht or vacation home on $300,000 a year, or at least shouldn’t. You might drive a Lexus, but even that might be a stretch with two cars. A lot of people at $300,000/yr live mostly hand-to-mouth. Using the 3x Income standard for houses, it means you could afford a $900,000 house, if you don’t lose your job. Not two $900,000 houses. If you don’t live hand-to-mouth, and max out your 401(k) at 20%, and then set aside another 10% of income to savings of various sorts, and pay taxes, there isn’t really so much left over.
Nevertheless, after all this, and “settling” for someone merely upper-middle-class, a woman still has a 0.039% chance of getting the guy, right?
Nope. Because, such a man, if he marries at all, is likely to marry a woman like himself.
Here is a group portrait of an investment team at KKR Private Equity:
Now subtract the women, the men over 40, and the married men. You’ve got maybe five men, all of them under 6 feet tall, and most of them with the typical “academic geek in front of a computer all day” physiognomy. I see one guy that women wouldn’t swipe left on within two seconds (second from far right). Also, since these men can presumably marry who they like, we have to assume that the men who want to get married are already married, leaving only those who would rather not.
I think we all know by now that these “marry a rich guy” women are just cosplaying, while getting plowed by players and fuckboys.
Modern Fables
You hear today: “Whatever happened to men that ….”
Mostly, this is just a fairytale that didn’t exist.
For example, “chivalry.” Maybe there was something like it in the 1950s, but not in the 1990s. I can’t remember ever even thinking about all this opening doors crap. People just opened doors, or not, or whatever, without thinking about it. Like a bunch of guy friends.
In the 1990s, “equality” was common. We didn’t go on dates. We went out to a restaurant together, and of course you paid for your own food, just as if you went with a guy friend. We did all kinds of things together. I went with girls to go skiing, or maybe make a dinner, or go to an antique store.
For the most part, people didn’t go on “dates” in the 1990s, at all. You did things together. Maybe, had a child together. But, you didn’t go on a “date.”
For example, here’s Kate Beckinsale, Gen-X (born 1973), one of Hollywood’s more-desirable actresses in her prime, married twice and with a child, who says that she never went on a date, although she was photographed many times in public with men.
I can tell you that these were not dates. I lived with my girlfriend for several years before we got married, spent weeks traveling in foreign countries, made many trips to the mountains, but I can’t remember ever going on a “date” with her.
The other thing that rarely happened was “meeting in the wild.” Strangers generally did not talk with each other. If they did, it was most likely at a bar or some setting where it was expected that you would talk to strangers. Not a grocery store, or Home Depot. Or a bus. Actually, I did meet a number of people in the wild, but it was not “something that you do.” It just happened, without thinking about it.
Mostly, you met people from friends, relations, school, work or some other social setting where you would see people regularly. So, you already “knew” them. It was not a blind date.
Do you see “in Home Depot” here? That didn’t happen.
Filipina Wife Explains What’s What
We are at the point now where a lot of American Women on TikTok are fake-wondering about “why men are no longer interested in getting married?” or even, talk to them at a bar.
Since there are inevitably dozens of men who tell these women exactly why, in the comments to their own video, we have to conclude that all this “wondering” amounts to — can’t we just go back to the way it was, where women can do anything they like and you have to pay all the bills and clean up all the garbage?
I hope we don’t go back there, and it appears that men really are going to Hold The Line until there is some significant improvement. If you want to do whatever you like, then you can pay your own bills and clean up your own garbage, and we will stay as far away from this shitstorm as possible.
Meanwhile, this Filipina woman explains pretty well why there are American men getting passports to find women in the Philippines, but nobody seems to be coming to America to marry American women.
Dating Is Hard When You’re Miss America
As part of the Chronicles of The Way It Was in the year 2026 (or late 2025), we have today: Dating Is Hard When You’re Miss America.
Sperm Donors
The most intelligent, talented and capable women should be having the most babies. If a woman has an IQ above 130, she should have at least five children, it seems to me — preferably with a man who also has an IQ above 130. At 120 let’s put the bogey at three children.
This was common in the past, maybe the 1960s, where the most intelligent and capable young men and women were channeled to elite colleges, where they would meet and eventually get married. But, this rarely happens anymore. Instead, capable women are tracked into these same colleges, where they are quickly absorbed by feminism and careerism, and often drift into their 30s without getting married.
The men at these colleges no longer find their wives there. They move on to their careers, and often find a woman with more humble characteristics, who was not put on the Feminist career track, and who is open to being a wife and stay-at-home mother. In other words, a lower IQ woman of less capability. This can be fine for both husband and wife, but the result is typically children of modest capabilities. The fact of the matter is, IQ 130+ women are rare — about 2% of all women — and since these women are typically wrapped up in careerist ambitions, and also often somewhat lacking in social skills, our man is not likely to find one unless he specifically looks for one.
The result is that these careerist women end up, in their mid-30s, looking for a sperm donor. And, they might naturally want a biological father who is also intelligent and capable.
This has a number of legal perils, but nevertheless, just as high IQ women should have 5+ children, these high IQ/high achieving men should also have five or more children, and since this is easy for men, how about twenty?
There are a number of resources to put these men and women together. Here is one — a “dating app” for sperm donors.
I Thought I’d Be Married By Age 22
We’re going to have to take a stand somewhere, so let’s take a stand with the Top 30% of women, who have a natural inclination toward marriage and family.
Even today, with all the Feminist propaganda, there is a significant fraction of women who say that, around Age 16, they had the idea that they would be Married by Age 22 — basically the Courtship model, where women get married between 16-25, with 19-20 the peak years.
Basically, around Age 16, or maybe a little later, probably coinciding with first menstruation (which, in the 19th century, was commonly Age 16 or even Age 17), they get the idea that it is Game On and now it is time to stick a dick in there and make babies. Since these women still have a little civilization left in them, they naturally conclude that they should get married, first, and then get on with it.
Sadly, a lot of these women were unsuccessful, for a lot of reasons. Even a woman who actually tries to get married by Age 22, can easily fail. Many women who really did start looking for a future husband, from the start, around Age 16, can spend the next 10-15 years attempting to get into a monogamous “relationship” that is supposedly the precursor to marriage, and instead end up getting passed around by a lot of guys who were not very serious. The way off this Highway to Hell is basically No Sex Before Marriage, which makes Dating pretty dull, if premarital sex (“fornication”) is your goal.
So let’s appreciate here those women who, they say, really did hope to Get Married by Age 22.
Cornerstone 