My Husband Doesn’t Help Around the House

Fuck yeah he doesn’t. That is your job, not his. Are you some kind of invalid? Do you need “help” to do the laundry or vacuum? When he comes home from work, it should all be done. Get to work, bitch!

Men do typically work around the house. Mostly, this is repair and maintenance, and sometimes, yardwork. But this is not “helping,” it is just doing. A man does not “help” his wife paint the exterior walls or fix the faucet. He just does it. Either his wife helps him, or she doesn’t. Sometimes, if he is very busy and can afford it, he hires a handyman or gardener to take care of those things. So, you know that when a wife complains about him not “helping,” she is just being a whiney lazyass.

With the advent of full-time working mothers, which I do not recommend, some traditional wifely duties had to be split with husbands, making each equally overworked. If there are two full-time working parents, this is OK. If a wife works part-time, it is not OK. Get your housework done. That’s why you are only working outside the house part-time. And it is not at all acceptable for a stay-at-home wife and mother. A stay-at-home wife and mother should do all her traditional duties, and then ask: “What else can I do to support and improve our household?” She should aim to help more.

Sometimes, a man will help, simply because he wants to help his wife with her duties. This is a sort of gift. Unfortunately, women often take this as an opportunity to foist her duties off on her husband. If he helps once, then she immediately assumes that he has lifted that responsibility off her shoulders forever. Then, when he doesn’t do it again, she starts complaining. Now look at this from the man’s perspective: I helped you with your work, just to be nice. But, all I got for it was a bunch of whiney complaining horseshit. A smart man concludes: I will never do that again. If your husband helps you with your duties, look on it as a one-time gift. Be thankful and grateful. Do not expect it to ever happen again. If you are thankful and do not expect it to happen again, he will probably be helpful again sometime.

But, I think it may be best for husbands to never overstep into their wives’ responsibilities. The better sort of wife doesn’t want this kind of help, even when offered. She would rather stay up until midnight washing the dishes, while you are already asleep, than have you help her. She doesn’t want to be married to a man that does women’s work. Her husband is not a Kitchen Bitch. She doesn’t want to be the kind of wife that can’t handle her responsibilities, like some kind of invalid.

So, unless you are a full-time working wife and mother, the traditional and proper response to this kind of whingeing is: A good stiff beating with a rod.