Complaining Is Not Enough.

Welcome to my blog. Its purpose is to explore various topics regarding sex, marriage and family — an area with many problems today, as has been amply explored by the “red pill community.” They have done an excellent job of analysis and description. But, little has been said about solutions, and this persistent lack has been troubling me, so I will take it up. I tried doing a little bit via YouTube, the preferred medium these days it seems, but I am not suited to it. So, I will join with Dalrock, Rollo Tomassi and others in print. Like Dalrock, I am happily married, for seventeen years, and have a son. (Yes, it really is “happily,” perhaps because my wife is Japanese, and her English even now is bad enough that she is isolated from Western media and the society of Western women.) Perhaps I would like to have my son, when he is older, to have some kind of woman available besides wasted harlots.
In general, I am a Traditionalist. This is different than today’s TradCons, which Dalrock (among many) have rightly eviscerated. But one thing you can say about Traditional solutions is that they have actually worked, in real life, for a long period of time, and produced good results. You could invent some kind of new solution, but Utopian dreams sometimes don’t work out. I am not a Christian, although I find that they are my natural allies, so I am Christian-friendly. Ezra Pound once did a broad review of spiritual traditions, including many in the East. He eventually decided to become a Christian (specifically, an Anglican), not because he was not aware of the many failings of the Anglican Church in his day, but because he realized that, if he wanted to gain the advantages that come from cooperation with like-minded people, he would have to join some kind of existing community.
I say often that “you have to tell women what to do.” They seem to be incapable of organizing their actions without external leadership. This leadership may come in the form of individual vision, or it may come in the form of social norms, in-group behavior, and the artificially-created “social norms” and “in-group behavior” manufactured by the Cultural Marxists in music, television and movies. Women have a choice of which leadership they choose. But, they seem to lack the masculine capability of analysis and description, awareness of longer-term cause and effect, and also based on this, invention of definite solutions, independent of existing norms. Without someone else to do these things, who they can follow, they are rudderless. Some women are quite intelligent, but this ability is usually channeled entirely toward the Rationalization Hamster, and also lies, manipulation, and deceit. (This is basically the Rationalization Hamster applied to others.) But along with this, women are open to suggestion. If some men start telling women what to do, and it seems to them an attractive proposition, some women will follow.
And so, although you can lament the present condition of women in the U.S. and the West today, unless you tell them what to do, they will not change. It is not enough to say “I don’t like this and I don’t like that.” Eliminating options and identifying problems are important steps toward figuring out What To Do, but do not create a solution in themselves. Along with this, men have to clarify what they want. Today, we lament the fact that most women today are unfit to be wives and mothers, and are frankly dangerous and destructive in those roles. And yet, we seem to like having a large supply of sluts on ready call, so we have been perhaps a little hesitant to say: don’t be sluts. Obviously, we are going to have to make some decisions here. Are you ready for a world in which women are sexually unavailable until after your wedding day?
Unfortunately, by focusing on analysis and description of present conditions, men are, in a way, telling women what to do. Men say that “all women are like that.” Women hear this, and, following what they are being told by men, as is their nature, behave in the manner that such men say they behave. While it is true that women certainly have the potential to be “like that,” and today that potential is reality, it is also true that, in the past, they were not like that. Just as there is “women’s nature,” there is also “men’s nature.” For example, men have the potential for domination and plunder, that we see in every gang or group of bandits, and which anthropologists have recorded in primitive human societies around the world. And yet, most men today are not like that. The difference is part of what we call: civilization.
Thus, I want to focus on concrete, specific solutions. For example, there is near-universal agreement that today’s laws regarding divorce, sexual assault, domestic violence and other interactions between men and women are grossly anti-male and dysfunctional today. But, you rarely hear anyone say what, then, the laws should be. If you were to change it, what would you do? In the past (before 1970), for example, divorce required either mutual consent and terms acceptable to both parties, or, for a unilateral divorce, abridgement of certain conditions, notably adultery or serious domestic violence, with evidence that would hold up in jury trial. In another example from history, divorce among the ancient Romans would result in the man keeping the children. This served as a double preventative: most women would avoid divorce if it meant being separated from her children; and also, a man looking for a younger, sexier wife would probably be handicapped by having custody of his children. This would naturally require someone to handle childcare; and what better (or cheaper) person than the children’s natural mother? At the same time, a younger, sexier women would probably not be very interested in caring for another woman’s offspring.
Besides not telling women what to do, men today are bizarrely, pathologically politically inactive. Men need to join together and get things done to change the laws, just as men have always done to produce any change. Look around you: who is going to do it, if not men? At the very least, men should support existing men’s rights organizations. It is true that they have been woefully ineffective. But, more money would probably help fix that. Any man who is unwilling to give $25 to an existing MRA organization deserves everything he gets. This is evidence of extreme learned helplessness. Think of it like doing political pushups. If you can’t do even one pushup, you are in bad shape my friend. Get over your learned helplessness. Give another $25 to the YouTube Redpill personality of your choice. Divorce law is State law, so eventually there will have to be an MRA organization for each state, which lobbies and informs State legislators: the Ohio Society for Men’s Rights. If all concerned men were giving $100 a year in total to the cause, there would be enough money around that other men would have the funding to establish such organizations. Unfortunately, most men cannot risk too much opprobrium, as it jeopardizes their livelihoods. Thus, we need specialists, whose livelihood is itself based on objecting to the status quo, and who can serve as professional lightning rods.
Men are the builders of civilization, not only in steel and concrete, but also in laws and principles. Women nurture the creations of the men of their choice. So: start building.

My Husband Doesn’t Help Around the House

Fuck yeah he doesn’t. That is your job, not his. Are you some kind of invalid? Do you need “help” to do the laundry or vacuum? When he comes home from work, it should all be done. Get to work, bitch!

Men do typically work around the house. Mostly, this is repair and maintenance, and sometimes, yardwork. But this is not “helping,” it is just doing. A man does not “help” his wife paint the exterior walls or fix the faucet. He just does it. Either his wife helps him, or she doesn’t. Sometimes, if he is very busy and can afford it, he hires a handyman or gardener to take care of those things. So, you know that when a wife complains about him not “helping,” she is just being a whiney lazyass.

With the advent of full-time working mothers, which I do not recommend, some traditional wifely duties had to be split with husbands, making each equally overworked. If there are two full-time working parents, this is OK. If a wife works part-time, it is not OK. Get your housework done. That’s why you are only working outside the house part-time. And it is not at all acceptable for a stay-at-home wife and mother. A stay-at-home wife and mother should do all her traditional duties, and then ask: “What else can I do to support and improve our household?” She should aim to help more.

Sometimes, a man will help, simply because he wants to help his wife with her duties. This is a sort of gift. Unfortunately, women often take this as an opportunity to foist her duties off on her husband. If he helps once, then she immediately assumes that he has lifted that responsibility off her shoulders forever. Then, when he doesn’t do it again, she starts complaining. Now look at this from the man’s perspective: I helped you with your work, just to be nice. But, all I got for it was a bunch of whiney complaining horseshit. A smart man concludes: I will never do that again. If your husband helps you with your duties, look on it as a one-time gift. Be thankful and grateful. Do not expect it to ever happen again. If you are thankful and do not expect it to happen again, he will probably be helpful again sometime.

But, I think it may be best for husbands to never overstep into their wives’ responsibilities. The better sort of wife doesn’t want this kind of help, even when offered. She would rather stay up until midnight washing the dishes, while you are already asleep, than have you help her. She doesn’t want to be married to a man that does women’s work. She doesn’t want to be the kind of wife that can’t handle her responsibilities, like some kind of invalid.

So, unless you are a full-time working wife and mother, the traditional and proper response to this kind of whingeing is: A good stiff beating with a rod.

Being a Mom in Japan

Japanese women still have the healthy idea that having two working parents is strictly for poor people. Here is Moe, the “Kimono Mom,” taking it easy in Tokyo. She is known for her spectacular kimono and on-point hair and makeup, but here she is keeping house and being productive for the benefit of her husband and daughter. Naturally, this involves some serious cooking. Nobody needs to ask: “What do you bring to the table?” since it is so obvious. Not much goes on, but apparently I am not the only one who likes to see a 10/10 woman just being a mom and not wiggling her ass on TikTok — her YT channel now has more than a million subscribers.

But, since this is Kimono Mom (she was professionally trained as a Geisha), note how she wears her casual work shirt perfectly skewed way off the neck, in proper kimono fashion.

That is definitely pro level.

Looking Good in your 50s

A woman in her mid-50s should not be prancing around Instagram in a bikini. She should be married for 30+ years, to the same man, enjoying some new grandchildren, and not have any social media accounts at all. She should be wearing age-appropriate clothing (somewhat matronly, well covered), but look fantastic wearing it.

But, I think we can still give some appreciation for women in their 50s who are still looking good, especially those who avoid coloring their hair, using excessive makeup, or indulging in plastic surgery. If there was an award for Best Looking Woman In Her Fifites, we might have to give it to: former supermodel Paulina Porizkova, now Age 56. Nobody looks like this without effort, even former models. And if you were recently single, and you were formerly on magazine covers, and you looked like this, I can see why you might not want to keep it a secret. This is a very high standard to emulate, but I hope some women in their fifties will try.

And here she was on the cover of Sports Illustrated, February 1984:

For contrast, here is former Baywatch babe Yasmine Bleeth, Age 53, who now looks like most other American women the same age. She deserves no criticism for this, except perhaps for squandering her natural gifts. But, it shows what happens when you don’t make an effort.

Yasmine Bleeth looks dramatically different from 'Baywatch ...

Here’s a little montage of Yasmine way back when.

Aristotle and Plato on the Ideal Age of Marriage

It is the universal assumption that the husband will be considerably older than the wife: Plato puts the age of marriage for the [p. 2.134]man at from 25 or 30 to 35, for the wife at from 16 to 20 (Legg. iv. p. 721; vi. pp. 772, 785), and he affixes penalties for the man who does not marry before the highest age mentioned; Aristotle recommends 35 as the best age of marriage for the husband, 18 for the wife (Pol. 7.16).

Your Money Is His Money

There’s an attitude common among women these days that “his money is our money, but my money is my money.” A working wife keeps her own assets, while the husband is expected to pay all joint expenses. Of course “his money is our money” also means: I get to decide how to spend his money. This is horrible and no man should tolerate it.

Remember my rule: His Money is His Money. If a man is the sole earner in the household, then he decides how to spend the money. Typically, a stay-at-home wife will receive a monthly budget for her household expenses, decided upon by the husband. A wife can take part in the decision-making process, but in the end, the husband decides how to spend the money. Mostly, men will tend toward frugality and savings. Men are abstract thinkers. They think in terms of building assets, even if those “assets” consist of numbers in a monthly account statement. Women tend to be much more physical and tactile. They want something they can touch. A big house feels “safe” to a woman, but feels dangerous to a man. A woman “feels like” she has a lot of stuff when she has a big house, and this stuff is a buffer against risk, while a man is calculating the consequences of the annual percentage rate and insurance costs. Also, women tend to be much more aware of social standing. They want what other women have. Men don’t care as much. When they arrive at the office, everyone looks about the same, from the CEO down to the intern. “Social standing” for a man is more about his occupation and position. Women don’t care much about a man’s occupation and position, except to the extent that it results in cashflow.

Some men, even those who are sole earners, simply give their money over to their wives to spend. They have “joint bank accounts.” Never do this. Keep a separate bank account, and then, give your wife a monthly budget for her expenses. Control the money.

In this as in all things, the problem is that: Even if a woman wants control over the money, and even if she is genuinely better at handling it (it happens), she will never respect a man that allows her to do this. When a man handles the money, everyone is happy. When a woman does, problems are the inevitable result. After all, what is the point of “his money is our money, but my money is my money” anyway? Basically, it is preparation for divorce. A woman prepares for divorce because she can’t see herself staying with a man who allows her to kick him around in this fashion. It is stupid, yes. Men would not do this, to their wives or each other. But, that is what women do. They can’t help themselves.

So, we come to the situations where both husband and wife are earning money. I don’t think this is a good idea, especially when children are involved. Nevertheless, it is common. I will admit at the outset that it is a little difficult when a woman is earning a lot more than her husband — more than 50% more. Let’s set that aside for now. In all other cases, the wife should hand over her income to her husband, to control. Women are usually apoplectic about this. But, it is what many men do today, even though they shouldn’t. So, you are not asking her to do anything different than what many men do, and probably, what she is asking you to do. Then, give some of it back to her, as her monthly budget.

The Surrendered Wife (1999), by Laura Doyle, has a chapter specifically about this. It is a worthwhile book for many other reasons too. Basically, the point of the book is: women are happy when men have control, and unhappy when women have control. This is also true of finances. Indeed, I would say that if the man doesn’t control the money, then all of his other “taking the lead” actions are mostly theater.

At first, surrendering control of the finances seemed suicidal to me. I believed that if I didn’t police the money that was coming in and going out of our bank account, my husband would spend it, well, wrong. …

The unromantic mother/son dynamic (where you tell your husband how much he can spend or what he can buy) is the first thing to go when you let him manage the finances. Remember: Men are not attracted to their mothers. [She should say: women are not attracted to their sons.] …

I know that if you’re a breadwinner, the idea of turning over your entire paycheck sounds particularly loathsome. However, if you’ve been managing a joint checking account where his money is deposited, then he was doing the very thing you’re dreading. If he was willing to do this, why shouldn’t you be?

In practice, certain recurring bills can be left for a wife to take care of. This would be the electricity, cell phone, internet, heat, and other such expenses. Make them part of her budget. But, the big things, including large purchases such as furniture or appliances, vacations, and payments on the house or car, should be handled by the husband.

No Doctors

For new mothers, I would avoid all vaccines, and avoid doctors. The main reason for “well child checkups” is to pressure you to get vaccines. Just forget about them. If “refusing” vaccines makes you uncomfortable, then choose to “delay” them. For many years, Japan did not recommend any vaccines for infants under 2yo, due to the increased dangers.

Just delay, delay, and delay, until about Age 6, and then forget all about it.

Home birth is an option, although childbirth really can be somewhat dangerous, so if you choose to go to a hospital, that is OK too. But after the birth, stay away from vaccines and doctors, unless there is a real medical issue.

For a simple fever, Tylenol is a quick and effective remedy.

Don’t Tell Women That “Marriage Is Dead”

There are good reasons for men to avoid marriage these days, but still, you should never tell women that “marriage is dead.” This is because women do what you tell them to do. They really don’t have much analytical ability, so they have to, by default, go by the guidance of others. If you tell them that “marriage is dead,” they will hear: “The male leaders of our tribe have a new plan that does not involve marriage.” Then, women will kill marriage.

Or, they will look for some other tribe, since this one seems like it isn’t going to work out well. When women hear about MGTOW, they don’t see it is a rational, albeit regrettable, reaction to present conditions. They hear it as a plan. A Frame.

Rather, we should support the institution of marriage, because we really have no other means of raising children properly, and also, there are a lot of other benefits when marriage works well. In the past, before 1910, only about 5% of marriages ended in divorce. So, at least by that metric, it can work.

So, you should tell women: “We really need to fix the institution of marriage, so that it will provide benefits to all of us again, as it did in the past.” If you say this, women will help you fix the institution of marriage, so that it provides benefits to all of us again, as it did in the past. You should tell women: “These are the main problems ABC, and these are the solutions XYZ.”

Not all women, of course. But, some will join your tribe. Because, what are their alternatives?

How To Be A Wonderful Rich Guy’s Wife

The challenges of being a rich guy’s wife are a little different than for the middle class. All you have to do is follow the gossip mags to find many, many examples of terrible wives of rich guys. But, this also means that there is a very, very small population of good wives for rich guys. Since rich guys aren’t stupid, they know this, and are on the lookout for good wives. If you are the kind of woman who would be a good wife for a rich guy, and you put yourself in his path, he might take you up on the offer.

Don’t Make Problems: Being rich, there aren’t many external problems facing the wife of a rich guy. Obviously, you have plenty of money. If there is some other kind of problem, you can usually solve it by spending money, hiring some specialist to take care of it for you. It would seem like being a rich guy’s wife is the easiest thing in the world. But, most actual wives of rich guys are a dismal failure.

All you have to do is Don’t Make Problems. Since there aren’t many real, external problems, about the only problems are self-created problems. For example, here is Melinda Gates, wife of Bill Gates, complaining that Bill doesn’t do enough household chores. If that wasn’t stupid enough, she then complains about it in major mainstream media. I bet Bill reeeeeally appreciates that.

What The Fuck Is This? Bill Fucking Gates does not have to wash the dishes. If you don’t want to wash the dishes, then hire someone to do it. Do not make up problems out of thin air. Or, just wash the dishes yourself. What’s so hard about washing the dishes? Don’t make it into a problem. Are you going to be the kind of Rich Guy’s Wife who has a problem with washing the dishes?

In other words, wives must be agreeable and cooperative. No complaining, contentiousness, nagging, disagreeableness, or dissatisfaction.

Insist On A Prenuptial Agreement: As a potential rich guy’s wife, I wouldn’t just acquiesce to a prenuptial agreement, I would insist on it. If you come into the marriage with (relatively) nothing, then you would leave with nothing — perhaps, not even the custody of your children, if he would prefer to keep them. As a Wonderful Wife, this is irrelevant, because you are not going to Make Problems, and you are not going to get divorced. If your rich-guy husband really treats you badly (some of them can be a little freaky), you can leave. But, that doesn’t mean you get a big payout for destroying his family. If he initiates the divorce, which you do not want, then you can perhaps agree to a certain lump-sum payout, which is ample but not punitive in nature. This will tell a rich guy very clearly that you are not a gold-digger. This will immediately put you in the minority of all the women he meets.

Stay in Shape: As a rich guy’s wife, you must be presentable. This means figure, and dress. Just do it like Melania Trump. Work out every day, and eat healthy food. You don’t have to be a stunning beauty, like Melania, to be a rich guy’s wife. Seriously, 7/10 is enough, and practically any woman can do this if she works out regularly, eats healthy food, and makes a little effort toward beautifying herself (not too much makeup). This is because of all the other good things that you bring to the table.

Realize that you might have a lot of alone time: A lot of rich guys are very busy. They aren’t going to be around most of the time. Don’t make a big deal about it. He’s off somewhere else, and you can spend his money. What is so bad about that? You can mention that you might like more time doing something together. He might cancel some business and take you on a trip for the weekend. You don’t have to suffer in silence. But, whatever the outcome is, do not make a big deal about it, and don’t complain. What do you think a rich guy is going to do when, during the little time he has available with his family, you mess it all up with your complaining and horseshit? Do you think that, maybe, he will tend to spend more time at the office? Rather, focus on making your limited time together fun and pleasant. What is a rich guy going to do when faced with the choice of spending fun and pleasant time with you, and heading back to the office? This is not very hard to figure out, but most rich guy’s wives blow it.

Don’t spend stupid amounts of money. You can spend on things appropriate for a rich guy’s wife. Of course you will have nice clothes and a fancy car, and regular lunches in high-end restaurants with your lady friends. But, don’t get into a spiral of materialism, where you are buying five new outfits every weekend that you will never wear. Don’t insist on owning stupidly expensive stuff because some other rich guy’s wife has it — a vacation property in Vail, or a private jet, or a Bentley. Just drive your Lexus, get a hotel on vacation, and don’t worry about it. Be content. Because, if you aren’t content with your wealthy lifestyle as it is, you won’t be content with anything. So, practice being content.

Take Good Care of your Man: Being rich often comes with many challenges. Be supportive and caring for your husband. At the very least, do not make new problems to add to his existing problems. But, after you have done that, you can then start making things better for him. Give him a back massage and listen to his problems, if he wants to share them with you.

Take Care of your Wifely Duties: Mostly, this is likely to be childcare, housekeeping and home decorating. But, instead of doing it yourself, as a middle-class wife would, you might be hiring others to do this. Anyway, get it done at a high standard. But, also, don’t waste your husband’s time and energy with these things. He does not want to get into a big discussion about what the color of the paint in the third bathroom of your second vacation house should be. He has other things to worry about.

Don’t Drink or Do Drugs. Unfortunately, some wives get bored, and they end up drinking and doing drugs. Do not do this. From time to time, you might become pleasantly tipsy with your Rich Guy, followed by hot sex. But, don’t do drugs even if he does.

Initiate Sex Regularly. Ask him if he wants to do it. Don’t wait for him to ask you; at least, not all the time. Wear lingerie without having him ask you. No dead bedrooms. Plus, Be A Sex Goddess.

Be Unfailingly Faithful. Absolutely no fooling around. Be a Model Wife. Do not get involved with your personal trainer or tennis instructor — even if all your other rich guy’s wife friends are. No “girls’ night out,” which can easily lead to “girls’ week in Spain together,” even if other men’s wives do this.

Accept His Fooling Around. Women are throwing themselves at rich guys all the time. “They let you grab them by the pussy,” as Donald Trump once said. But, rich guys don’t get rich by doing stupid things. Mostly, they won’t jeapoardize their families or reputation. They won’t dump you for another woman, even if you are afraid of that. Sometimes, there are weird sex freaks, such as Jeffrey Epstein and his friends. Then, you might be best off just leaving. But, most men are not like that. I would tell your husband that you do not like his fooling around, and that you don’t want him to jeapoardize the family (and your cushy position as his wife). You don’t want him to give you any diseases, or waste a lot of his money on other women. Tell him to keep it in a separate compartment, away from you and the children. Tell him also, that you will remain unfailingly faithful no matter what he does. Also, being perfectly faithful, you also expect some attention yourself from time to time. He will likely be shamed into, at least, rolling it back. Just do it like Jackie Kennedy. Don’t get divorced over it. Get into the idea of being competitive; in other words, be more of a Sex Goddess than the other women. This is not very difficult. That 25yo 10/10 Hot Side Chick is 50%+ likely to be a frigid starfish. If you are in good shape and also a Sex Goddess, you can be his best option well into your forties or even fifties. You don’t want to get into: “I am mad at you for fooling around with a younger, hotter woman, so I refuse to have sex with you.” Like that is going to work. Like a rich guy doesn’t have options, and has to put up with this. But, a lot of women try it anyway.

A Sex Goddess doesn’t fake it. She knows how to have a good time, for real.

It would be best if, as a Sex Goddess with a slim, firm body even at your age, who is also perfectly faithful, and initiates sex herself from time to time, you were enough for a rich man. For many rich men, it is enough; and they devote their remaining energies elsewhere. There is no need to be gluttonous. But, maybe you are not so lucky. Maybe you are afraid that you will be replaced by a younger, hotter woman. But, you might consider that, if a rich man can be married to a Wonderful Wife like yourself, and also discreetly get some hot action on the side, this is a much better situation for him than dumping you, and marrying a younger, hotter woman, who is 99%+ likely NOT to be a Wonderful Wife, because women who are fooling around with married men just don’t work out well. In a divorce, either you are going to get the children, or he will. In the first case, he will lose his children, which can be very traumatic for men. In the second case, someone needs to take care of the children; and, who better than their own biological mother; especially if, in all other things, she is a Wonderful Wife? He won’t replace you.

Raise his children well: A lot of child-raising duties can be outsourced to others. Maybe they will go off to boarding school at the age of 12. However, you should still be a great mother to your children, and take an active role in raising them. Sometimes, rich guy’s wives want to act like they aren’t even mothers at all. They are off in Switzerland for three weeks, abandoning their children at home, who end up making friends with the cleaning staff at the country club because there are no other adults to care for them. Also, no hireling, such as a nanny or governor, is ever going to have the close connection that a real mother has. A rich guy’s wife might get involved in many childcare duties similar to a middle-class wife, even though she can afford to pay for others to do it. Are you going to deprive your own child of a Mother, simply because you can afford to? Skip the nanny, and do it yourself. Breastfeed. Maybe, homeschool.

Cook: Maybe you and your rich guy husband are fine with a professional cooking staff. But, when a wife does the cooking herself, it shows a personal level of care and concern. Besides, cooking is fun. Become a great cook. Use that fabulous dream kitchen. What else are you going to do all day?

Do Not Associate With the Bad Wives of Rich Men. Most rich men’s wives are bad wives. Just look at any of the Real Housewives shows on TV. These are stupid drama, but alas, common stupid drama. Realize that, as a Wonderful Rich Man’s Wife, you are going to be very different from other rich men’s wives. Try to find other Wonderful Wives of rich men to associate with. If you can’t find any, then go with the Wonderful Wives of upper-middle-class men.

Don’t work. You don’t have to work. So, don’t. Taking care of children and home, at a rich guy standard, can be very involving. You don’t need to earn any feminist merit badges as some other guy’s employee. Do not get Married to the Corporation. But, at some point, you might have a little too much leisure time on your hands. Probably, this is when the children are somewhat older, and out of the house. Talk to your husband about whether it is OK with him if you begin some kind of commercial endeavor. Since you don’t have to work, make it something worthwhile.

Undertake Your Rich Guy’s Wife Duties With Skill: This means things like being presentable in society, and handling various social responsibilities. When you are at a dinner party or gallery opening, make him proud that you are his wife. Be a skillful member of his team. Write thank-you notes, and do all that social stuff.

No Plastic Surgery: Just say to no to plastic surgery, botox, fillers, implants, liposuction, and all the other dismal stuff along those lines. Just work out every day, eat healthy food, use a little (but not too much) makeup, and wear nice, age-appropriate clothes. A rich guy’s wife is a woman who knows how to age with dignity and style. When you are 45, wear clothes that are appropriate for Age 45 (that is, not too much skin), which look really good on you because you have a slammin’ body, for your age. Don’t try to look like 25 year old. You cannot, but will look bad trying. Melania, who really was a professional bikini model, doesn’t do that stuff. Wear a bra, and don’t worry about it. A rich guy’s wife, if she takes care of herself, can be a 9/10 or 10/10 for her age group, even if she was a 7/10 at Age 22, and rich guys understand and appreciate this.

Melania, crushing it at Age 30.

Melania Trump, still dressed like a champion at Age 45.

Melania, Age 18. Basically an 8/10.

Don’t Get Divorced. Just don’t do it. Except in some extreme situations, where your rich guy husband is some kind of freaky Satanist, there should be no good reason for it. If you Don’t Make Problems out of thin air for no good reason, probably there will be no problems leading to a divorce. Among college-educated women, women initiate divorce 90% of the time. Don’t be one of those women. If you do get divorced — because he made problems, not you — then leave with what you came with, or a modest payout, which still might be enough to live comfortably for all the remaining days of your life.

Your goal is not to bag a rich guy by promising to be a wonderful wife. It is to actually be a wonderful wife, to plan on that beforehand, and act like one even before you are married. Rich guys will definitely notice. You will stand out, among all the other women who are letting him grab them by the pussy. Because, that is all they have to offer. Just look at the long line of women who had the chance to be a rich guy’s wife, got married to a rich guy, and blew it.

Mostly, all you have to do is Be Nice and Look Good. Seriously, that is all. But, for some reason, most rich guy’s wives can’t do it.