It’s only going to get worse, before it gets better.

We can do nothing about the mainstream, which is collapsing into dysfunction.

We can only make alliances with others in the “Home and Family Tribe.”

Like alcohol, it might not be a good idea to ban porn completely. Our society is not ready for that. Maybe it would work in Afghanistan or Iran.

But, it is not that hard to impose age limits on porn. 18+ only.

Also, you could put all porn behind a paywall, with a minimum cost of, let’s say, $20. This could be $20 a day, or $20 a month, but it would cost at least $20.

You could combine these pretty easily, since a paywall typically includes some identity verification, which includes age verification.

This is quite easy and effective, so we should do it.

In which @KeenanPeachy explains how her right wing trad husband radicalized her, and how Gen Z must follow suit: https://t.co/0uldbG0IOC pic.twitter.com/NG3F9ANJKm

— Spencer A. Klavan, verbal billionaire (@SpencerKlavan) August 8, 2023

The Home and Family Tribe is gradually separating from the Go Your Own Way (men and women both) and Sodom and Gomorrah Tribes.

If you want to be part of this tribe, find them and join them. Mostly, they are Christian homeschoolers with big families — especially Mormons and Catholics. Here is Catholic homeschool and “Classical School” advocate Jeremy Wayne Tate:

If a man chooses instead to keep to himself — if you focus, you can probably retire by Age 45 — then do that. It is still the Golden Age of banging hoes. Most women are still Chasing Chad, even if they wish Chad would commit. So, Be Chad, if you choose that path.

This statue, placed outside a family court in New York City, does not represent most women of marrying age today, Millennials age 20-40.

It comes from a select group of freaky satanic nutjobs, of the sort that have headed the feminist movement at least since the 1960s, if not earlier.

But, Millennials, especially Millennial women but also men, are dumb as death, and tend to go along with what they perceive to be feminist “norms,” not knowing that they are being herded toward their destruction by freaky satanic nutjobs.

If this is what “marriage” means for Men — having your head cut off in family court — then no sane man will get married, or be the father of children even outside of marriage.

And women wonder why they can’t get men to “commit.” Look at the statue. Is this what “commitment” means? Apparently it is, according to the New York City family court.

Any Millennial women who still fall for this crap deserve what they will get, which is obviously: a future without husbands and children.

Millennial women, and men, did not set up today’s marriage-related laws, and family courts. Mostly, it was done by Boomers; and not all Boomers, but the freaky Satanic nutjob Boomers. But, they will have to play a role in tearing all of this down.

A recent poll found that only 55% of 18-35yos say they are “planning to start a family.” 25% “completely ruled out” having children.

49% say they “want more time to focus” on themselves, and 47% cite financial issues.

There are a number of things going on here:

Women, if they even try to establish a “relationship” (monogamous pairing) that now seems necessary to get to marriage, find that they are shuffling from one “situationship” to another. Online Dating has been revealed as an endless swamp of hookups, from which there seems to be no exit. Nobody talks to them in real life. Even if they do get married eventually, they are coming to realize that they will not marry the Mr. Big of their Sex In The City fantasies, but … an average guy.

Men are afraid that marriage is just a time bomb that will go off whenever their wives declare “I’m not haaaaaappy” and run off with the kind of Harley McBadBoy that she actually spent the first fifteen years of her sexually active life with, Age 16-30, before “settling” for the kind of man that would actually marry her, or anyone. This might be tolerable if a woman just disappeared — good riddance. But, she then takes the house, car, children, and most of a man’s income for the next 15-20 years. Even before then, marriage is too often not a happy cooperation, but a miserable sewer of complaints, demands, and threats that you have to swim upstream forever. Many men are concluding that, in this environment, emulating Harley McBadBoy is the only winning strategy, even if they are not really predisposed to that sort of thing. For one thing: if marriage was the most common avenue to regular sex in the past, it seems that today it is the most common avenue to involuntary celibacy.

This is really not good, but it is moving toward the kind of endgame that I have been expecting, which is a divergence between the “Home and Family Tribe” and everyone else. If you decide to be part of the Home and Family Tribe, then find a like-minded woman, who is not too ugly. This might be about 30% of the population. The other 70% we might call the “Just Focusing On Myself Tribe.”

The Home and Family Tribe will be, ideally, stay-at-home Moms who want to have at least three children before Age 30, probably with homeschool ambitions.

Those who are not part of the Home and Family Tribe will find that trying to “Have It All!!!!!,” or the Feminist ambition, becomes even more dysfunctional than it already has been for the last fifty years. The solution, whether consciously chosen or not, will be to skip having children.

It’s the only thing that makes the Feminist “equality” equation balance. This has been true ever since Mary Wollstonecraft wrote Vindication of the Rights of Women in 1792 — as a 33-year old unmarried woman looking forward to a lifetime of childless singlehood. She later became a Single Mother, had multiple suicide attempts, and finally married a communist (“anarchist”) before dying at Age 38. You go girl!

This is “focusing on myself.” This might be career. It might be giving up on marriage as an end goal of “dating.”

It might be the realization that children are very expensive if you are also working. Daycare costs about $1000 a month, as a national average, and in some cities it is about double that. Just this alone is daunting hurdle, but what if there are four children? Are you going to spend eight years pumping breast milk on your office breaks? Or will your children grow up on baby formula, or “liquid Doritos” as some call it?

But, for the stay-at-home Mom, children are not that expensive. They can even have negative net expense, because a Mom that is home breastfeeding infants, is not usually out spending money on restaurants, travel, clothing or beauty. Until they are in their teens, children don’t really cost much. Whether there are four children or one, the cost and the time is about the same — not much, and all day. There are even advantages: Children have brothers and sisters to play with. Maybe that means less driving around town for one playdate after another.

You can get by in a one-bedroom apartment, even with two infants. (I did, along with my sister — my Mom tells me that my first “bed” was a dresser drawer.)

You do not have to be “dating” together for five years, including three years of cohabitation — the average today — before getting married. If you find another member of the Home and Family Tribe, get it done within six months — or pass.

Women: Aim for at least three children before Age 30.

Men: Aim for a woman that wants at least three children before Age 30. Even today, most of the good women are gone before Age 25.

Otherwise, if you want to be part of the “Just Focusing On Myself Tribe,” go right ahead. Good luck!

Same guy.

You heard everything about changing your physique;

But there are fundamentals that apply to your facial structure and make it change too.

Recessing chins and droopy faces are on a rise. There is a reason for it.

What you can do to work on a chiseled jawline (revisited): pic.twitter.com/7JtBDIha3x

— Marcel (@345marcel) July 25, 2023

Can we really expect women to be interested in the guy on the left?

People are too ugly today.

In the nineteenth century, the term “prostitute” referred to:

Any woman living on her own, outside of her Father’s house, or with her husband.

Today, men tend to assume that any woman living on her own, for some time, is basically a whore. Whether this really aligns with reality is an open question. By many measures, it seems like many women are not having much sex. But, it is also true that, with the help of dating apps and social media, anonymous travel and so forth, any woman (even ugly ones) could easily add dozens to their body count in a few weeks. In practice, it is a spectrum. There really are pretty 30yo virgins, and also, turbo-sluts who still want to get married, and will tell any amount of lies to that end.

Apparently, men really are done. From several sources, I’ve recently read that male attendance at many typical meet-n-greet situations (clubs, speed dating events, etc.) is not just down 30% or 50%, but 90%.

Also, apparently some young people are avoiding dating apps entirely. They saw the “earlier generation” get torn to shreds, but that things worked pre-dating apps.

There are still good women, but they are taken off the market quickly. Probably, there are more 20-year-old virgins than there have been in several decades! I do not think it is good to go down the “blackpill” path, even if the mainstream does. The “home and family tribe” will, in time, segregate itself further from this mess.

For a long time, marriage worked something like this, in terms of the Prisoner’s Dilemma:

Traditional, 19th century-style marriage: Trust/Trust = productive cooperation

Recently, we’ve had this:

(Women) Trust / (Men) Betray: Most women’s experience chasing a string of “bad boys” and “Top 10%” guys throughout her 20s.

(Men) Trust / (Women) Betray: Most men’s experience marrying these women sometime after Age 28.

We are now moving to this:

Betray / Betray. This is where nobody trusts anyone. You can’t establish any long-term cooperation. You don’t even try. Any investment would be lost. Things become very “transactional.” You can have a transaction even with people you don’t trust. You can trade $100 and a bag of cocaine with the lowest of lowlifes. (Although even here there is a little trust, that it is actually clean cocaine.)

This is just beginning to become mainstream. I think we will see a lot of change in the mainstream over the next five years or so, similar to the “second sexual revolution” that happened around 1965-1970.

Generation X: Did everything wrong, and then got it together and got married.

Millennials: Did everything wrong, and then got it together and most got married.

Gen Z: Did everything wrong, and now consider it a lost cause.

Nevertheless, whatever may be the “mainstream,” or the average centerline of a distribution, I think we can still focus on the Top 30% or so of the better sorts of girls.

Actually, a lot of these girls are having a lot less sex than their moms did.

It looks like there are more 20yo virgins today than there have been in several decades.