Florida eliminated permanent alimony. This is perhaps not much, but finally things are moving. There is broad agreement now that divorce law needs major changes. There is not so much agreement on what those changes should be, which is a topic that I would like to get back to, perhaps with the help of a real divorce lawyer.
Divorce law, and related laws including domestic violence (Duluth Model), “sexual assault/harassment” etc., are State laws. Everyone should write a letter to their State congressional representatives at least once a year. They actually read them, and often give a personalized reply. Some policies, such as police treatment of “domestic violence” cases, are Local law. We actually have democracy, for now, so use it. Get up off your ass.
Not that long ago — in the 1950s and 1960s — “dating,” or the pattern of premarital sex that replaced the Courtship pattern, was something that you did for a few years before getting married around Age 21. By the 1990s, it was taking a lot longer than that, but still 92% of White women did get married.
Today, “dating” is increasingly seen as a trackless swamp that has no exit.
Yes, this is largely because women are chasing the Top 5% of men, especially on dating apps, that are not likely to get married at all (or they would already be married and wouldn’t be on dating apps to begin with). Also, it is because women overtly prefer those men who are not marriage-minded, aka “bad boys,” passing by those that are. Although much of the problem is women’s behavior itself, nevertheless, it isn’t working.
Women used to get married before having sex. And, this process did not take very long. You either got married, or the courtship would end, commonly within about six months. And once you got married, you typically, or ideally, did not have to work outside the house ever again! How’s that for “having your needs taken care of”?
But women aren’t really ever going to figure this stuff out. They can complain about the results, but as always, men will have to fix it. Mostly, this will be their fathers, if they have fathers. Or, it will be other men telling them what to do — church pastors, perhaps — and setting up institutions to facilitate marriages.
It should be clear by now that women just make bad decisions over and over again. They seem to come to their senses around Age 30, but by then it is too late.
I met a woman last week that seemed like one of those who deserves a decent husband.
She said outright that she wanted six children. 8/10 for looks. 10/10 for charm. (Very charming!) From an upper-middle or outright upper-class family. She is 37.
Now, it might be that she spent the years 16-32 on a cycle of whoring. Maybe all the promising men in her circle know this. But, maybe not. Someone should be picking up these gems.
Men and women are drifting farther apart. There is a noticeable chasm between “dating” and marriage now. Mostly, this is sensible. Men are more and more aware of the intensely anti-male and anti-marriage legal situation we face today. Also, most women do not seem capable of performing adequately in the role of wife and mother. Nobody needs to sign up for multiple decades of difficulty and strife, and increasingly, they won’t.
Nevertheless, there are some good women out there. Forget about the average, and the below-average, which is most of the women still single (that is, unattached), over Age 25. Stick with the Top 30%. Some circles are much better than others. The upper-middle-class girl from an intact family is going to be much better than the average woman today.
Here’s a woman who sounds promising. If she is not ugly (basically, this means obese), then she should get her chance.
In the annals of women who aged well, we must stop now and pay homage to Jane Fonda, who, in addition to winning seven (!) Academy Awards for Best Actress (and one for Best Supporting Actress), also was at the founding of the whole video workout genre, with the Jane Fonda Workout of 1982.
She eventually sold 17 million workout videos, on VHS tape of course. It was the best-selling workout series of all time.
Watch the video a little bit. Looking good there Jane!
She was 45.
Apparently, she did not only make videos, she actually taught live classes at that time, in Beverly Hills.
It’s good to have role models — even imaginary ones.
Mary Magdalene, as some people have always known, was Jesus’ wife. She was also his spiritual equal. They were a pair. Not many know that they were actually born on the same day. They knew each other from childhood, growing up at the Essene Community at Mt. Carmel.
The “Wedding at Cana” was the wedding of Jesus and Mary Magdalene.
We don’t know much about Mary Magdalene, except that she was very beautiful and had hair “the color of new wine,” which means: fresh-pressed grape juice.
She was the daughter of Joseph of Arimathea, and Mary of Magdala. Mary of Magdala was the daughter of Balthazar, one of the Three Magi, who was actually from Parthia, not Ethiopia. So, when Balthazar went to visit the infant Jesus in Bethlehem, he also got a chance to meet his new granddaughter. Since they were probably living at Joseph of Arimathea’s house in Jerusalem at the time, this might be why Balthazar went to Jerusalem.
This real photograph was taken in Jerusalem. After it was developed, it showed the image of Joseph of Arimathea and Jesus talking (on the left). The disciple Thaddeus is reportedly on the right.
Joseph of Arimathea was not only wealthy, he was one of the wealthiest men in the whole Roman world. He was a “billionaire,” making most of this fortune from tin mines in Western Britain. As you can imagine, his daughter grew up in comfort. She enjoyed fine clothing and jewelry, although she wasn’t silly about it.
She was the living embodiment of feminine virtue and excellence.
She had three children with Jesus. One son went to India to live with Babaji. One son went to Western Britain with Joseph of Arimathea, who also went there after the Crucifixion. (I am guessing that King Arthur was a direct descendant of this son.) A daughter stayed in France. Many millions of people today are descended from her.
Since we don’t really know much about her, at least from the usual texts, we can project our own ideals upon her. Wasn’t she a wonderful wife and mother?
Like alcohol, it might not be a good idea to ban porn completely. Our society is not ready for that. Maybe it would work in Afghanistan or Iran.
But, it is not that hard to impose age limits on porn. 18+ only.
Also, you could put all porn behind a paywall, with a minimum cost of, let’s say, $20. This could be $20 a day, or $20 a month, but it would cost at least $20.
You could combine these pretty easily, since a paywall typically includes some identity verification, which includes age verification.
This is quite easy and effective, so we should do it.
The Home and Family Tribe is gradually separating from the Go Your Own Way (men and women both) and Sodom and Gomorrah Tribes.
If you want to be part of this tribe, find them and join them. Mostly, they are Christian homeschoolers with big families — especially Mormons and Catholics. Here is Catholic homeschool and “Classical School” advocate Jeremy Wayne Tate:
If a man chooses instead to keep to himself — if you focus, you can probably retire by Age 45 — then do that. It is still the Golden Age of banging hoes. Most women are still Chasing Chad, even if they wish Chad would commit. So, Be Chad, if you choose that path.
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