The total fertility rate in Seoul, South Korea, was recently 0.55. This gets attention, but close behind it, with TFRs <1.0, are Hong Kong, Taiwan, Singapore, Beijing and Shanghai.

This means that, in each generation, the population would fall by about 72%. But, a woman doesn’t have 0.55 children. Here’s one example:

To get a TFR of 0.54, you would need 60% of women to have zero children; 28% of women to have one child; 10% of women to have two children; and 2% of women to have three children.

This is pretty amazing. 60% of women have no children at all. Only 12% have two or more.

Here’s another example, producing a TFR of 1.0, just to get an idea of what that means in real life:

Not all women are professional class. Those in the professional class have tended to have much lower fertility than the population as a whole. So, for high-earning women, take these numbers down further.

I read this recently:

Jack Reacher Won’t Ask Girls to Dance

And since I homeschool, and since my son is 13, this has a certain immediate relevance.

I’ve had a front-row seat to the social breakdown hitting our young people. You can see it in a lot of places, but one of the clearest examples came from a mom in our church who’s helped run a homeschool prom for several years. She told me something recently that I’ve been stewing on. 

When she first got involved, it was normal for boys to ask girls to dance—especially during the “snowball” dances, where the DJ tells you to rotate partners every thirty seconds. That’s the whole point: go find someone new, talk, move, risk a little awkwardness.

But this year? The boys wouldn’t do it. They stood around, clumped up with friends, goofed off, and refused to initiate. Some danced with each other, ironically of course. Meanwhile, the girls were standing around the edge of the dance floor—waiting. Eventually, they gave up and started dragging each other onto the floor. Some even went over and tried to coax the guys to come out. It didn’t work. There were 2 girls for every guy.

I do not think this is a “social breakdown.” It is just some confused teens — who have never done this before — and who come to the conclusion that they would rather just sit it out instead of going through some difficult process of trial and error.

From my perspective, the main issues are this:

Teens pick up cues from their environment, even when things are not explicitly explained to them, or they don’t watch Andrew Tate or any other such commentator. They pick up that men in general are not interacting much with women these days. You can blame MeToo in the workplace, or the recent difficulties in gyms. But, I think a lot of this is downstream from marriage. Although I think that young men should aim for the Top 30% of wifey girls, and form a family, the reality is that 70% of the women are not in the Top 30%, and they do not make good wives. On average, marriage is a losing proposition. From this, there is not a lot of reason to “date” with the expectation of forming a monogamous “relationship,” which itself does not appear in Courtship, but is a kind of degenerate marriage-lite, or Concubinage as it was known in the days of Augustine. This leaves basically hookups, or “friends with benefits,” which most men are actually not that interested in, sensing that it is basically immoral and degenerate.

The reality is, homeschool girls age 18 or less are about as Wifey as you can find these days. Probably 90%+ fit in our “Top 30%” category.

Male youths are low on testosterone. The teen of today has roughly the testosterone of a fifty year old. As someone in their fifties myself, I can say that, it is not enough raw animal desire to want to deal with all the troubles of women today. The Big Head overpowers the Little Head with ease. It’s been said that this commonly happens around a man’s early thirties. But, maybe these boys are there now?

Women and girls are too picky. Just as young men pick up cues from their environment, so young women tend to become too picky, focusing on the Top 10% and rejecting 90%, a pattern now made habit from dating apps. Men today go to events like “speed dating” and find that 90% of the male participants get nothing pleasant out of it. The result is that they do not go to any more such events, and also tell their friends not to go. This sense that “most men are not good enough” probably pervades the girls of a dance as well.

Dancing is stupid. The era of popular music/freeform dancing alone began in the 1960s and has now exhausted itself. In the 1990s, dancing was pretty degenerate and a lot of young people didn’t like it much, including me. Nevertheless, dance clubs and raves or parties were very popular then, and the music, although generally bad, was something you could dance to. Remember the Spice Girls or Ace of Base? Since then, the music has only gotten worse, and more and more people don’t like it. Dance clubs are closing everywhere. This is also something that young people pick up on. “Dancing,” as we have known it since the 1960s, is dead.

The point here is, parents should not expect, or encourage, young people to do these things, because they are basically dead and stupid. This ranges from today’s dance music, through the whole process of “relationships” and “dating” that parents did when younger. You have to invent new things.

But also, Generation X parents who are accustomed to being abandoned by parents when they were young, and making do on their own, should not expect teens to somehow invent things for themselves. What they will invent is — hanging out next to the dumpster behind the Dairy Queen, as Generation X did. Today, the contemporary equivalent seems to be chatting with each other while playing video games. In other words, parents are going to have to do the work.

Dancing is a nice idea, that we — that is, European White People, participants in Western Civilization — have done for many centuries. In the past, this has taken on very elaborate and ambitious forms.

The “high school prom” is basically a public school version of the “debutante ball.”

To do this properly, we need a few things, organized by parents:

Pretty, respectable music, that matches pretty, respectable clothing such as the dresses and suits/uniforms seen here. No popular music. This music does not have to be a historical style — Strauss’ waltzes — but that is maybe the best place to start. Also, no slutwear.

Specific dances that are practiced beforehand. Yes, dance classes. A teen should show up for the event already knowing exactly the dances that are expected. These dances have specific repeatable steps. No improvisation.

A specific process of pairing dance partners. Everybody gets a partner.

Basically, girls and boys should practice all these things, formally in classes, beforehand. The dance event itself is just a repetition of what was practiced earlier, with the only main difference being nicer clothes. The girls and boys should already know each other from taking dance classes together, and have experience dancing with multiple partners.

Then, everyone shows up at the event knowing exactly what to do, and having practiced it beforehand.

This “debutante ball” format is fine, but you can also do “square dance” formats, or other more casual or “country” or “vernacular” forms as well. But, I think that girls love to dress up, so a “debutante ball” format would be widely appreciated. In the interest of reducing cost and complexity, girls can simply wear a pretty dress, and boys a suit.

There are some things today that have some of these elements, but not all. For example, country “line dancing” has an element of specific steps, and a bit of organized social interaction, perhaps getting in a line. And the music is … good enough. But, it is still basically dancing alone, with no specified framework of pairing with other partners, or even touching them.

In time, you can invent new dance forms, and new music to go with it. But, that takes time, so for now we are probably stuck with existing historical formats. These historical social dance formats, although somewhat archaic, are nevertheless new to us, and present an interesting learning process I am sure. Probably we can enjoy their historical nature specifically, such as: “let’s cosplay Andrei and Natascha, or Elizabeth and Darcy, or Laura and Almanzo.”

Social dancing should be pretty easy to learn and perform. In the mid-twentieth century, people raised on dancing invented some complicated new dances. It is too much to expect this of teens in general. Only a few will want to master these difficult styles.

And so that is how you do it. This is necessary today, but also, more fun. But, parents will have to take the lead here, and organize everything beforehand, just as they have always done. Do you think that, in the past, teens organized a debutante ball on their own? They did not. Look at Andrei and Natascha above. Do you think they just improvised that dance on the spot? They practiced beforehand.

We normally associate morality with Christianity. But Saint Boniface, who brought Christianity to Germany, described the pre-Christian morality of the Germans in the mid-eighth century:

In old Saxony if a virgin in her father’s house, or a married woman under the protection of her husband, should be guilty of adultery, they burn her, strangled by her own hand, and hang her seducer over her grave; or else, cutting off her garments to the waist, modest matrons whip her, and pierce her with knives, till they destroy her.

Hoe_math, on Youtube, is fun in general. In this video, he takes what we already know, but puts it in basic terms that maybe even a woman can understand.

We will have to enforce monogamy, eventually. At the very least, make whoring less profitable, by changing the divorce laws. Until then, we are basically on good behavior. You have to find a woman who is going to self-enforce monogamy. Often these are not hard to identify, because they are virgins.

There may be more 21yo “never been kissed” girls today than in the last 100 years.

In the 1950s, half of women were married by 21.

“Cassie” has never been kissed. But, she has 3m followers.

@cassiesbooktok

Had to do this one

♬ Sweet Heat Lightning – Gregory Alan Isakov

“Annelise” dropped two new flavors of virginity: “never had prolonged eye contact,” and “never had a conversation with a male.”

Is she trolling?

Hookup culture has gone missing.

As you probably guessed, more Men than Women were in this category. But, the stats for Women also rose.

43% of Men — including married and non-single — between 18-30 reported no sex partners in 2021.

2021 was a Covid year, so maybe the figures have recovered since then. Or, maybe even with the bars reopening, they got even worse. We’ll see.

Change is here.

This is good:

These are by decade. The oldest born in the 1990s decade (1990) are 35 today, and the youngest are 26. The fuzzy lines seem to be projections for the younger cohort per decade.

The oldest of the 2000s group is 25, and the youngest is 16. They are not off to a good start here.

In the past, most women got married around 18-22, with a peak around 20. Men were about 3 years later, 21-25. This was the norm until about 1970.

Today, it looks like about 15% of the 2000s will be married by 25.

Today, I think there really is a cohort of young women who, at Age 16, imagine that they will be married by 22 and have seven children by Age 35.

It is not a majority, but it might be 15% or so. This is not a large number, but it appears that it is still a lot larger group than the turbo-sluts and OF girls, which get a lot of attention but seem to be less than 10% of women.

But, they just can’t get it done.

Of course we should avoid the sluts, the career girls, and those that accidentally got stuck on the cock carousel.

But, we should find these wifey girls and marry them around 18-20, while they are still virgins.

The total fertility rate for the US is well below replacement levels. However, even this includes about 40% of births to unwed mothers, and 25% among White mothers. What is the fertility rate among non-Hispanic White women alone? I think it is pretty low.

Hey White girls:

The White Race has a long and glorious history, that you are a part of. Keep it going!

Don’t make any babies with Black or Hispanic men. Asians are not so bad, but it would be best if you stick with your White brothers.

White Babies please.

Get married first.

Get married young.

No sex before marriage. Get married young, and then have a lot of sex.

In the past, the primary way that young women got married was Family and Friends. Mostly, their Mom helped them find a husband.

Plan on being a Stay At Home Mom, and having a lot of babies, at least four before you turn 30.

You can stay at home and live with your father until you are married. Then, you don’t have to learn a trade, and can avoid any student debt. You should still educate yourself, because you will have to educate the next generation (your children) of the White Race, and White Americans.

Read lots of good books. Mostly, old ones, before 1910.

I recommend the eleven-volume Story of Civilization series, by Will Durant. Learn the history of the White Race.

No vaccines.

Breastfeeding only.

Homeschool.

Cook healthy food at home.

Not too much screen time. I recommend NO screens before Age 6. It is very tempting, but don’t do it.

Get together with the other young White moms, and let your children play together.

Forget about the other bitches. Don’t imitate them.

What if we just didn’t “get married,” but lived together, were basically monogamous, and raised children together? We are effectively married, in “common law marriage.” “Common law marriage” is not just the State pulling the rug on you with fine print. It is the “Natural Law” that exists even without the State. Humans just “get married,” whether or not there is any legal aspect to it.

Sigma Frame observes that for most of the history of the West, this “Natural Law marriage” was the norm. The State was just not involved. It was like a live-in girlfriend/boyfriend relationship today. This is actually “Biblical” in the sense that it was what the people in the Bible actually did, when they “got married.”

With legal marriage a disaster today, both men and women are trending toward Common Law marriage as an alternative. Sigma Frame suggests that women’s behavior also changes dramatically when she has a Legal Marriage. Basically, she has the State to tear your arms and legs off at her whim. Men naturally avoid this. Mostly this is just feeling your way in the dark these days, but I think that a more deliberate embrace of Common Law Marriage may be a good way of proceeding until the regular Marriage Laws are fixed; or, perhaps, mostly eliminated.

This is more common in Europe, where young people are often establishing families without legal marriage.

I think it is good to have a formal recognition of marriage, or a wedding, but in the Common Law sense — a church service. An agreement between husband and wife, family and friends. Maybe even a written agreement, which, without enforcement of the State, amounts to: vows. Don’t involve the State. Don’t sign any Marriage Licenses or Birth Certificates, which, among other things, are an agreement to sell your children into slavery.