China seems like it is a little closer to resolving the problems preventing marriage. Many women in China, particularly the 32+ ones who are aging out, are admitting their error. This is very different than what we see in the West, where it is all denial all the time.

The talk out of China has been quite amazing these days.

But one positive development has been a change in divorce laws in 2021, and additional changes coming soon, which make divorce more difficult, and less dangerous for men.

Yes, you can change the laws.

Info on Chinese Divorce Laws: #1, #2, #3

In the US, we need people to lead the change in divorce laws. This happens at the State level, so it is about organizing to change State laws. This would be a nice weekend project for someone who cares about these laws — probably someone who was recently divorced.

China had a big falloff in marriages in 2024, but that still reflects the time before the gigantic marriage strike in China that took place over the past 12 months or so. Marriages commonly reflect couples that got together 2-6 years ago, or even agreed to marry a year ago. Marriage rates in about two years could fall a lot more.

We already know to avoid all “marriage licenses.” Here are two more legal hacks that might help.

Apparently a Rental Agreement, even of $100 a month or $1, that is actually paid, will serve to cancel claims of Common Law Marriage in States that have Common Law marriage. Of course we actually want to be married, not “cohabitating” without marriage which I do not recommend. A man and a woman are married when they decide to be married, and act like married people. But, in the eyes of the law, you are not married, which is good because then they can’t skin you alive in divorce court.

Here is commentary on a “cohabitation agreement,” which is similar, but I think an actual Rental Agreement would be even more effective.

The Romans used to assign custody of children to the Husbands, in the case of divorce. This accomplished a few things: First, we have seen that Fathers are actually better single parents than Mothers. It establishes Patriarchial ownership of the children. Men have to take care of the children, of course, but a woman that leaves has no child support claims upon the man. A man who has children is less likely to leave his wife, since the children need someone to care for them, and who better than their own mother? Also, another woman is not likely to want to take care of another woman’s children. (This is why there are so many fairy tales with evil stepmothers.)

The Case for Father Custody, by Daniel Amneus

To establish Father Custody, even in the case of divorce, you could use a Surrogacy Agreement.

Of course we want to actually be married, living together happily with our children. But, these are potential tools to bypass the horrible divorce law that we have today.

A singles event where there were 1000 women and not one man. What is going on in China.

Meanwhile, Passport Girls are coming from Europe to marry Chinese men.

After decades when American women were considered the worst wives, Chinese women may now get the top slot — according to Chinese men.

We’re gonna need a bigger antidepressant.

Norah Jones, the singer, has been married over ten years, following a seven-year “relationship” that broke up. She has two children.

She never revealed the identity of her husband publicly. It was accidentally leaked by a friend and fellow musician. (Lesson: Keep your marriage private and definitely NOT on social media.)

In her new album, she reveals the secret to getting and keeping a man:

All this time
All this time
All this time, I think of you
I think of you
Stay with me, I’ll make it easy
I’ll make it easy

Oh, I think of you
I think of you

(Flashes of you in white-hot heat)
(A moment in time, let’s make it sweet)
(Show me how to dream, show me how to forgive)
(‘Cause you made me love and you made me live)

All this time
All this time
All this time, I think of you
I think of you

Stay with me
(Flashes of you in white-hot heat)
Stay with me
(A moment in time, let’s make it sweet)
Stay with me, I’ll make it easy
I’ll make it еasy
I’ll make it easy

Young women, under 24, might be having about the least amount of sex in the past century.

This includes married women, of course. In the past, women did not have sex before marriage. Of course they wanted to. They got married young, and then they had a lot of sex.

In the 1850s, if you reached the ripe age of 23, seven long years after being “debuted to society” at Age 16, and you weren’t being cock-pounded regularly by the energetic young man of your choosing, well … sucks to be you doesn’t it.

Like Eskimos creating many different words for snow, young women today have been inventing multiple gradations of virginity. We now have “never been kissed,” and, “never held hands romantically.”

Here’s a woman who, she says, has never held hands romantically.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8d7KGsG/

Pretty nice woman.

Very nice.

She’s with Elite Models.

Literally the most beautiful women in the world are … not holding hands romantically. Of course they will, someday, with whatever consequences ensue, but if you were looking for a virgin wife, they are certainly out there.

Basically, no good reason.

The typical conditions before no-fault divorce were:

1. Divorce is allowed under mutually-agreed-upon terms.
2. There has to be some evidence, that holds up in court, that supposed “abuse” or “adultery” actually happened.

There was less divorce before no-fault divorce became common around 1970. However, it was very common then for women — including Christian women — to claim that husbands were drunkards that beat them. It was probably 95% fake then too.

Because of this, some churches insist that only adultery and abandonment are good reasons for divorce — apparently, this is also in the Bible. Virtually any human interaction, or physical contact, can be claimed as “abuse,” and don’t we know women did that then just as they do today? Even more, because they had to, to get what they wanted.

Whatever the situation is, a woman can always disappear and not come back. Then, she can do what she wants, except enter another legal marriage.

The problem — oh yes, the problem — with this is that a woman that leaves and doesn’t come back also abandons her children and shared assets. She could probably keep personal assets in her name. I don’t think that if a woman had a checking account in her name, or a property, that the checking account or property would then be transferred to her husband because she left and didn’t come back. After all, she might come back.

If she left, didn’t come back, and also took the children, then obviously she had to deal with the children herself. No child support (which didn’t exist before 1975).Probably the man would have some recourse here, since you can’t just kidnap a man’s children.

Now, she can leave, not come back, and the husband has to hand over all his property, and also a large portion of his income in the future, because of “muh feeeeelings!”

As the original Liberal Arts purpose of colleges disintegrates, colleges have been becoming more and more vocational. Here is a list of college majors for 2019. I would imagine the trend has been even more vocational since then.

We have to go to #13, Psychology, to even get the first (arguably) “Liberal Arts” subject. Anyway, it is not obviously vocational. Out of the Top 20, there are only two non-vocational majors, Psychology and English, totaling 4.3% of majors. English often does end up being vocational, basically as a schoolteacher.

Increasingly, more overtly vocational schools, teaching computer science for example, can take the place of these typically mediocre college offerings, at half the time and one third the cost. “Polytechnic” universities can teach science and engineering, with MIT an example of this. What is the difference between a “vocational school” teaching trucking and one teaching civil engineering? The latter is much more complicated of course, suitable for ambitious high-IQ people. But, they are both vocational schools.

The point of all this is to get Men, mostly, to achieve an adequate income without wasting a lot of time and money on today’s four-year colleges. Women should not go to college, generally speaking. In practice, probably 5% are actually suited for it. Student debt alone is a marriage-killer for many women through the entire decade of their 20s; and many still have debt after that.

Since they don’t have to get degrees in Mechanical Engineering, women can actually study the “Liberal Arts,” mostly at home with their fathers. This is history, government, literature and fine arts — which most women would probably think is a lot more interesting than frittering their youth and beauty away designing crankshafts.

Now women themselves are wondering when this nonsense is going to stop.

Autumn 2024 Update: Fathers still oblivious.

The natural conclusion from all of this is:

Perhaps 50% of men who are now attending some kind of college, would be better off with more overtly vocational training (although “college” itself has become more vocational as non-vocational “Liberal Arts” have degenerated into worse-than-worthless).

More than 50% of women now attending 4-year colleges would be better off doing something else, like getting married and starting a family.

The natural conclusion is that college enrollment should drop by more than 50%.

The bumpup in college enrollment among Men, around 1970-1974, can be attributed to Vietnam draft avoidance. Besides this, there was a plateau around 23% of Men getting 4-year degrees, between about 1970 and 2010. Maybe this is about the “right” number. Today, it is more like 33%. So, Men’s enrollment might decline about a third. I don’t know what the “correct” number for women might be, since this whole history contains a) the “Mrs. Degree” era of 1945-1970, and b) the “feminist” era 1970-present. Let’s just say it is 10%, although maybe 5% is a better number — compared to 45% recently. There have always been “working women.” In 1900, more than 50% of all factory workers were women. This was a bad thing, not a good thing. If a woman feels pressed by necessity to get some vocational training (nursing degree) to make a living, that is OK by me.