Should women not practice “hypergamy”? This is like telling men that they should marry fat, ugly women — a popular idea among fat, ugly women today, but not gonna happen. It is natural for a woman to wish to marry a man that is, in her view, more desirable than her alternatives.
However, in the past, women practiced hypergamy once — during the courtship process. Afterwards, she lived with the man she married. Today, women’s desire to keep trading up leads her to repeatedly dump one boyfriend for another, during her younger years. (This is known as “monkey-branching.”) After she gets married, she repeats this process, eventually dumping her husband for another man, or even just the potential to find another man. Along the way, several things happen: a woman is becoming less and less attractive to men, the farther she strays from her original state as a Debt-Free Virgin Without Tattoos. Not only is she getting older, but she picks up baggage such as children and tattoos. Plus, her sordid history just keeps getting longer and longer, along with all the emotional damage, hormonal burn-out, accumulating resentment and related bad habits. Men rationally conclude that this woman is not suited to long-term commitment, since her habit of breaking relationships means that no man can safely invest any time, money, or emotional attachment in her. Her relationships get shorter and more transient. Eventually, she ends up with nothing, except perhaps a few ill-raised children.
Another aspect of hypergamy today is the tendency for women to pursue men far above her “marriage marketplace value.” It is not hard for an average woman (5/10 to 7/10; we will exclude the Fuglies below 5/10) to have sex with a well-above-average, or let’s say Top 10% man. But, the Top 10% Man can have sex with 80% of the women only if they do not commit to any one woman. In other words, if a Top 10% man is available (not already in a marriage or long-term commitment), it is because he will absolutely never, never marry you, or even engage in an “exclusive” relationship of some sort. For a woman, this Hypergamy, in the form of a woman’s desire to have sex with and form a committed relationship with a Top 10% man, will result in a pattern of being repeatedly dumped, or “cheated on.” In other words, it will produce a pattern not of becoming a Wife, or even a Girlfriend (monogamous relationship with emotional commitment), but Friends With Benefits at best. Since this is inherently unstable and short-term, the woman soon ends up with a string of such relationships. In the past, this outcome was prevented by the practice of not having sex before marriage. On a lesser scale, but common in the past, it was prevented by the practice of developing a sort of committed (monogamous) boyfriend/girlfriend relationship first (aka “love”), to which sex is added some considerable time later.