Matriarchy Does Not Exist: Presidential Debate Edition

Here we have some silly bitch complaining that:

  1. Vivek Ramaswamy, at the recent Republican primary debate, criticized the moderator because she was actively involved in the “Russia collusion” story that we all now know was a hoax cooked up by the FBI working for Hillary Clinton. Certainly the Republican Party, in no need to compromise with Democrats in the primary debates, could get someone better? (https://www.youtube.com/shorts/EDqss9DKRbg)
  2. Ramaswamy criticised the chair of the Republican National Committee, Ronna McDaniel, because she has been a complete disaster for the party — among her failures, getting a corrupt anti-Republican media hack to moderate the debate.
  3. Ramaswamy criticised presidential candidate Nikki Haley because, well, it’s a Presidential Debate duh.

This dumbitchinese is, actually, typical for women in any position of responsibility today.

Margaret Thatcher would never have bothered with such nonsense.

We have to admit that, like Thomas Sowell, Margaret Thatcher was so exceptional, compared to the norm, that she was basically unique.

Matriarchy Does Not Exist.

Is 29 Too Old To Have A Family?

Women these days seem to be in lalaland. Actually, they were always in lalaland. They’re women! This is why they need men to Tell Them What To Do.

Here is a lovely woman on Lori Alexander’s blog, who quit her career as a doctor to become a stay-at-home Mom.

I am blessed to stay at home while my husband works, and I care for our 20 month old. I just turned 29.

It was always my dream to have a big family, but my parents always told me that “kids ruin your life” and “get your career and have kids later.” So wrong.

I worry now that I am 29 with one child. Am I too old to have a big family? Are three kids possible? I wish I had spent my 20s building up a family. I have so much painful regret. Please can you offer me some advice and wisdom.

Now, I could mention that here’s a woman with eight years of pre-med and medical training, with a new baby, wondering if she can have another baby at Age 29.

Okaaaay.

But, women are getting messages that can be confusing.

Can a woman get pregnant and have a healthy baby, or five, during her 30s?

Yes!

Can a woman have a family, at Age 29?

Maybe not.

If a woman is 29 (or 30, a milestone), and she is single with no prospects (a steady boyfriend likely leading to marriage), then there is a somewhat low chance that she will marry eventually, a precursor to children.

Recently, it has taken a stupid 58.7 months, on average, from first meeting to eventual marriage. This is ridiculous, but that’s the way it is. That means that the women getting married at Age 34 were actually NOT SINGLE at Age 30 (on average), but had already become a couple with the man they eventually married.

So we can see that if you are single at Age 29, your chances of marrying in time to have children (more than one) is perhaps not so hot, although the exact probabilities are debated. For example, this 1985 study of white college-educated women found that women Age 30 who were still single had only a 20% chance of getting married.

This was in the 1980s. It is so much worse now.

We saw that in the 1990s, only 42% of high-earning career women (like doctors) over 40 had children, way below the 85% rate for the Non-Hispanic White population as a whole.

So, if you are Age 29 and still single, and a college-educated career-type woman, the odds really are not so hot.

This means that you can’t just “let things happen,” because usually nothing happens.

I suggest this: tell people that “I want to have a family of six children, and be a stay-at-home Mom.”

This helps men figure out if you would want to have a family and be a stay at home Mom — which most careerist women do not.

This is actually a very different message than the typical career girl who says: “I want to get married so I can check off that box on my careerist resume,” with of course no thought to being a Stay At Home Mom. Barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen? You gotta be joking!

Some guy might just step up and say: “Boy have I got a deal for you.”

Also, a woman should forget about all the cultural norms that lead to 58.7 months passing between meeting and marriage. Get it done in Six Months or pass. Maybe a year if you dawdle. Some people take a year to plan a wedding! This is nonsense. It’s just a party. Buy some good wine and have a good time.

For men, there are a lot of good women out there who would probably like an offramp from the highway of careerist childlessness. I don’t know about this woman’s “body count,” but she told Lori Alexander that she has never actually tasted an alcoholic beverage, and never took birth control.

If a woman is coming off a ten-year “hoe phase,” then pass.

Marriage Without The State

Around here, we are searching for practical solutions. We leave theory mostly to others. But, we need theory to arrive at solutions that work.

Among our collection of convictions are:

That a couple should make an effort to keep The State out of their marriage, specifically by omitting any “marriage licenses” and probably retaining a legal “nonmarried” status as regards the State. However, a vague and open-ended “cohabitation” is not a good format either, in particular because it does not give enough stability for having children and raising them. In Europe there does seem to be an effective “common law marriage” that involves what we Americans would call long-term cohabitation with children.

Among Americans, there should be some ceremony of “marriage” beyond cohabitation, but that does not involve the State. Probably, there would be some kind of “marriage contract,” which we call a “prenuptial agreement” but might as well be called a “nuptial agreement,” which is probably what it was called in the past. I regard “prenuptial agreements” today as something like a Will. There is a State default process if a person dies without a Will, but it is terrible. So, any one of the middle class or higher should have the marriage equivalent of a Will, or what I am calling a Nuptial Agreement.

Mostly, we are using Nineteenth Century models around here, because they worked, and because they are still part of the cultural memory. However, it is worth looking into the foundations of this more closely. Sigma Frame did a historical review of marriage that has shown lasting worth.

Are Common Law Marriages The Most Bibilical? (June 3, 2023)

But marriages today basically live or die by “common law agreement.” A family survives because a woman is a Good Wife and a Good Mother, and does not blow up her family with cheating/divorce/nagging and all the other ways that a woman can become a pestilence to her husband and children. Yes, there are bad men too, but if we exclude those men driven to find alternatives due to intolerable wives, what percentage of marriages are failing (either through divorce or continued misery) primarily due to men’s fault? I think it is not many, especially among those with a bachelors’ degree, where women initiate 90% of divorces.

Reddest Of Them All

Some goodies from the Twitternet.

What occupation had the greatest percentage of Trump supporters?

This reinforces the data that the Democratic Party basically exists due to Single women and Working Moms (Feminists).

In the past, women didn’t need to vote. Their Men voted for them — either their Fathers, or, after marriage, their Husbands.

Fraction in US married by Age 38-42:

Higher incomes get more married, but have fewer children, until over $500K:

Conclusions:

Make some dough.

Get Married.

Stay at home Moms.

Lots of children.

Vote for politicians that share your values.

Not-Engaged Rings

If you are married, you wear a ring to show that you are not available or looking.

If you are engaged, you wear a ring to show that you are not available or looking.

If you weren’t engaged or married, you were available and looking. There were no “relationships.”

Unfortunately, things are a little more complicated now — needlessly complicated. Thus, some people have been experimenting with new rings that show you are available and looking.

https://pearring.co/en-us

There are also lavender rings to show that you are LGBTQ+++++. Kinda like: “I’m radioactive.” Works for me.

I don’t like the plasticky green look much, but one problem with other ring schemes (including “purity rings”) is that they can be hard to distinguish from regular wedding rings, and subtleties like “it’s on a different finger” are lost in real life.

Men Are Always Thinking About The Roman Empire

Men — OK, men over 40 — are always thinking about the Roman Empire.

This is because: Men are the builders of civilization.

Why is it that, for 500 years after the Renaissance, college education consisted of:

Learning Greek and Latin

Reading big books in the original Greek and Latin

???

Books like the histories of Polybius, Livy and Tacitus.

Books like The Commentaries of Julius Caesar, or the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius.

Two of the greatest leaders of Rome actually wrote books, and you can read them!

Women never think about the Roman Empire.

This is because: Matriarchy Does Not Exist.

Women think about: Cats, Baby Yoda, and other things that resemble human infants.

Nothing wrong with that.

Stop Buying Diamonds

A wedding engagement is a big deal. We often mark this event with a ring. But, do we really need to make DeBeers wealthy by buying diamond rings? DeBeers created this tradition with the power of advertising, in the 1930s. After all, the appeal of diamonds is, in part, that the girl can go cash it in when the engagement/wedding/marriage goes south. “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend.” If you are going to get married, and stay married, what do you need a diamond for?

Rich people can do whatever they want. But us normal, not-rich people, especially people in their twenties who might be rich in the future but not right now, should keep wedding expenses low. How about a silver engagement ring? It makes sense that, if we mark a wedding with a gold ring, then we might use cheaper but still precious silver to mark an engagement.

You can buy a Sterling Silver engagement ring, perfectly acceptable, on Amazon for $12.

Any decent sort of girl should be happy about this, since it is the marriage, not the diamond, that is the valuable part.

If your girlfriends give you shade for your cheap-ass future husband, tell them either:

A) At least I’m getting married, ha sucks to be you; or:

B) We took the money and bought a new car.

If your girl complains, maybe she always was a gold-digger — or, a diamond-digger.