A recent poll found that only 55% of 18-35yos say they are “planning to start a family.” 25% “completely ruled out” having children.

49% say they “want more time to focus” on themselves, and 47% cite financial issues.

There are a number of things going on here:

Women, if they even try to establish a “relationship” (monogamous pairing) that now seems necessary to get to marriage, find that they are shuffling from one “situationship” to another. Online Dating has been revealed as an endless swamp of hookups, from which there seems to be no exit. Nobody talks to them in real life. Even if they do get married eventually, they are coming to realize that they will not marry the Mr. Big of their Sex In The City fantasies, but … an average guy.

Men are afraid that marriage is just a time bomb that will go off whenever their wives declare “I’m not haaaaaappy” and run off with the kind of Harley McBadBoy that she actually spent the first fifteen years of her sexually active life with, Age 16-30, before “settling” for the kind of man that would actually marry her, or anyone. This might be tolerable if a woman just disappeared — good riddance. But, she then takes the house, car, children, and most of a man’s income for the next 15-20 years. Even before then, marriage is too often not a happy cooperation, but a miserable sewer of complaints, demands, and threats that you have to swim upstream forever. Many men are concluding that, in this environment, emulating Harley McBadBoy is the only winning strategy, even if they are not really predisposed to that sort of thing. For one thing: if marriage was the most common avenue to regular sex in the past, it seems that today it is the most common avenue to involuntary celibacy.

This is really not good, but it is moving toward the kind of endgame that I have been expecting, which is a divergence between the “Home and Family Tribe” and everyone else. If you decide to be part of the Home and Family Tribe, then find a like-minded woman, who is not too ugly. This might be about 30% of the population. The other 70% we might call the “Just Focusing On Myself Tribe.”

The Home and Family Tribe will be, ideally, stay-at-home Moms who want to have at least three children before Age 30, probably with homeschool ambitions.

Those who are not part of the Home and Family Tribe will find that trying to “Have It All!!!!!,” or the Feminist ambition, becomes even more dysfunctional than it already has been for the last fifty years. The solution, whether consciously chosen or not, will be to skip having children.

It’s the only thing that makes the Feminist “equality” equation balance. This has been true ever since Mary Wollstonecraft wrote Vindication of the Rights of Women in 1792 — as a 33-year old unmarried woman looking forward to a lifetime of childless singlehood. She later became a Single Mother, had multiple suicide attempts, and finally married a communist (“anarchist”) before dying at Age 38. You go girl!

This is “focusing on myself.” This might be career. It might be giving up on marriage as an end goal of “dating.”

It might be the realization that children are very expensive if you are also working. Daycare costs about $1000 a month, as a national average, and in some cities it is about double that. Just this alone is daunting hurdle, but what if there are four children? Are you going to spend eight years pumping breast milk on your office breaks? Or will your children grow up on baby formula, or “liquid Doritos” as some call it?

But, for the stay-at-home Mom, children are not that expensive. They can even have negative net expense, because a Mom that is home breastfeeding infants, is not usually out spending money on restaurants, travel, clothing or beauty. Until they are in their teens, children don’t really cost much. Whether there are four children or one, the cost and the time is about the same — not much, and all day. There are even advantages: Children have brothers and sisters to play with. Maybe that means less driving around town for one playdate after another.

You can get by in a one-bedroom apartment, even with two infants. (I did, along with my sister — my Mom tells me that my first “bed” was a dresser drawer.)

You do not have to be “dating” together for five years, including three years of cohabitation — the average today — before getting married. If you find another member of the Home and Family Tribe, get it done within six months — or pass.

Women: Aim for at least three children before Age 30.

Men: Aim for a woman that wants at least three children before Age 30. Even today, most of the good women are gone before Age 25.

Otherwise, if you want to be part of the “Just Focusing On Myself Tribe,” go right ahead. Good luck!

Same guy.

You heard everything about changing your physique;

But there are fundamentals that apply to your facial structure and make it change too.

Recessing chins and droopy faces are on a rise. There is a reason for it.

What you can do to work on a chiseled jawline (revisited): pic.twitter.com/7JtBDIha3x

— Marcel (@345marcel) July 25, 2023

Can we really expect women to be interested in the guy on the left?

People are too ugly today.

In the nineteenth century, the term “prostitute” referred to:

Any woman living on her own, outside of her Father’s house, or with her husband.

Today, men tend to assume that any woman living on her own, for some time, is basically a whore. Whether this really aligns with reality is an open question. By many measures, it seems like many women are not having much sex. But, it is also true that, with the help of dating apps and social media, anonymous travel and so forth, any woman (even ugly ones) could easily add dozens to their body count in a few weeks. In practice, it is a spectrum. There really are pretty 30yo virgins, and also, turbo-sluts who still want to get married, and will tell any amount of lies to that end.

Apparently, men really are done. From several sources, I’ve recently read that male attendance at many typical meet-n-greet situations (clubs, speed dating events, etc.) is not just down 30% or 50%, but 90%.

Also, apparently some young people are avoiding dating apps entirely. They saw the “earlier generation” get torn to shreds, but that things worked pre-dating apps.

There are still good women, but they are taken off the market quickly. Probably, there are more 20-year-old virgins than there have been in several decades! I do not think it is good to go down the “blackpill” path, even if the mainstream does. The “home and family tribe” will, in time, segregate itself further from this mess.

For a long time, marriage worked something like this, in terms of the Prisoner’s Dilemma:

Traditional, 19th century-style marriage: Trust/Trust = productive cooperation

Recently, we’ve had this:

(Women) Trust / (Men) Betray: Most women’s experience chasing a string of “bad boys” and “Top 10%” guys throughout her 20s.

(Men) Trust / (Women) Betray: Most men’s experience marrying these women sometime after Age 28.

We are now moving to this:

Betray / Betray. This is where nobody trusts anyone. You can’t establish any long-term cooperation. You don’t even try. Any investment would be lost. Things become very “transactional.” You can have a transaction even with people you don’t trust. You can trade $100 and a bag of cocaine with the lowest of lowlifes. (Although even here there is a little trust, that it is actually clean cocaine.)

This is just beginning to become mainstream. I think we will see a lot of change in the mainstream over the next five years or so, similar to the “second sexual revolution” that happened around 1965-1970.

Generation X: Did everything wrong, and then got it together and got married.

Millennials: Did everything wrong, and then got it together and most got married.

Gen Z: Did everything wrong, and now consider it a lost cause.

Nevertheless, whatever may be the “mainstream,” or the average centerline of a distribution, I think we can still focus on the Top 30% or so of the better sorts of girls.

Actually, a lot of these girls are having a lot less sex than their moms did.

It looks like there are more 20yo virgins today than there have been in several decades.

Cindy Crawford, age 55 here, shows what it means to be a 10/10 in your mid-fifties.

Sometimes whores do right themselves.

Good for her!

Although the odds on the 20+ bodycount girl are not good, nevertheless about 20% of them do seem to work out, at least minimally.

But, I think that this often requires some kind of conscious abandonment and repudiation of the old ways, or “repentance.” This might take place in a religious context (and often does), or it might not.

So, girls, all is not lost. Indeed, just as the shrewish Katharine ended up being a much better wife than the naturally pleasant Bianca, often those women who make a conscious struggle to be a Good Wife and a Good Mother, end up being far better than those who eased into it somewhat habitually.

I do not think that men can really precipitate this conversion, except perhaps through the avenue of outright coercion — for example, tying a woman to a post in a public place and whipping her. But, men can make a few inquiries to see if a woman has rejected her old ways.

Barnyard Animal from 1000 Years Ago Explains how to Manage 50 Wives

Twitter anon “Peachy Keenan” published a new book, Domestic Extremist. It’s good!

The main reason I’m mentioning it here is because I think it can serve a certain role.

I like old, classic things. Young people need something to fill their minds besides whatever they see on Netflix or TikTok, the print media and popular music. “Nature abhors a vacuum,” it is said, and that is particularly true of young minds. Children and young people know that they have to learn something, and will suck up whatever is in their environment. You have to fill that vacuum with things of merit and value. Read Little House on the Prairie, Anne of Green Gables, or Ivanhoe.

I think that young minds, or older minds too, should be subject to “overpressure.” “Overpressure” is used where the external environment is basically toxic. For example, if you want to make a battle tank resistant to poison gas, then you pressurize the tank with purified air. The air is constantly leaking out of the tank, which prevents the toxic outside air from leaking in. Basically, read a lot of old books, of quality. For older people, whose minds are more “full,” this pressure of quality new material helps sweep away the old influences. If you read all of Jane Austen’s novels, it will help wash away the effects of watching way too many episodes of Sex in the City and Seinfeld. Or, maybe just read the New Testament.

But the problem with this approach is that it does not give a good idea of how to deal with today’s environment. Young people, and older people too, should have an idea of what we face today, and strategies to deal with it.

“Peachy Keenan’s” strategy was to become: Extremely Domestic. She was on the usual Feminist Life Track of going to a top university, and starting a “good career.” She might not have gotten married at all if she didn’t run across a more traditional, marriage-minded sort of man, who basically talked her out of her Leftist brainwashing. Even so, she tried to do the “working mother” thing for several years. Finally, with a new child on the way, she gave it all up and became a full-time housewife. Now she is the mother of five.

Thus, she serves as an example of someone who was not “born into” traditional family roles, as in some Christian circles or among immigrants, but learned it. And, she has developed a series of strategies for dealing with present-day problems. Along the way, she became a Catholic. She also homeschools, and uses select private schools.

Plus, she looks like this — which, if you ask me, is what a mother of five should look like.

There is not much we can really do directly about what is going on in the world, or the world we face outside the door of the house. But, we still have the basic ability to choose what we do in our own homes. Netflix might be full of garbage; but we don’t have to watch it. The supermarkets might be full of processed foods that are bad for health; but we don’t have to eat them. The schools might be Leftist brainwashing centers; but we don’t have to send our children there. Other men’s children might be addicted to Instagram and TikTok; but we do not have to give our children smartphones.

But, to do all this, you have to be at home. Or, someone does; and since it is usually the man out working, this means the wife. If a woman is not in the home, but is spending all her time and energy working, her children will be raised by low-paid hirelings; they will eat bad food because nobody has time to cook; they will be sent to public schools, because someone has to take care of them during the day.

Now, instead of a personal choice, we are forced into solving gigantic problems. We can’t just choose a homeschool method or curriculum; we have to reform the entire public school system. We can’t just turn off Netflix; we have to reform all of Hollywood. We can’t just care for our own young children; we need state-funded daycare. Of course none of these problems will be solved, at least before our children are grown; so, basically, we can do nothing at all.

Peachy goes into this in some detail. Her snarky style gets a little tiring after 200+ pages, but mostly it is pretty good. Girls and young women will find an example of how to deal with the problems of this day and age, which they won’t find by reading A Secret Garden. Girls of 16 or 18, who are getting flushed into the intake chute of the Feminist Life Track conveyor belt, can hear from someone who says: “Been there, done that; and this is what happened to most of those women.” Women who are already going in the domestic direction will be encouraged that they are not alone.

The Feminist Life Track was semi-functional for a while, but what was common in the 1990s or 2000s is crumbling today. Men don’t want to marry women who whored around between Ages 15-30, and who promise upfront that their careers will be more important than the man’s children. Women are finding that, not only are they unable to effectively combine career and family, as the previous generation failed to do, they are not even getting the chance. They are stuck in their jobs with a bunch of frozen eggs. I suspect that we are heading toward a time where even up to 50% of women never marry. This is just a guess, but I can say with certainty that 100% of the women who will never marry, were unmarried at Age 32. This is something that is happening right now. We just don’t know what is happening until the unmarried women Age 32 today reach Age 45, and we can draw a line under it.

If I had teenage daughters, I would read this together with them. Just read it out loud, and talk about it. You don’t have to do this in a solemn sort of way, like you were reading Corinthians. Just read it for fun, like you were watching a movie together, but it’s a book. Comment on what you agree with, and where you think Peachy gets it wrong. Do this before your teenage daughters go too far down the path of herd-following all the other girls. I think it would be interesting for teenage boys too, although not quite so directly.

Here are ballroom world champions Riccardo Cocchi and Yulia Zagoruychenko, having a good time together. You don’t have to dance this well, but it would be nice if you did. They were married in 2017.

Isn’t that romantic?

By the way, Riccardo Cocchi’s last name is pronounced: “Cocky.” Which means that, in English, his name could be: Dick Cocchi. I guess some people really are born like that.

We saw “Sarah Therese” earlier for her tips for wives. But, her whole channel is pretty good. Anyway, it is nice to see a pretty white woman of some education, who is married, has five children, and is a stay at home wife who homeschools.

If she can do it, you can do it! Or, you can marry someone like this.