I don’t think I like Warren Farrell very much. He seems to be basically a male feminist. He hosts “couples’ retreats” at Esalen in California, woo central, which tends to mean Feminism Central since Patriarchy tends to be very non-woo except at the highest levels — the relationship of the Patriarch to God.
Nevertheless, he is coming out with a new book, Role Mate to Soul Mate, which might be interesting.
I like the term “Role Mate.” I am guessing that is a somewhat negative term in Farrell’s world, as it is the starting place from which to arrive at Soul Mate. But, the problem today is that women, or men too but to a lesser extent, have a hard time being Role Mates.
In the past, it was assumed that pretty much any woman could be a good wife, within her capabilities. It was not very difficult. You keep house and raise children. And, of course, sex, which also implies: looking good. But, it seems that today, much difficulty arises because women cannot do this. They fail in their Role as Wife and Mother. This seems to be true across the spectrum, from the simple-minded girls up to the very high achievers.
I made a list of Five Levels of Good Wives. They are all basically the same — keeping house and raising children — but at different levels of ambition and effort.
The basic idea is that the Role of Wife and Mother is like a job. Like a job, your emotions don’t matter. Just get the job done. Hint: Controlling, Criticising, and Complaining is not part of your job.
Usually, if a woman performs the role of Good Wife and Mother well, then a man will naturally have affection for her. Also, if a woman fails in the role of Good Wife and Mother, then that will tend to kill all affection that a man might have for her. Because, who wants to put up with this crap every day.
May 20 is similar to our Valentines’ Day. Last year, a colossal amount of flowers changed hands, from men to women. But not this year. Something happened. The simps are gone.
Flower sellers, unable to sell flowers even nearly for free, ended up putting loads of unsold flowers next to garbage cans. All that a man had to do was pick up some free flowers and give them to a girl. But, no.
Only about five years ago, we would say that the great mass of blue-pilled simps will never really be changed. There was a little band of MGTOW-ish men, that might grow from 2% to 10%, not really changing anything in the bigger picture. But, a country with more than a billion people basically switched off like a lightswitch.
Apparently, the Total Fertility Rate in Shanghai is now 0.6, and still falling. This is interesting, because it is a whole different culture, with a whole different legal system, but very similar patterns. There is one difference throughout Asia, which is that there are a lot fewer single moms. China’s government actually banned unmarried women from giving birth — whatever that means. The lower TFRs in Asia compared to the US can basically be accounted for by the large number of births to unmarried women in the US. The married TFR in the US is about 0.6*1.6 or 0.96.
Professional women are having a very hard time of it — worse, I would say, than in the US.
This is why I say: You Just Tell The Bitches What To Do.
However, this also means that Men have all responsibility to fix things. Women won’t do it, but they will do what you tell them to do. Men have always had all responsibility, because they, in fact, are the only ones with the ability. Haven’t you noticed that women can’t fix anything?
In other words, things like divorce laws will have to be fixed by men. Write your State Representative a letter. It is a small step, but you have to start somewhere.
Young women should live at home with their Fathers until married. Ideally, this is not very long — they should get married around Age 20, and then it is her Husband’s job to Tell Her What To Do.
Increasingly, women are figuring out that They Can’t Have It All. Career, especially demanding careers, generally preclude family. High-earning men generally find it easier to get married and have children (although they may not actually have the children). High-earning women generally find it more difficult to get married, and tend to have fewer children, going back at least to the 1980s. Women who do get married and have children find that it tends to undermine their careers — which is why 40% of women doctors end up dropping out or going part-time within ten years. Full-time working mothers find that they are miserably overworked and can’t really care for their children properly. The props that helped ameliorate this problem in the past — mostly, public schools — have deteriorated to the point where ambitious women (all of them with high-paying jobs) don’t want to send their children there. This leaves private schools, which gets very expensive very quickly; and even those are not always very good.
Lower-earning women don’t have careers. But, they might have two jobs, which is just as demanding.
But, as we’ve seen, modern Feminism, going back to the late 18th century, began as a series of rationalizations by women in their thirties who did not get married, that they should have more of a role in society than just taking care of their elderly parents, or being part of one of their brothers’ households. This did make some sense. But, these were women who had already called quits on marriage and family.
But, there are two other aspects to “WGTOW” or “4B” that I think are relevant.
One is that women are just mimicking men. Women, as we know so well now, have almost no capability of analysis or even the crudest self-reflection. Actually, I think they do have the capability, to a lesser but meaningful extent, but they simply don’t use it. Instead, they borrow these aspects from someone else — possibly from the Leftist brainwashing outlets they are exposed to, or possibly from Red Pill sources. I am hearing a number of arguments from women that are basically copies of male arguments, but not actually appropriate from a woman’s perspective.
The other is that, now that many men really are Done With Women, even from the teen years, and with expectations rising everywhere that perhaps 50% of women will never marry, women really do need to prepare for living life permanently alone. We will only know in the future whether 50% of women never get married — when today’s 25yos turn 45, and we can draw a line under it. But, it is happening today.
You see, women do what you tell them. We have been telling them that marriage is off the table, and they do what we tell them to do.
That is why, we tell women around here that they should get married young (about 18-20, with stragglers done by 25), do not have sex before marriage, and live at your father’s house until you are married. You do not want to become one of those WGTOW women. A few will be consoled by their abundant disposable income from their high-paying jobs. But, most will struggle to pay the rent, childlessly, forever.
Likewise for young men, I would say: Build your career to the point where you can support a stay-at-home wife and mother, marry a young virgin age 18-20, and have a lot of children, for example three or five. Homeschool them. An alternative path is to marry young, also around 20-23, and build your lives together with your young wife. If you are not able to support a family this early, then your wife can work for a few years.
Most women today aren’t worth marrying. So, stick with the Top 30% wifey girls.
Girls, you want to be in the Top 30% Wifey girls, or WGTOW for you.
Related to all this, there needs to be a way for 18yo virgins living with their fathers to actually marry worthy husbands; and a way for worthy men to marry these girls. This is missing today. Since most of the daughters from better families are herded into college, you might have to pick them out around Age 16, and maybe just come to an agreement with the Father, sort of like buying a horse.
In other words, Make Women Property Again.
We can expect that the young woman would have a sort of veto. But, with the encouragement of her parents, and with the prospect of getting a house and family of her own — even if it is a one-room rental apartment — I don’t think it is a hard sell.
Don’t debate or negotiate with women. They are silly.
Just tell them what to do. It’s what they need to know.
“Rachel why don’t you tailor your message to make it more appealing to women?” Because you can’t. Unless you affirm what they already believe and are comfortable with, they react negatively. You just endlessly water it down until it’s not true. Some do confront the discomfort…
The Communists have always endeavored to destroy the family. This is an interesting account of the situation in Russia in the years after the Communist Revolution of 1917.
Here is the original article, but it is behind a paywall. And, who wants to pay for The Atlantic, which is sewage these days?
Simple Retro makes pretty clothing for women, that is not too expensive and appropriate for everyday use. I’d like to see women wear this instead of yoga pants 24/7.
Often, marriages are mostly arranged. The young man and woman might get a veto, if it wasn’t too important. (Princesses did not get a veto.)
But, even if young people are allowed to find a partner more organically, it was usually among a selected set of partners, with strong parental involvement.
One reason for this was simply to get young people married (especially young women), before they got into any trouble.
We don’t really need any more YouTube Channels. What we need, is some organization, even a single person, that takes the steps necessary to change the laws.
Mostly, this is State Law. So, you will be dealing with State Congress representatives. This is good, since they are much more accessible than Federal representatives.
There are certain steps involved.
Identify the problem. Collect statistics, provide descriptions.
Propose a solution. This will take some effort. I would get into discussions with divorce lawyers. Talk to at least ten divorce lawyers. Ask them what they are seeing. Ask them how they would solve it. Look into the old laws. What did the laws look like in 1960? 1900?
After a while, you will get some lawyers to draft some legislation, or at least the outlines of legislation. Then take this to State Representatives. Have a presentation of the problem, with statistics. Have a presentation of the solution, which describes its contents and why you think it would work.
The Representatives need something they can put through the legislative process. This is something that is mostly done, although maybe it can be tweaked a bit. Then, build a majority. You need enough Representatives on board to get something done.
One person can do this, in one State. Then, with that success, go on to the next State. Most of this is monkey-see-monkey-do.
Ask for money. Just have a place where people can donate. Public policy organization are generally not tax-exempt, which is good because then you don’t even have to worry about that.
Support such people. Donate $25, or $100.
Eventually, you want to have someone who is hardworking and effective. Someone who is getting something done even on a budget of $50,000 or so. Then, a wealthier person (perhaps burned in divorce …) can support that person. Give them $10 million.
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