Here’s Evie Magazine:

It’s akin to a bad movie where people seem to be on a race to the bottom in an effort to see who can screw up the most with the opposite sex.

I’ve heard of endless unfortunate dating incidents where people will unmatch their Tinder dates within minutes following their first, last, and only sexual encounter. In the car on the way home, they’re right back on the app, cruising for more casual sex. They quite literally jump in the jeep and leave, braving the walk of shame, where they unmatch said dates while driving off. The insanity.

Many women find themselves getting ghosted right after sex. One woman shared her experience: “Of course, some men ghost after sex even if you withhold it for weeks. I once dated a guy I waited two months to sleep with. In that time, he took me for expensive dinners, texted constantly, and surprised me with flowers and gifts. The day after we got physical, I never heard from him again.”

Ghosting aside, another issue we’re witnessing is men resenting having to be chivalrous and shell out money for dates. One man wrote, “The lack of consistency [around who pays] has left me wondering if the standard script of men paying for first dates is harder to find than certain rare bottles of wine. I think that now, with the emergence of so many dating apps and more frequent first dates, guys are less willing to cough up the cash on dates.”

And women across the board are entirely fed up with trying to find that one single guy out there who isn’t trying to have sex with them on the first date…while also trying to nickel and dime them and make them pay for coffees and go for hikes in secluded areas trying to score a casual romp in the bushes.

This is all largely due to the commodification process currently in full swing, where people find themselves getting nexted and ghosted, and they’re left wondering where they went wrong. With every “shiny new model” just around the corner, people are eager to nonchalantly pass up an otherwise decent connection with a person who doesn’t appear to check off all the boxes concerning their personal standards.

But people won’t commodify you if you don’t commodify yourself. It’s really that simple. And if you choose to have higher standards for yourself in the sexual marketplace, it will give you a leg up in securing a chance at finding a fulfilling long-term relationship.

So what can you do to increase your desirability in today’s sexual marketplace? Let’s take a look……

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Most of the reasons for these outcomes come down to women’s behavior, namely:

1. They only choose 10% or 5% of men, giving those men lots of options
2. They consistently choose men than any man can see is a Player or Fuckboy, and then wonder why they keep acting like Players and Fuckboys.
3. They consistently reward (with attachment) men who have sex with them quickly, and punish (by losing interest in) men who defer sex, preferring to build up some kind of connection beforehand — supposedly what women want, but we know that is not how they behave.
4. They play the “foodie call” game constantly. Whenever you see a woman on YouTube talking about her “fifty first dates,” ask who paid for those fifty first dates, and how much the total cost was, for all participants.
5. The monogamous “relationship” was a kind of degenerate form of Courtship and Marriage, and never made much sense, as Dalrock used to describe in detail. Women simply have not made good “relationship” partners, typically using it as a way of extracting the benefits of a “relationship” while also looking for a “better deal” elsewhere, or just whoring around. Basically “relationships” have not worked for men, especially in the last 20 years, reducing women to “situationship” status.
6. Marriage has also been a disaster, largely due to the legal ramifications of divorce, but also due to all the bad wives who eventually got divorced, including sexless marriages, nagging, complaining, endless dissatisfaction, and other Feminist horseshit. Again women are reduced to “situationship” status.

The basic pattern here is the degeneration of “dating” in all its forms, which was always degenerate from the start. Basically women will have to drop “dating,” because even for the woman who really does aim for a husband and family, she can easily end up getting passed around for a decade, in the process not only consuming her peak marriage and childbearing years, but also making her damaged goods for marriage by the time she starts to worry about running out of time around Age 28.

The solution is Courtship, which has certain characteristics:

1. No sex before marriage.
2. Get Married Young, around Age 18-23, more broadly 16-25, when a woman is at Peak Marriage and Peak Childbearing years, and also, because asking a woman to be celibate for a decade and get married at Age 28 is both stupid and impossible.
3. No “Relationships” before marriage. Get married, or don’t. But, don’t spend 3-5 years in some kind of sexless limbo. A woman can be Engaged, even for an extended period of time (perhaps until she finishes college), but otherwise, a woman can entertain other Suitors.

But as we look at this long list of problems, and our proposed solution, we can see that at no point was “desirability in the sexual marketplace” a problem. The fact of the matter is, most any 22yo woman, who isn’t fat and who doesn’t make an intentional effort to uglify herself (tattoos/noserings/purple hair/bad clothes) — two things that are easy to fix, or avoid, for any woman — is sexually desirable enough for most any man. Again women are trying to bag that Top 10% man, and they think the solution is to “out compete” other women. It won’t work.

But, this is why we Just Tell The Bitches What To Do. They will never figure it out.

A return to a functional marriage process will probably involve the Christian Church, because there really isn’t any alternative to Christian Courtship as it existed during the time when Jane Austen was writing books. This is basically the same as all successful civilizations, including India and China.

Unfortunately, the Church isn’t helping much these days. Since I am not that involved in a Christian Church, I don’t see what’s going on. This item at Sigma Frame was such a concise and relevant takedown that I’m putting it here, as a way of planting the flag for the beginning of 2026.

Meanwhile, we have Lori Alexander over at The Transformed Wife, who is very rigorously and consistently showing how the Church should be doing things.

On Churchianity

The church in America has failed its youth in every way imaginable. Everything is the fault of men. They don’t encourage young family formation. They don’t speak out against the cost of housing. They don’t speak out about the lack of job opportunities for youth.  The only message the church offers — whether Catholic, Protestant, Baptist, Presbyterian, or whatever — is, “Young women should go to college and find careers before they get married, and young men can go f_ck themselves with their bare fists.  But magically, they should abstain from sex for a whole decade, and the man should forgive the woman if she is a ran through whore when she decides to settle for him and marry at the post-fertile age of 35.  Oh, and if men use p0rn in the meantime, they are evil.”

How inspiring.  Give me a break from this crass, fake religiosity.  I’m done.

At this time, men are basically abandoning women to their own self-destructive nonsense. “It’s a game you can’t win,” goes the line. Much of this arises from the terrible legal structure. The consequences of losing are way, way, way bigger than they should be. For example, let’s say you marry a woman and she turns out to be a piece of shit. Eventually, you get rid of her — either the trash takes itself out (most common), or you have to give it a push. This might not be that big a deal, if you keep your assets, and have first option on the children. If you don’t want the children, and she does, then she can have them. But, if a man wants to keep his children, he should have preference here.

The Garbage Generation, and the Case for Father Custody, by Daniel Amneus

For now, we are recommending that we stick to the women who really are deserving of marriage and family, and have some reasonable expectation of being able to perform in the role of Wife and Mother. And, we can’t be too picky here. Basically, the Top 30%, especially virgins under Age 22 (which are common these days). This figure includes Fuglies, which are not appropriate for men who are not Fugly themselves. But, we have a lot of Fugly men too, and many of these Fugly women are actually able to perform reasonably well as wives and mothers to equally Fugly men.

But, this is only a survival strategy, not a solution. The solution will have to be some form of “Containing” the woman. A woman, as has often been said, “takes the shape of her container.” She is, by nature, somewhat formless. So, you have to provide a container — a shape for her to fill, a role to perform. And, this “container” can’t just be imaginary suggestion. It will have to be “solid,” and “firm,” which basically means some kind of unpleasant consequences — punishments — for a woman that goes outside of her “container.”

This is an odd notion for many men today. We have been stewing in Feminist garbage for so long, that we still think that women should be treated like men. Men don’t need to be “contained.” That sounds a lot like slavery. Men are interested in Liberty — free expression of life force, usually in partnership with a Woman, and usually with children, thus forming a Family. Men are “contained” in the sense of Justice. You can’t harm others. But, besides that, do what you like.

But, women are different. If they are not “contained,” the result is chaos and destruction. Men don’t need “containers,” but women do. Women, seeking some kind of order to their inherent chaos, go looking around for anything that can serve as a “container.” Usually, this means the Corporation, the Government, the School, or whatever they pick up from the media. Bad things result from this.

In other words, men are going to have to Tell The Bitches What To Do. And give them a spanking if they refuse. Most men are not ready for that yet. At this time, they are giving women their Liberty — which is appropriate for Men. But, it won’t work, and pretty soon you are going to see the consequences of it not working.

Women are so confused these days, that you have to explain the simplest things. A Stay-At-Home Wife is expected to take care of the house, including tasks such as doing the laundry and cleaning the toilet. All of them. 100%, not 50%. But, anyone living alone also has to do these things, so this should be familiar, right?

These are “responsibilities,” but they are not a “job.” By this I mean, that you are not expected to act busy for eight hours a day cleaning the toilet, as you would if you had a toilet-cleaning job. You can just do it, in five minutes, and then go do something else that you like to do. In other words, just like living alone.

I actually think that many young women are terrified that, if they get married, they would spend eight hours a day doing housecleaning. Obviously, women are stupid. That’s one reason why we keep them at home to do simple things. When you have small children, you can end up with a lot of things to do. But even so, except for cooking, it is hard to imagine that housekeeping can take more than an hour a day, unless you stretch it out (as many women like to do).

Cooking is fun, so cooking for several hours a day is also a kind of fun. The Stay At Home Wife is also responsible for washing the dishes. All of them. But, you can delegate some of this work to the children as they become old enough — especially the girls. Not your husband.

A Stay At Home Wife without children typically has so much free time, even after all the cooking and cleaning, that she is considered a Woman Of Leisure. This is the normal state during the Empty Nest period, after 50 when the children are out of the house. You can go have a career then if you want, since you have so much time free. But many women don’t. You can just take it easy.

“Phoebe,” reddest of TikTok redheads, wants to marry an American. Or, at least she did in late 2024, at Age 22. Maybe Britain is getting a little too uncomfortable these days.

@phoebeisginger1

give me that BIG GULP BABYYYY #fyp #america #american #husbandmaterial #americanhusband #checklist #lookingforyou #usa #usatok #hiherwin #loveyou

♬ original sound – Phoebe🧡

And, despite having 1.1m followers, and being a 10/10 girl (if you ask me), and not fat either, she isn’t married.

Apparently, the actual experience of being a 10/10 redhead involves a lot of insults.

@phoebeisginger1

i’m crying over these ginger jokes daily #jokes #gingerjokes #redheadjokes #meme #oneliners

♬ original sound – Phoebe🧡

Yes, her TikTok videos are not very “wifey” (“Because I want to eat Captain Crunch every day”), but she is 22 (or 23 now), not a 57yo matron, and plus this is for TikTok content. Of course her channel has a bunch of stupid nonsense. But, she has 1.1m followers — and how many do you have?

Not a bikini model, but a normal healthy body.

@phoebeisginger1

ginger witch on the run… good thing my Huawei Watch GT 6 keeps up 👀#HuaweiWatchGT6 #RideTheWind #gingerproblems #witch #redhead

♬ Quirky Suspenseful Indie-Comedy(1115050) – Kenji Ueda

Meanwhile, SickWife has 300 men who offer to pay her medical bills while she dies in his arms.

@jellyroots

apply here: https://forms.gle/k8UmWiEiUhX4ZTEM9 #single #dating #sickwife #nova #dmv

♬ original sound – Kat

Phoebe doesn’t seem slutty to me. And she has good genes. We will have to stick with the Top 30%. Somebody go marry Phoebe.

Of course she would have to give up TikTok. You can’t be married to a man, and also married to your 1.1m followers. You are going to have to choose.

In the annals of bizarre things on TikTok, we now have Sickwife, a young woman with some terrible disease that “makes her body explode from the inside out,” (maybe it is Multiple Sclerosis), who is looking for a husband with good health insurance.

No, really. And, it appears that she is successful, with many men apparently volunteering for this role. There is some kind of lesson here for young women who want to get married. I think it is to say that you want to get married, rather than leaving things a vague haze of “relationship.” In other words, a sort of primordial Courtship. It helps that she is pretty, but not really that pretty. Mostly she looks Rich, which is because she came from a wealthy family (“I did Cotillion twice”), but apparently upon turning 18 they drove out to the Midwest and abandoned her by the side of the road, permanently, which is just one more weird thing to add to a weird story.

@jellyroots

very lucky I can do this #single #dating #dmv #nova #sickwife

♬ original sound – Kat

@jellyroots

apply here: https://forms.gle/k8UmWiEiUhX4ZTEM9 #sickwife #dating #single #dmv #nova

♬ original sound – Kat

Today, being a virgin is so unfashionable, that it is about the only thing a young woman says that might actually be true. But, this will inevitably change as more men begin to act on what they already know is in their best interests.

Then, we will have the flood of Fake Virgins. How about this girl — Fake or Real?

@ana_b_music

Do you believe me? #foryou #viral #eua #girltattoo #america #love

♬ original sound – SenpaiRei

@ana_b_music

Do you believe me? #foryou #viral #eua #girltattoo #america #love i

♬ original sound – SenpaiRei

Too bad she isn’t a Face Tattoo Virgin.

“Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?” asked Vogue Magazine. The article is basically Feminist Propaganda, as one would expect from a major magazine. Girlbosses can’t have even the attachment of a regular partner.

But, the recent popularity of this proposition reflects the reality that the “boyfriend” is becoming more and more nonsensical, and just plain dysfunctional. Women rightly wonder if they should really participate in this “boyfriend” crap. The basic idea of ditching the “boyfriend” doesn’t sound too bad to me. The term is inherently juvenile, as anyone knows who has tried using the word over the age of 30. The reason for this is that “boyfriends” mostly didn’t exist before the 1950s. A “boyfriend” is basically a part of “dating,” and “dating” is basically fornication and concubinage. The term arose in the 1950s, when “dating” became mainstream, accompanied by a burst in unmarried teenage pregnancies. In those days, they had the good discipline to often get married afterward. But also in those days, whether prompted by pregnancy or not, people got married young. The median age of marriage for women was 20. Their “boyfriends” were actually boys — that is to say, teens. Marrying your High School Sweetheart is what most women did. Among the better families, you often married your College Sweetheart.

Part of this was related to the rise of High School itself. Before 1940, most Americans didn’t graduate from High School, and this includes women. They often worked, and lived at home, while also aiming to Get Married Young, around Age 18-22. They were not locked up with boys their same age at High School all day. They were out working or, in any case, looking for husbands, in the ages of 20-35 — not Boys. They called them “Beaus.”

Today, the process of Dating, as a path to Marriage, has become rather silly. Often, even those couples that do get married, are a couple for an average of 58.7 Months (just short of five years). And, that’s just the average — some couples are, obviously, more than average. And that’s even if it works out. There are a lot of cases of couples being together for 3-5 years, and not getting married. And there are a lot of cases of women wanting to start the path to marriage, and not getting to the Boyfriend stage at all. They end up as 30yo “never had a boyfriend” girls. Some of these “never had a boyfriend” girls are whores. But a lot of them, I think, actually tried to establish a monogamous long-term “boyfriend” relationship, and failed over and over.

So, for reasons completely different than Vogue, I also think that we should ditch the “boyfriend.” Those marriage-minded women (who ignore the advice of Vogue) should forget about “boyfriends” and instead go straight to “Courtship,” which also means going straight to marriage. But, you also have to drop the entire framework of “dating;” in other words, fornication and concubinage. When you try to tell a man “oh yeah I was ‘dating’ some other guy, but it didn’t work out, so now I want to try Courtship,” that usually doesn’t work well. It is not actually so bad — a woman can learn and mend her ways — and these “born again virgins” can actually work out well if their previous number of partners is under five. But, from a man’s perspective, why not just go for the virgin girls, and skip these scratch-and-dent items?

For one thing, that 18yo girl will be 28 in ten years — still a hot item, with a high sex drive. After 20 years, she will be 38, which is still pretty young.

Once you drop “dating,” and “boyfriends,” women should also want to get married young (18-20), for the simple reason that 19yo women are horny, because they are in their prime baby-making years so naturally they want to make babies. Don’t fight it. Get married, and then have a lot of sex, and have at least three children before Age 25.

SigmaFrame relates the story of a woman who married young.

When my father started looking for men for my sister and me to date, we were flooded with dates by VERY ATTRACTIVE men. I am talking about doctors, engineers, lawyers — very high status men. Why?  Because we had a high MMV (at that time).

The man I married paid for a plane ticket (as he was living in another state) to come see me for our first date.  Why did he do that?  He told our sons the reason why.  Even back in the day, pretty Christian virgins in their early 20’s were hard to come by (those were his words not mine).

That is it!  Those were my qualifications. I was a virgin, pretty, and in my early 20’s. Just THAT got me a date with a man who paid for a PLANE TICKET to come see me. OK, it took a bit more to get a wedding proposal out of him (ha ha!), but realistically speaking, pretty much ANY woman could do as well as I did — IF she works her MMV to her advantage during the time her MMV is high.

Would you buy a plane ticket to meet a woman like this?

I would. Why?

First, we are not “dating.” We are discussing marriage — basically Courtship. Also, since we are getting to the fly-out-and-see-me stage, with a young woman who lives with her father, obviously the man has already passed whatever screening process you can do remotely. So, we are already probably 70% of the way to getting married. And, since there is no sex (or cohabitation, or a lot of other things) before marriage, there is not really much to do before deciding to get married. You can probably do it in three days. You aren’t going to have to go back and forth many times on a plane. You aren’t going to have a “long distance relationship.” You just get married, or you don’t. $500 for a plane ticket is a lot, but $500 to get a wife is pretty cheap. How many dinner dates is that?

I think a lot of men these days would like to find a virgin wife under Age 23. But, men just daydream about it, without actually doing it. There actually seem to be a lot of beautiful women these days, under Age 23, and actually virgins, whether they are active Christians or not, and who actually prioritize marriage and family. There are a lot of “I thought I would be married by Age 22 and have three children” girls.

So, if you just go and look for such a girl, they shouldn’t be hard to find. This should be Courtship, not “dating.” There should be an explicit expectation, among all involved, that you might get married within six months, or maybe you won’t. No open-ended “dating.” Also, no sex before marriage, which simplifies things a lot.

75% of women arriving at Harvard are virgins

@itsnotmirror

♬ on the floor – 𝐧.

And then there is this:

When my father started looking for men for my sister and me to date,

These women themselves didn’t pick their partners. Because who would they pick? Did you guess — the guy with the best pictures on Tinder? No, their father found their husbands. Of course the women had some choice afterwards, among these men that already had passed their father’s first screening. It would be interesting to learn exactly how their father found all these Suitors.