Why 22 Is Too Old

This is ridiculous, and an improper use of the term “the Wall,” but, as before, let me explain what is going on here.

Let’s say you wanted to marry a virgin — for the very good reason that virgins tend to make good wives.

To that we can add some other preferences: No Tattoos, and No Debt, and Not Fugly.

All that you really need to do, as a 21-year-old, to Not Be Fugly is to Not Be Fat, and make a little effort at beautification. But, that still excludes about 30% of 22-year-olds, we could say (some would say higher than that).

About 60% of women are virgins when they begin college. About 20% are when they graduate. So, of all the women among the better sort of society, here those that to go college, two-thirds of all the virgins are gone by Age 22. You are left with just 20%. And, if you also cut out those with tattoos (not many virgins), debt (many), and Fugly (about 30%), already you have only a small percentage of women left.

Some women who don’t attend college were nevertheless raised well, and make good wives. Some women who go to college (it seems to be about 10%) are horrid sluts. But, overall, this is a good measure.

Let’s look back women who got married after 1970, when No Fault Divorce and related anti-male legal changes incentivized Divorce for Cash and Prizes, and see which women made good wives. I don’t mean that they “could” make good wives, but that, at the end of their lifetime, their husbands could say: “She was a good wife.” They actually made good wives. I guess this is about 20% of all women who were married. Before 1910, I would guess that about 70% of women made good wives — as it turns out, about the percentage today of virgins who make good wives.

Of those women of the past 50 years, who made good wives, most of them were gone by Age 22. They might not have been married yet (although many were), but they had already begun a monogamous relationship with the man that they eventually married. A few began a long-term monogamous relationship with a man that they didn’t marry, and then quickly got married to someone else. Either way, they are no longer single. So, now we are looking for Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos that are also Not Fugly and Single. This might not seem like it is asking very much. Probably 70% of all sixteen-year-olds, of the better sort of society who eventually attend college, meet these criteria. But, by Age 22, it is perhaps 3% of all women who attended college (and less than that for women as a whole).

So, between Age 16 and Age 22, we went from 70% to 3%. If you want to have any success in this, you have to look at Age 16-21 — the 70% — not the 3%.

In the old days, before “Dating,” or before 1910, when young women lived at their father’s house before marriage, in the better sort of society, probably 90% of single women Age 22 were Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos, and not Fugly either. In those days, 22 was not too old.

20 Qualities of a Good Wife

A woman can be a good student, a good daughter, a good employee, a good friend, a good neighbor and a good citizen. Even, a good girlfriend. But, if she is not a Good Wife, then she has nothing to offer to a man who is interested in having a family. A woman that can’t, or won’t, be a Good Wife, should not become a wife, and no man should marry her. The consequences of marrying a Bad Wife are horrid.

It is not enough only to be a Good Wife. You also have to be a Good Mother. There isn’t much reason to get married, if you aren’t going to have children. And, if you are going to have children, you should get married first. So, being a Good Wife and a Good Mother go together. If you can’t do it, then just go be a Good Employee and a Good Neighbor, and forget about marriage and family. Let your life provide some sort of benefit to others — your employer and neighbors — and don’t stray outside your circle of competence.

Marriage.com actually has some good material. Here is “20 Qualities of a Good Wife,” by Rachael Pace. These are things that a woman does, of benefit to her husband and family. Guess what — not one of them is: “I Am the Table.”

Read: “20 Qualities of a Good Wife”

Write It Down and Forget About It

The last thing a man wants to hear when he gets home from work is all the other things he is expected to do — taking care of this, and fixing that. This can very easily degenerate into nagging, which does nobody any good. If they could, men would take their nagging wives, tie them in a sack, and throw them in the river. Many men conclude that they are better off doing almost anything else rather than being at home with a nagging bitch. They may become workaholics.

Nevertheless, one duty of a woman is to inform her husband of the things around the house that need attention. He might say: Take care of it yourself. Or, he might say: Hire someone to do it. He might do it himself, when he is in the mood to do so. Or, he might ignore it completely, considering it something not of high enough priority to bother with, compared to going fishing.

That’s his business. Your business is only to inform him of the issue. Sometimes, women might think that maybe he forgot about something. Probably not, but since it hasn’t been done yet, this is a reasonable conclusion. One solution is just to write things down, on a centralized list of things that deserve attention. Once it is written down, you don’t have to worry about whether he remembered. Mention it once and forget about it. It is now his problem.

My Husband Doesn’t Help Around the House

Fuck yeah he doesn’t. That is your job, not his. Are you some kind of invalid? Do you need “help” to do the laundry or vacuum? When he comes home from work, it should all be done. Get to work, bitch!

Men do typically work around the house. Mostly, this is repair and maintenance, and sometimes, yardwork. But this is not “helping,” it is just doing. A man does not “help” his wife paint the exterior walls or fix the faucet. He just does it. Either his wife helps him, or she doesn’t. Sometimes, if he is very busy and can afford it, he hires a handyman or gardener to take care of those things. So, you know that when a wife complains about him not “helping,” she is just being a whiney lazyass.

With the advent of full-time working mothers, which I do not recommend, some traditional wifely duties had to be split with husbands, making each equally overworked. If there are two full-time working parents, this is OK. If a wife works part-time, it is not OK. Get your housework done. That’s why you are only working outside the house part-time. And it is not at all acceptable for a stay-at-home wife and mother. A stay-at-home wife and mother should do all her traditional duties, and then ask: “What else can I do to support and improve our household?” She should aim to help more.

Sometimes, a man will help, simply because he wants to help his wife with her duties. This is a sort of gift. Unfortunately, women often take this as an opportunity to foist her duties off on her husband. If he helps once, then she immediately assumes that he has lifted that responsibility off her shoulders forever. Then, when he doesn’t do it again, she starts complaining. Now look at this from the man’s perspective: I helped you with your work, just to be nice. But, all I got for it was a bunch of whiney complaining horseshit. A smart man concludes: I will never do that again. If your husband helps you with your duties, look on it as a one-time gift. Be thankful and grateful. Do not expect it to ever happen again. If you are thankful and do not expect it to happen again, he will probably be helpful again sometime.

But, I think it may be best for husbands to never overstep into their wives’ responsibilities. The better sort of wife doesn’t want this kind of help, even when offered. She would rather stay up until midnight washing the dishes, while you are already asleep, than have you help her. She doesn’t want to be married to a man that does women’s work. Her husband is not a Kitchen Bitch. She doesn’t want to be the kind of wife that can’t handle her responsibilities, like some kind of invalid.

So, unless you are a full-time working wife and mother, the traditional and proper response to this kind of whingeing is: A good stiff beating with a rod.

Being a Mom in Japan

Japanese women still have the healthy idea that having two working parents is strictly for poor people. Here is Moe, the “Kimono Mom,” taking it easy in Tokyo. She is known for her spectacular kimono and on-point hair and makeup, but here she is keeping house and being productive for the benefit of her husband and daughter. Naturally, this involves some serious cooking. Nobody needs to ask: “What do you bring to the table?” since it is so obvious. Not much goes on, but apparently I am not the only one who likes to see a 10/10 woman just being a mom and not wiggling her ass on TikTok — her YT channel now has more than a million subscribers.

But, since this is Kimono Mom (she was professionally trained as a Geisha), note how she wears her casual work shirt perfectly skewed way off the neck, in proper kimono fashion.

That is definitely pro level.

Looking Good in your 50s

A woman in her mid-50s should not be prancing around Instagram in a bikini. She should be married for 30+ years, to the same man, enjoying some new grandchildren, and not have any social media accounts at all. She should be wearing age-appropriate clothing (somewhat matronly, well covered), but look fantastic wearing it.

But, I think we can still give some appreciation for women in their 50s who are still looking good, especially those who avoid coloring their hair, using excessive makeup, or indulging in plastic surgery. If there was an award for Best Looking Woman In Her Fifites, we might have to give it to: former supermodel Paulina Porizkova, now Age 56. Nobody looks like this without effort, even former models. And if you were recently single, and you were formerly on magazine covers, and you looked like this, I can see why you might not want to keep it a secret. This is a very high standard to emulate, but I hope some women in their fifties will try.

And here she was on the cover of Sports Illustrated, February 1984:

For contrast, here is former Baywatch babe Yasmine Bleeth, Age 53, who now looks like most other American women the same age. She deserves no criticism for this, except perhaps for squandering her natural gifts. But, it shows what happens when you don’t make an effort.

Yasmine Bleeth looks dramatically different from 'Baywatch ...

Here’s a little montage of Yasmine way back when.

Aristotle and Plato on the Ideal Age of Marriage

It is the universal assumption that the husband will be considerably older than the wife: Plato puts the age of marriage for the [p. 2.134]man at from 25 or 30 to 35, for the wife at from 16 to 20 (Legg. iv. p. 721; vi. pp. 772, 785), and he affixes penalties for the man who does not marry before the highest age mentioned; Aristotle recommends 35 as the best age of marriage for the husband, 18 for the wife (Pol. 7.16).