We have been talking about the Duties of a Young Wife — what a woman should do immediately after getting married, perhaps age 18-25. We will assume that this Young Wife is a stay-at-home wife, and does not yet have children, but probably will soon. In the end, it is not so different for wives who work full time.

Cooking is a major activity for the Young Wife. She should take it seriously. If she has not yet practiced cooking very much, she should start the process of becoming a good cook. If her mother taught her how to cook, she should improve her skills. It took my wife five years to learn how to cook well.

These days, a woman doesn’t need to know how to make clothing, milk cows or play the piano. But, the modern family still gets huge benefits from a wife who can cook well.

Today, the importance of a woman who cooks well is not much appreciated. If anything, a woman faces criticism for actually doing something useful and important, and which benefits her husband and family. It seems like most young women are told that they are to be served and doted on like Disney Princesses. Have you ever seen a Disney Princess that knows how to cook? (Maybe Cinderella, but she wasn’t a princess.)

Let’s look at some of the important aspects of cooking well:

1. Eat Well Every Day. Eating is a major part of life. Life is more fun when you eat well every day. Also, meals are a major social event, for the family and also for friends.
2. You husband will love it. Men know the value of a woman who cooks well.
3. It’s fun. Cooking is an activity that can be a lot of fun. Just look at how many foodie and cooking shows there are. Don’t those Celebrity Chefs look like they are having a good time? Cooking can be a great hobby. Besides, a stay-at-home Woman of Leisure has a lot of time on her hands. What better use of it than to learn how to cook?
4. It’s an important part of our culture and civilization. Think of what a central part food plays in the great civilizations of the world. France is France in part because of French food. Japan has great food. Chinese cuisine can be wonderful. If you have ever been to a Central American or African country where the choice is between Rice with Chicken and Chicken and Rice, you will know what I am talking about.
5. It’s cheaper. Eating out in restaurants, even cheap restaurants like takeout, can get expensive quickly. Also, restaurant food is generally not very healthy. It is supposed to be special-occasion food, not everyday food. Or, it is supposed to be quick and slightly addictive, like fast food. You can’t control for food quality very well with restaurants. Looking for a pizza restaurant that uses organic flour? Good luck with that. Fast food often contains chemicals and additives. Even deli meats and cheeses typically have a ton of salt. When a woman cooks well for her family, it can even be cheaper than what a busy single man spends while eating often in restaurants. Having a wife saves you money. Plus, sex. There’s a reason men used to get married, in the past.
6. It’s healthier. People today are grossly unhealthy, fat and ugly. Mostly, this is due to poor diet. Processed, prepared and packaged foods, and fast foods, are the main cause. A Young Wife should learn to cook from single ingredient foods — fruits, vegetables, beans, rice, spices, herbs, meat. Things that don’t have a list of ingredients. Avoid all processed, prepared and packaged foods. Make it yourself. Besides avoiding all kinds of chemical additives, you can also step up the quality. A fifty-pound bag of organic bread flour doesn’t cost much. Use a breadmaker, and you can have fresh-baked organic bread every day. Get organic beans and bananas. Use lots of fresh vegetables, potatoes, or squash. Look for naturally-raised poultry or beef, perhaps from small independent producers. Think of all the health consequences of bad food today. A major duty of the Young Wife is to research all these topics, and create food for the family that keeps them healthy, slim and strong.

Learn these things before children arrive. You want to be able to cook well so that, when you also have children to take care of, you are not fumbling around in the kitchen or grabbing for processed foods because you don’t know how to cook.

Cleaning doesn’t take much time these days, but cooking properly still takes hours each day. Often, the best way to approach this is to Do More: to make cooking into an aspiration, goal or enthusiasm, rather than a burden you would rather avoid. Some women have undertaken to make every recipe in Julia Child’s Mastering The Art Of French Cooking. Another woman might want to learn about Indian cuisine, or learn the subtleties of making bread.

Doing the dishes is part of housekeeping, and thus the woman’s duty. Sometimes men like to do the dishes, just as an expression of gratitude for his wife’s effort at making a fine meal each day. But, if he doesn’t want to, he doesn’t have to. Do the dishes. My wife often doesn’t allow me to do the dishes even when I offer. But, she has Japanese standards in mind. In the Japanese way, men do not even fill their own bowls, but ask their wives to do it. My wife takes pride that, at her table, things are done properly; this means, she fills my bowl.

Take meals seriously. Today, many people don’t even have “meals.” They are eating in the car or snacking at the kitchen counter standing up, or in front of the television. One advantage of cooking — from single ingredient foods — is that you can’t snack, because there are no snacks. You don’t buy prepared or processed foods. When you have to cook, you have meals. A regular dinner together is an important part of family life. Insist on it. Even before children, insist that your husband sits down at the table for dinner together with you, and that he spends at least thirty minutes at the table.

Make sure that the accompaniments to meals are beautiful and classy. Have a regular dining table — maybe something beautiful and antique. Have pretty tablecloths or napkins. Have excellent dishware or glasses. I have some antique English silverware (actually it is silver plated, but made in 1863) that cost me less than stainless stuff at Pottery Barn. Use the good stuff every day. You can buy good-quality china or glassware, on the used market, for hardly any money at all. And, it doesn’t wear out. Small children should have plastic plates and cups, but otherwise, there is no reason to use junk. Dress properly for dinner, and insist that everyone else does too. You don’t have to wear lipstick and earrings every day, but no yoga pants and sweatshirts either. And, you can wear lipstick and earrings if you want to.

RooshV, who has more experience with women than 99.99% of men today, finally concluded that they were unfit to make decisions about their own lives. They needed male leadership. Don’t you think this is why every woman is looking for a man that acts like a leader?

The reason that women had their behavior limited was for the simple reason that they are significantly less rational than men, in a way that impaired their ability to make good decisions concerning the future. This was eloquently described by German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer in his important essay On Women. He described them as overgrown children, a comparison that any man who has dated more than a dozen of them can quickly agree to after having consistently witnessed their impulsive and illogical behavior firsthand.

Women are directly fitted for acting as the nurses and teachers of our early childhood by the fact that they are themselves childish, frivolous and short-sighted; in a word, they are big children all their life long—a kind of intermediate stage between the child and the full-grown man, who is man in the strict sense of the word. See how a girl will fondle a child for days together, dance with it and sing to it; and then think what a man, with the best will in the world, could do if he were put in her place.

If there is someone among women who has the kind of experience with women of RooshV, it might be this woman, who is a retired and married dating coach for women. Besides all the experience that comes from being a dating coach, she is retired, which means that she can say what she thinks, even if it is not popular among the sort of women who might want a dating coach. Also, unlike (it seems) most dating coaches, she is married; and, apparently, happily so. Here, finally, is a woman saying something useful. Girls: watch and learn.

This is for: Young wives, and girls who wish to become young wives.

We looked earlier at some of the Duties of the Young Wife — what a wife does immediately after her wedding day. We will set aside, for now, duties of Matrons, or mothers of older children and young adults. We began with basic housekeeping. This is rudimentary; but, many women fail at this, even those of considerable ability who may have graduated from top universities. When looking at the Duties of a Wife, we are, on the one hand, describing things that all wives should do; and which all wives are capable of doing. We have to set out fundamental things that even women who are well below average can do. Women who are well above average should know that, in addition to these basic things, they can do many other things, as suits their temperament and ability. I laid out some of those things in my hierarchy of the Good Wife. To say that the Duties of a Young Wife include cooking and cleaning, does not mean that she must fill the entirety of her days with cooking and cleaning. But, it does mean that she should not neglect it, either.

These errors seems to be related to expectations for employment at a job. When you work at a job, you are expected to act busy for eight hours a day, whether your have eight hours or work to do, or two. But, a stay-at-home wife without children is called a Woman of Leisure because all this housekeeping stuff certainly does not take all day, so she has a lot of time left over.

Now we move beyond basic housekeeping and maintenance to decoration of the home. There is some difference of opinion as to whether this is the responsibility of a husband, or a wife. The Japanese custom seems to be that decorating is the responsibility of the husband, and falls within the sphere of the house itself: the husband “builds” the house, perhaps with his own hands, or more commonly, has it built by others, purchases it, or rents it. This “building” is imagined to include the decorating: choosing and placing furniture, for example. The American custom is that the husband “builds” the house, but it is the wife’s responsibility to decorate it, within the context of her husband’s wishes.

Either way, someone has to do it. At a basic level, this involves things like painting or wallpaper, window treatments such as curtains, rugs, furniture, and lamps and lighting. This is a sphere of considerable creativity and expertise, and you can spend a lot of time and money at it. Some people hire interior decorators. We will assume that the wife will do most of the work here. However, this must be done in context of the husband’s wishes. He should say, to his wife: Please decorate the house. (Or, he could take it upon himself, if he has an interest in the details of the process.) It should be done in a manner that pleases him, even if, as for women’s clothing or makeup for example, he does not understand very well how that effect is created. It must be done within the budget established by the husband (with the wife’s consultation), both in terms of money, and also, in terms of time and energy. Sometimes wives spend way too much time on home decoration, and neglect other duties. Major changes, such as the purchase of a new sofa for example, should get his approval. However, a wife can be proactive and suggest things that should be done: “Honey, I think we should get another bookshelf, or a desk for Johnny where he can study.” He will then say: “How much will this cost? OK, then, go right ahead and find something good.”

You can spend gigantic amounts of money on home decorating; but, you can also spend very little. Many, many things can be done for less than $100. For less than $100, you can get a can of paint, or a fine set of curtains, or a ceiling light fixture, or a table lamp, or a minor piece of furniture like a coffee table or end table, or a wall decoration like a picture, or a small rug, or an excellent set of dishware or glasses. Look always to the used market, on Craigslist or EBay, or at local antique stores or estate and yard sales. For less than $200, I have seen 12-person sets of fine china that was probably someone’s wedding present. Look at the used/vintage/antique market for furniture and furnishings of all sorts. Even large items like dining tables, beds, bookshelves and desks, of high quality, can often be had for less than $200. In general, it is worthwhile to stick to high quality items, of solid hardwood instead of particleboard for example. Many vintage/antique things are of high quality, in part because cheapie stuff doesn’t last, and ends up in a landfill rather than an antique store. You can buy a good antique dining set of table and chairs, which is already 70 years old, let’s say for $500, and then sell it again twenty years later for $700. If you spent $500 on a new set from Ikea, after twenty years you would sell it for $100, or possibly give it away to Goodwill.

You may have to redecorate whenever you change residences. A table that “fit” one space may not work for another. Get used to buying and selling furniture as needed.

I once was lolling about a store that sold high-end handmade rugs, typically costing $2000-$5000, and up to $30,000 or more, for the 8×12 size I was interested in. Often, the customers of this store had old rugs that they wanted to replace, so the store owner would not only sell and deliver the new rug, but also pick up the old rug much like a new car dealer takes a trade-in on an old car. So, he had a lot of old rugs, which were worn but of high quality and still usable. Among these old rugs (costing $400-$1200), he had one rug that had become moth-eaten, and a large part of one corner was completely eaten away. But, the other 95% of the rug was in pretty good shape, and of high quality and a beautiful design — the kind of rug that may cost $3000+ new. I got it for $100, and have received many compliments on it.

All the time, people are dying, or downsizing, or getting divorced, and whole house-fulls of beautiful things are sold on the used market, for whatever price they can fetch.

If even $100 is too much, you can often get things for free. Many people have furniture or other home furnishings that they do not use, but which are too much bother to sell, and which are too valuable and usable to simply throw away. They would be happy to give it to you if you ask. I have received whole sofa sets, ten years old but in good shape, from friends who replaced their sofas and were keeping their old ones in the garage. Once I paid $50 for a washer and dryer set, that was 15 years old but perfectly functional. I used it for eight more years and never had any trouble with it. Eventually I too gave it away, by that time rather dingy but still running strong.

When you consider that you can decorate a home very well for not very much money, there is really no excuse to have anything but a well-decorated home. It is simple indolence. Nevertheless, many people fail at this. One reason for failure is that a husband does not particularly want a well decorated home. Probably, when he was single and living alone, he did not want to spend any time or energy at home decoration, in part because he had other things he was interested in. This is a failure of young, single men: young, single men should also take an interest in properly decorating and maintaining their residences. Young, single men should develop a minimum of taste and understanding to purchase a good desk or set of dresser drawers for their own use, similar to the way that a young man should develop a minimum of taste and understanding to buy a good suit or pair of shoes. But, it is excusable in the sense that a man wants to live simply and not spend a lot of time fussing over womanish decorating tasks. He would rather ride his Harley on the weekends than shop for sofas or paint the walls funny colors.

There is even, among some young, single men, a sense that a home should not be well decorated, not simply because he would rather put his attention elsewhere, but as a sort of principle, or self-image. This is, ultimately, a form of slovenliness that must be abandoned. Young men should aspire to live well, in a well-decorated home.

After marriage, a man may continue to think that home decorating is not worth his time, money or energy. This is a mistake: it does not cost much money — much less than the Harley, or other guy-hobbies that he is involved in — and now, since he has a wife, he can tell her to do it. So, the first step, for a young wife, is to excite her husband’s interest in a home that is decorated at a standard above an army barracks, and to get him to understand that this does not cost much money, and that she will take care of 90% of the work, so that he can still ride his Harley on the weekends. This is what stay-at-home wives are for. Put that bitch to work.

This is for: Young wives (age 18-25), and girls who plan to become young wives.

Let’s say that a couple gets married. What then does a wife do?

Before she becomes pregnant, a wife can certainly work, and may continue working at the job she had before. But, let’s say that a wife becomes a stay-at-home wife, perhaps because she becomes pregnant, or even — as is common in Japan — because, when a woman is married, she becomes the responsibility of her husband, and, if childless, becomes a woman of leisure. Only the wives of poor men are forced to work at a job. Wives that do not have to work at a job are a key badge of middle-class status.

Today, I will talk mostly of physical duties. We will talk more about the psychological or relationship aspects later. I will also describe a wife who does not work at a job, and who also does not have children, although children may appear soon. In the end, it is much the same even for wives who work full time, with some adjustment and sharing of duties with the husband.

A wife who stays at home assumes complete responsibility for household tasks. Since she does not work at a full-time job, there is no need for sharing duties with the husband, but rather, a division of labor. A wife is responsible for keeping the house clean, and in this she has complete responsibility, and must do everything necessary to get it done, so that the husband need do nothing at all. He has other responsibilities, and would like to delegate this task to his wife without having to think about it much, or waste time and effort on related issues. Since this is at odds with what young women sometimes hear, let me make it plainer: You do everything, and he does nothing. You should take satisfaction in doing it all yourself, without having to rely on his help. This is not very hard to do.

Let’s begin with basic household cleaning. Cleaning is necessary. This includes floors, counters, kitchen, bathroom. This should be done regularly and diligently, often enough that things never become what one would call “dirty.” This is very easy, but a young wife may not be in the habit of it. If you haven’t been trained by your mother, or your mother didn’t do it right: clean more often than you think. Surfaces like the bathroom, kitchen sink, counters, and kitchen floors should be wiped down at least once a day. This is very quick, but do it daily. Vacuuming should be at least once a week. (I prefer no shoes in the house, which keeps floors cleaner.) From time to time, you will have to wipe down things like windows, windowsills or the tops of furniture, where dust may collect. Just go over it with a damp cloth. In total, this need not take more than about 30 minutes a day, maybe more when you vacuum. Use rubber gloves.

For some women, it seems that they like to expand housework to consume the available time. What should be a 20 minute job takes two hours. Then they complain about all they have to do. Don’t do this. Just get it done and move on.

Do the laundry at least once a week. Wash your husband’s clothes too, and put them away for him. Iron if necessary.

One of the main causes of a “dirty” home these days is not dirt, but clutter. The most basic clutter is: stuff that should go into the trash. This is mostly bits of paper, mail, catalogs, magazines, packaging and containers. Then there is a long list of items that are useful, and do not belong in the trash, but which tend to accumulate in corners and on flat surfaces.

These days, stuff just seems to multiply on its own. It is easy to buy things, and hard to get rid of things. Some good books have been written about this. I like The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo (her real name is Mari), and Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui, by Karen Kingston. Yes, you — our 19-year old wife — should read these books and abide by them. After you have reduced the number of things (sometimes radically), then make sure that everything that you own has a proper place. Clutter accumulates because there is no good place to put it — no established home. This may involve purchasing some furniture such as bookshelves, filing cabinets, or drawers, or “organizing” materials such as closet organizers. But, always reduce first and organize later.

Get familiar with Goodwill or Salvation Army, or maybe a church service where you can donate old things. Sell unneeded things on Craigslist. Repair what needs to be repaired — don’t just leave it for another day. Do basic sewing repairs. For some things, which are too difficult to repair but too valuable to throw out, it is often best to sell it or give it away to someone with the time/skills to repair it. Again, try Craigslist.

Having done all that, make sure that everything is put back into its proper place, at least by the end of the day.

Part of maintenance is replacement of worn-out items. These are things like sheets or towels, shower curtains, or sometimes kitchen appliances. At times, you might want to upgrade, even if the old item is not yet worn out. Keep refills/replacements of things like soap, toilet paper, and even some things for your husband, such as razor blades, deodorant and shaving cream.

Cleaning, decluttering and keeping tidy (putting things away in their proper places) are mundane topics, but they actually have their own challenges — if you consider how many able people fail at them. A young wife should master these things, so that they become familiar habits. A period before children are present is a good time to build these basic skills, so that you can move on to childcare skills later. Laugh if you like, but does your house look as good as Marie Kondo’s? I didn’t think so.

So far, we have just talked about maintenance. We haven’t changed anything, we are just keeping the home clean and functional. Next, we will talk about changing things: home decoration.

I used to have a joke: “My wife and I have a division of labor: I do the labor, and she takes care of the leisure.” But, actually, this did not bother me. It is normal that men should be busy. It is also normal that a wife should not be busy all day, if she doesn’t have to.

It is important to have some slack — some surplus of time and energy available. You don’t want to be at 100% all the time. You want to be at 70%, so that you can go to 100% briefly, if something comes up. Often, a career consumes a lot of time and energy, especially when commuting is involved. At one point, I used to leave the house at 7am and get back at 8pm, every day. Thus, a stay-at-home housewife can specialize in leisure. She provides the slack. She takes care of all the stuff with the household and children, so that a man can return to a beautiful home where things are already in order, and he doesn’t have to add a new list of household things to do to his list of things to do at work. If something comes up, he can delegate it to his wife. She is in a good mood because she doesn’t have to rush from one thing to another just to get through the day.

When both a man and a woman are busy all the time — which is inevitable if the woman has a career on top of childcare duties — the results are inevitably bad. Here is a description from Lady, by Roosh V:

I learned from my mother that it’s too much for a woman to work full-time and take care of the home. Even if you’re able to pull it off, as my mom did, it puts a huge strain on family relationships and makes your life overly stressful. Since raising a family is a full-time job of its own, it’s simply not fair to expect a woman to also work outside the home.

To accommodate women having their own careers, the culture tells husbands to pick up the slack and become something like a Mr. Mom by helping out with the chores. This only makes the problem worse, because it takes your man away from the role you want to see him in—a strong leader—and turns him more into a woman. I have read a dubious study that men who do more household chores get less sex from their wives. Whether or not this is true, it’s easy to see why a woman would not want to sleep with a man who acts like an equal partner or a gay best friend instead of a masculine leader.

The ideal scenario is for the husband to work hard to provide for his family during the day and relax with his wife and children in the evening. While he’s at work, the wife takes care of the home, runs errands, and prepares dinner. This is far more superior to the schizophrenic model we have now where both parents work and the children are dumped in daycare or come home from school to an empty house, only to spend time with a stressed-out mom and dad who are staring at their smartphones.

I deem it impossible for a woman to have a career and a family at the same time. It will create too much stress …

Men never wanted mothers to work full-time jobs outside the home. Women were sold that story by some Communist freaks who wanted to destroy the family, and make men and women into interchangeable isolated workerbees while their children were raised by the government. You would think that staying home with your kids and Specializing in Leisure would be a pretty good deal for women. I suggest they take it.

After you have been married a while — let’s say it is ten years — women may not be much in the mood for sex anymore. They don’t feel like it, so they say: “I don’t feel like it,” and then nothing happens.

I say to women: It seems to be natural for women to be like this after some years of domesticity. But, it seems that these same women later get in the mood, some time after they have their clothes off, and end up having a great time. A few days later, they forget that sex was actually a lot of fun, and they are not in the mood again.

So, married women should Just Say Yes. Because, are you ever “in the mood” beforehand? (No.) But, don’t you eventually have a good time anyway? (Yes.)

Let’s say there’s a woman who follows the Feminist Life Script that everyone is telling her to follow. She goes to high school, does high school stuff, goes to college, does college stuff, graduates, gets a job, does single woman stuff, postpones marriage until 28, then goes looking for a husband. She has a lot of difficulty finding one, and also, people are calling her a slut, because 28 is, after all, twelve years after 16, and she didn’t spend all those Saturday nights doing needlepoint alone at home. “All I really wanted was to be married and have children,” she sobs, on her way to get her eggs frozen, or pick a father out of a sperm bank catalog.

She looks back on this long road of dysfunction and damage and broken dreams, and concludes: It’s men’s fault.

Men say: Whaaat? Did I tell you to do that? Didn’t you make that choice yourself? Didn’t you think for a moment what the likely consequences would be? When I (in various guises) approached you at age 17, and age 20, and age 22, and age 25, each time interested in a committed romantic relationship that could lead to marriage, did you not blow me off each time and run off to some Bad Boy who would never marry you in a million years, and in fact would not even consent to be your boyfriend for six months, and in fact who you yourself would not marry even if he asked you to, he being unfit for that role in your own good judgement? Did you not tell me, both in words and actions, that you definitely did not want to get married at that time, or have children, instead savoring your “freedom” to ride the cock carousel?

This makes sense, from a man’s point of view. From the way a man looks at the world, as an independent agent with freedom and responsibility and consequences.

But, let’s look at it from a woman’s point of view (or perhaps, a man’s point of view, of women, which are not like men).

The woman did what she was told. She attached herself to the leadership of those she trusted: her father, her mother, her social circle, her teachers in school, the government, the example shown in mainstream media. She was never an independent agent with freedom and responsibility and consequences. She never wanted to be. Perhaps, as a woman, she could not be. In return for her acquiescence in doing what she was told to do, she trusted that those in the leadership position had her best interests at heart. That the result of this would be a good result, not a bad one. Obviously, what she was told to do didn’t work. It was dysfunctional. It was a scam. It was a lie. She was betrayed. It was not her fault, because she did what she was told to do, by people she trusted. It was their fault.

And, she is right. This Feminist Life Script story that she was given is dysfunctional, a scam (Cultural Marxism), and a lie. It wasn’t her fault.

Matriarchy does not exist.

Since there are only Men and Women here, and women generally think like this, the only people left whose fault it could be are Men. She blames Men in general — and she is right! Because, it is the responsibility of Men to establish the patterns and rules — the Frame — that Women can then follow. Men have to tell Women what to do. And, it has to be something that works. Men today say that the family courts, and other legal issues such as fake domestic violence claims, and so forth, are woefully broken and destructive. That is true, but that is Men’s fault. Men should fix it, and they do not. Instead, they complain a lot — to women! Women wouldn’t know how to fix it. Haven’t you noticed that women can’t fix anything? If they can’t even change some spark plugs, how are they going to fix something complicated, like a family law system?

There is another variant of the same principle, where a woman is not exactly told what to do, but is told that doing something is OK. She is given permission.

There’s an eleven-year-old girl who wants a pony. She asks her daddy: “Can I have a pony?”

Her Daddy says Yes, and she gets a pony.

Three months later, the family is turned out on the street, because they failed to pay their rent, because of the expenses of buying and keeping the pony. This is a failure of the father to properly manage the family’s affairs. It is a failure of patriarchy. Rather than telling the girl what to do, he allowed the girl to tell him what to do. The girl had faith in the fact that the father, in his role as patriarch, would take care of things and make sure it was OK for her to have what she wanted. Because, if it was not OK, he definitely should have told her that it was not OK. How was the girl supposed to know that the result would be homelessness? She had never thought about it. She was not actually capable of thinking about it. She wanted a pony, like any girl would, and she was told that it was OK.

It was the father’s fault.

It’s OK if a girl wants a pony. It’s OK if the girl, now grown up, wants a 4000 square foot McMansion with a big yard in a neighborhood with good schools, or wants to spend two weeks in Tuscany, or drive a Mercedes S500 to impress her friends. Who wouldn’t want that? But, it is not OK for the husband to let her have those things, if it would disrupt her husband’s overall plan of things, for their shared wellbeing.

A woman is given permission to buy things on a credit card, to take out student loans, or other such things, by entities that she trusts. Women are easy to con.

A woman is told that it is OK to ride the cock carousel for ten years with a string of sexy bad boys. It doesn’t work out well. But, nobody told her not to do it.

All this, she concludes, is Men’s fault. She should have been told that it is not OK to do those things. Did anyone ever tell her that?

Dalrock talked about the “feminist merit badge.” This is the idea — it is everywhere today, but nobody talks about it — that a woman must go to a good college, get a good job, and then build a career, then find a husband around age 28-30, and then quit her job and career, have children and become a housewife. What is the point of all this labor? Why not just become a housewife from the start? And yet, even those women who are quite enthusiastic about quitting their job and becoming a full-time mother (good for you!) nevertheless feel that they have to go through the whole career-building process anyway. This is the “feminist merit badge.” It is particularly prevalent among the upper middle classes, who generally make enough money to live comfortably on one income, and who have “careers” instead of simply “jobs,” like most women.

Girls, young women, and parents, should stare this “feminist merit badge” in the face and decide if it is really worth all that effort. Not really, is it? A woman who wants to build a career later in life, when her children have left the home, can then go and get whatever training she needs at that time. A woman who wants to develop her mind can do a much better job of it studying at her father’s house, rather than any university, and it doesn’t cost anything.

Plus, there are many women who would make very fine wives and mothers, but who are not very well suited to the competitive realm of academics and the corporate ladder. Must they suffer because they are forced into a role that they have no aptitude for? We can also have at least a moment of pity for those women who are actually very well suited for academics and career; and then have too much to lose by giving all this up, or, in many cases, fail to find a husband at all, and thus never become wives and full-time mothers, even if they want to.

There is, unfortunately, more to this “feminist merit badge” than merely wasting time. What is a woman to do during all this labor? She is unmarried and childless for a good ten years, 18-28. To a greater or lesser degree, she will end up “dating,” or, as it is known to men, “riding the cock carousel,” thus damaging and perhaps destroying her ability to form a stable marriage and family. Some women, who understand this and try to avoid it, will actually become celibates for this decade of maximum fertility and sexual urge, which is hardly a tolerable solution. Get married young, and have children.

Today, women are repeatedly told not to marry when they are young; let’s say, before age 25. This used to be the outside edge of when women would marry, 16-25, with the ideal around 18-20.

It is probably not best to start with those women who are well down the road to harlotry, or who have already arrived. Today, the women who are most likely to form a stable and productive family often meet their future husbands before age 25, and often, around age 20. The only difference between now and then is that, in the pre-1920 period, they would soon get married. Today, they become boyfriend and girlfriend; often, cohabitating in a stable, fruitful monogamous relationship. Typically, they then get married later, sometime after age 25, formalizing long years of an almost-marriage.

Today, only a minority of women, I would say, are fit to be good wives. Mostly, these girls are taken off the market, in this fashion, around age 20-22 — either getting married (it still happens), or almost-married. Since they are among the minority of women capable of forming stable, loving, beneficent, monogamous relationships, this is what they do — typically, with a like-minded man. Most men never meet them, which is why they have attained a mythical status, known as “unicorns.” I think they are much more common than unicorns (let’s generously put their number around 30%, but that might be my generation rather than today’s), but they seem uncommon because they won’t be found on Tinder, Bumble, or in a bar or club. They are at home, where, after cooking a nice meal, they are having hot sex with their long-term boyfriends, who they will eventually marry.

I say to these women, and their “boyfriends”: just get married, perhaps around age 21. Why not?

There are actually some good reasons why not, but I would also suggest that there are some advantages to marrying instead of cohabitating.

I have advocated getting married young, and then, having children while young, soon after marriage. But — we will discuss this later — you could also get married, and not have children right away. That is not a bad way to go.

This recent series of blog posts by “Sharkly” describes typical features of dysfunctional wives today. As bad as this is, it is probably even worse for many men who marry women that are not regular churchgoers, and very often, have a sordid history of harlotry as well.

I personally do not suffer from any of these problems. It helps that my wife is Japanese — not a guarantee of all sweetness and light, but from a country where women have not yet been driven completely insane.

I think this series of posts is helpful, first, for men, who can either relate to experiences much like their own, or, especially for younger men, to get some idea of common situations today that they do not yet have experience with; which explains one of the purposes of this website.

But, I think it is especially helpful for women. Here is a man of unusual virtue. Besides being good-looking and having a reasonably high socioeconomic standing, he has made many efforts at repairing the damage to his family within the context of Christian teachings. Since he himself obviously gets little benefit from this marriage, his interests are largely altruistic: the welfare of the children, and also, the betterment of his wife, who is otherwise stone crazy.

A woman reading this here should appreciate what bad behavior among women is today, and how this is encouraged by the Church, a woman’s social circle, and broader society. It thus serves as a kind of litmus test: a woman who condones this kind of behavior, making rationalizations and justifications — in general avoiding any suggestion that this or any other woman should be asked to change her behavior in any way — is, I would say, unfit for marriage, and should be avoided. She would also be unfit for a monogamous “girlfriend” relationship, which reduces her to lower tiers of the “relationship” hierarchy, which I would call: “friends with benefits” (nevertheless still a friend), “fuck buddy”, and “pump and dump.” Unfortunately, many of her apparent issues with intimacy may have arisen from a prior history of “dating”; basically, times when she aspired to at least a “girlfriend” status, but was discarded by other men without reaching that level. This is one reason why I recommend avoiding “dating” and sticking with “courtship” today. “Dating” ends up causing damage; and the damage can be severe.

Thus, a woman today should — I hope, without the need for external encouragement — be critical of this kind of behavior. In other words, a woman should look upon it much the same way that a man would look upon it.