Recently, some TradGirls on Twitter were complaining about Manospherians who were saying that: these days, if you are looking for a wife, 22 is too old!

These women were confused. So, since this blog is (hypothetically) for girls and young women, let me explain it to you.

Let’s say that you had four preferences for a wife.

Debt-Free
Virgin
No Tattoos
Not Overweight or Obese

This is not that difficult a list. Every woman is capable of this. It is not something that naturally excludes most of the population, like a requirement that men be 6′ or taller, or in the top 20% of income. It does not require any special skill or achievement, like playing the piano or dancing ballet.

In the old days, there were a lot of 25yo single women who fit this description. Probably 80% of 18yos did.

Today, among 18-year-olds, about 20% fit this description. Among the better sort of girls, that might be headed for a four-year university, it is more like 40%. That is not too bad.

But, among single women Age 22, even among the graduates of four-year colleges, only about 10% fit this description. Maybe less than that.

Something happened between Age 18 and 22 that reduced the number of single women fitting this rather modest list of requirements by 75% or more. Basically, what happened is: These women were living on their own, outside of their Father’s house.

Add to that the fact that, among those women that have a natural tendency to form long-lasting, stable, mutually-beneficial, monogamous relationships, most of them have already done so by Age 22. Although they might not get married until Age 26 or Age 28, most of them are off the market. They are no longer single. Sometimes, women get into an extended relationship around Age 19 or 22, which goes on about five or six years, and ends without resulting in marriage. These women are back on the market, maybe around Age 26 or 28. But, since their tendencies are to create lasting, long-term relationships, and now they are more focused on marriage, they are usually available for only a short time, and are soon married.

That’s why, if you’re looking for Slim Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos that make Good Wives, most of them are gone by Age 22. If you want to catch them, you have to go younger. It’s not the way it should be. It’s just the way it is.

But, in the old days, the best girls were all gone by Age 22 then too. They got married Age 18-20. Do you think they wanted to stay virgins until Age 25? In those days, women wanted to make babies, just like they do today.

I have a friend with a 12yo daughter who is going to be a babe in a few years, if she doesn’t get fat. On top of that, she is homeschooled on a rural homestead, and is really a splendid girl. There aren’t that many girls like this around. It would be a waste to send her off to college, or for her to marry within the rather limited selection of local young men. She would be a good wife for a rich man. Wealthier young men today have all the female attention they want, but they also know that these women make bad wives. If the time comes for them to look for a wife, they might be on the lookout for a different sort of woman. But, how would these two get together?

I mentioned earlier the example of Steve Cohen, one of the wealthiest and most successful hedge fund managers of his generation, who married a woman of a modest background. Apparently, this worked quite well. While the other men of his cohort suffered through years of difficulty and divorce with their trophy wives/former hoes, Cohen is still happily married after thirty years and four children.

Today Cohen is old, fat, bald, and ugly (and worth over $10 billion). But, when he got married in 1991, he was a good looking guy.

One reason for Cohen’s choice was probably his first wife. She didn’t go well:

Steve Cohen married his first wife in 1979 when he was just 23 years old, and a year out of college. Her name was Patricia Fink. The couple had two children during the time of their marriage but things didn’t work out between them. The marriage ended in divorce in 1988, after just nine years. The relationship would turn bitter years afterward when his ex-wife attempted to sue him and accused him of operating a racketeering scheme, and hiding millions of dollars from her so he wouldn’t have to settle in divorce court. She further accused him of making money from insider trading in 1985, while the couple was still together. She began the litigation against Cohen in 2009 and the battle ensued for nearly 2 years, but in 2011, the case she had filed against him was dismissed.

Typical crazy-ass bitch. She basically won the lottery — she was a billionaire’s wife — and all she had to do was treat him nicely, stay in shape, maybe excuse a few infidelities, and raise his children.

Since our rich young man is not likely to go looking under rocks in rural homesteads, the burden is upon our young woman to go and meet him. Fortunately, there is a way to do that. Here is WikiHow on: How To Find Rich Men. Here is a list of the best dating apps for wealthy singles (they mean wealthy men); and here is another.

Obviously, you are going to have to bring your best game here. You need to be an 8/10 or better. (For a wife, instead of a side chick, 8/10 is enough.) You have to dress like you belong in the company of wealthy men. It would help if you were pretty well educated, although you don’t need to go to a top university.

But, on top of this, you have something else that the zombie hordes of hot young hoes do not. Basically, you are Wife Material. If a man asks himself: “Which of these women do I want to be the mother of my children? Which woman can be entrusted with my future happiness?” the answer is obvious. I suggest a dating app profile that looks like this:

Dating Profiles I Would Like To See

You just lay it out for our young man: I am a tippy-top Good Wife girl, looking for a Good Man. Take me on a Date, but no kissing until after we are married.

This is so weird that our young man might do it just out of sheer curiosity.

A small group of affluent, marriage minded young men have already figured out: “No Hymen, No Diamond.” To which you can answer: “No Diamond, No Hymen.”

I don’t know if this would work. But, you might as well try.

Humans lived in mud huts for tens of thousands of years. Then, Something Happened. Men built Civilization.

Here is a comment from “Elspeth,” a woman:

Men are the builders of stable civilizations; women can’t do it. We can only help create functioning societies inside of the framework of what men build. If the men are not interested in building traditional, stable, virtuous communities for building families and passing on the faith to children born in them, there’s is no point in expecting women to be able to right the ship.

We are not equipped. There’s a reason why you don’t find women leaders in the Bible until the ship is way, way off course.

What women can do is preserve. They can continue in the patterns that they have been taught. You often see churches these days with women the most active part of the congregation, in an effort to preserve the congregation. You see women teaching their children in much the same way as she herself was taught (for better or worse).

But, women do not build: that is, make anew.

Remember our principles around here:

1. Get up off your knees.
2. Get your Patriarchy On.
3. Tell the Bitches What To Do.

Believe it or not, if it makes sense to them, they will actually do it! This is because women soon discover that, left to their own “feelings,” they are adrift and soon come to harm. “What women want” is like a flamethrower that burns down everything around it. Women come to understand this: without male guidance, they are lost, like a ship without a rudder. They then seek male guidance for their own survival. This may come from a corporation, the government, or some other institution (Frame) that takes the male role in a woman’s life.

If left to women alone, they would not even be able to live in mud huts. They would soon starve to death, while bickering among themselves. When men are left alone, they are soon rebuilding civilization. As soon as they achieve some base level of success, they then try to make it bigger; better; faster; easier. Bear Grylls did a season of The Island with separate men’s and women’s groups. At one point, the producers apparently released a small pig in both the women’s and men’s groups. The men naturally killed and ate the pig, aiding in their group survival. This is not as easy as it sounds, and required them to do a lot of things they had no experience in. But, they understood what their team needed, and did it. The women, starving to death, made the pig into a pet. This was done apparently due to their “feelings” — they didn’t want to kill the pig.

For some reason, men today think that if they complain enough, women are going to fix the problem. That is actually not too far off: If you stop complaining, and just tell them what to do, women will actually fix the problem!

Here’s a source for dresses with a retro theme. Simpleretro.com.

Have fun with it.

Recently, I was rereading, with new appreciation, Courtship in Crisis: The Case For Traditional Dating by Thomas Umstadt Jr. Among other things, it is a chronicle of the failures of Modern Courtship over the past thirty years. Since I am promoting Courtship around here, we also want to avoid all the problems of Modern Courtship. Among them, it turned out to be a very bad way to get married. Highly prospective, marriage-minded singles stayed single. Many of the men, after suffering multiple rejections often by “Dragon Fathers,” had to leave Courtship circles and engage in Modern Dating in order to find a wife. Many of the women cried themselves to sleep (really) wondering why nobody seemed interested in them. In the old days, it was imperative upon Fathers and Mothers to get those girls out of the house, around Age 18-20, ideally married to the best sort of men, but get it done one way or another.

Umstadt lays out four stages of “Traditional Dating,” as it was actually practiced in some communities in the 1950s. Apparently, this was quite successful. Since people got married young then, it is mostly a guide for Dating among people aged 13-20.

1. Dating. This is strictly noncommittal. One of the rules was actually: Do not go on a date with the same boy twice in a row. Once you have decided that, it is not hard to add a few more. No kissing. Be home by 10pm (for older girls). Younger girls (Age 13-15) would probably be home before dinner. Limit dates to no more than two hours. No boyfriends. The goal is to get used to dating, and to meet a variety of different boys in a safe and noncommittal way. Girls went on a lot of dates — fifty or more — but there was nothing slutty about it. A major point of the book is that young people need something easy and accessible. In the Modern Dating framework, a date has an implicit commitment of sex, or Long Term Relationship; in Modern Courtship, it has an implicit commitment of marriage. Are we going to hook up? Does she expect me to take her back to my apartment? Are we going to Start a Relationship? Are we going to bang on the first date? The second? The third? Here, these extra commitments are explicitly excluded. The answer is: no, no, no no and no. You can just have a good time.
2. Going Steady. Here, a girl (or young woman) and a boy (or young man) see each other exclusively, and often, as preparation for a potential proposal of marriage. It makes sense that, if you were getting close to the proposal stage, you would maybe want to stop seeing other men or women. There would be some serious discussions. Still, no “boyfriends” or “girlfriends” here. No kissing. Just a “potential wife” or a “potential husband.” You could still break it off, and since you were never really a couple, but just discussing that, there wouldn’t be too much breakup trauma. This stage does not last long. It is not a steady state. You either get a proposal, or you cut it off. No wasting time.
3. Engaged. After a proposal of marriage is accepted, with parents’ approval of course, a couple is engaged. This would not take too long — a few days up to a few months, basically long enough to plan a wedding. Still, no kissing is necessary here, since if you are going to get married soon, and then go on a nonstop sex extravaganza for a week or even a month (a honeymoon), who cares really?
4. Married. You may now kiss the bride.

When I look at this proposal, it looks to me a lot like Courtship around 1850, but with the substitution of going on Dates for the prior customs of Visiting at the family house, or organized social Dances. Visiting, which seems strange and difficult to us today, might have actually been a nice, low-stress way of going about things. A girl would have established Visiting Hours, and you would just go up to the door and Visit. Like seeing a movie. You would probably get to know the parents in a casual, informal sort of way, since you would be over there a lot. You would meet some brothers and sisters. Not only would this tell you something about the people that would be part of your family, it would also tell you something about how the girl was raised. Nevertheless, today we tend to Go On Dates (which is not the same as “Dating”), and why not.

For most people, unless you are from the kind of family that takes two-week vacations in Italy, it is best if you have a modest wedding.

I would find a nice but inexpensive venue, perhaps at a State Park or a Beach. In a pinch, you could use your parents’ backyard. Or, get married in a church. For a reception, keep it to about 20 people, including your nuclear families, and five friends from each side. Have your Mom and Sister make the food. You can have a good time with 20 people for about $1000 if you make an effort. Tell the guests to bring a case of wine as a wedding present. Something you can really use.

One advantage of a modest wedding is that you will weed out all the women with Princess Wedding fantasies. Besides being able to put the money toward a down payment on a house, you’ll have the kind of wife that will let you pay off the rest of the mortgage decades ahead of time. Maybe have a Big Honeymoon instead of a Big Wedding. Hardly anybody takes a whole month off anymore.

Brittany Sellner made a recent video about big weddings. But, perhaps more interesting were the comments on the video, which included many young couples that were thinking of eloping (getting married in secret) simply to avoid the pressures, difficulty and expense of a wedding! Weddings are supposed to be fun.

Among those that considered eloping instead of having a big wedding ceremony were: former Celebrity Couple Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez.

Here’s a guide on How To Elope Without Offending the Family — basically, it says: elope but bring the family.

Here’s a guide on how to escape the Big Wedding by eloping — including, naturally, Elopement Packages. In other words, the Big Elopement.

Here’s a website that recommends avoiding the Big Wedding by Getting Married While Skydiving.

So, I think it is now OK for young couples to dump the Big Wedding if they want to.

I don’t have daughters, but I often think about what I would do if I did. I would want them to wear pretty, girly clothes, that don’t make them look like hoebags in training. This is not so easy these days. (I suggest below-the-knee lengths only.) Hayden Girls (haydengirls.com) is a company that makes nice clothing for girls.

It’s not even very expensive. Moms, get your girls some nice clothes.

Earlier, we had examples of TradBabes subcategory: BigBrain, which includes Helen Roy and Rebecca from Blonde in the Belly of the Beast. Today, we will have an example of the TradBabe subcategory: Fashion Plate. Because, we need more than just BigBrain girls, we also need those who represent the full spectrum of civilizational accomplishments, of the feminine sort.

Today, we have Amorette Locke (I assume that’s her name), or @amorettelocke on Twitter.

She is not only a 10/10 girl, but competitive on the world-class level. This is like the difference between a woman that has run a marathon and a woman who is on the podium at major races. Plus, she is a Christian, a homeschool-aspirant and supports the repeal of the 19th Amendment. And a dancer and a pianist. Not an everyday sort of girl.

OK, let’s take a look:

This is exquisite, but it is not very sexy. OK, it is very sexy, but it is not supposed to be very sexy. Not slutty, in other words.

While this is as rare as a Snow Leopard these days, in the past, there were a lot of upper-middle and upper-class girls who were Fashion Plates.

Go ahead and Be a Fashion Plate, if you feel that is your calling.

They were all homeschooled, by the way.

In the past, before 1970, I think it is safe to say that the primary reason women went to college was to find a husband.

At a college, you would find a lot of young men likely destined for upper-middle class professions. They were single, horny, and free of parental supervision. Also, men often outnumbered women 2:1. The result was that a lot of women who went to college ended up marrying one of these men, either while she was a student or soon afterwards. It was common for women to quit school once they got married. This makes more sense if we consider that it was common for a woman to get married to a man a year or two older; and those men, after graduating, soon moved to a new city. These young wives had to leave school.

Even in 1880, women received about 20% of all university degrees. This did not even count the women who got married and dropped out. Women who went to college enjoyed a 4:1 sex ratio advantage. I bet a lot of them got married.

From the perspective of the man, a woman at college was likely from a well-to-do family. She had the discipline to finish all the prerequisites for college, namely high school, which was rare in those days, and also, compared to today, quite difficult. Some knowledge of Latin and Greek was considered a prerequisite of college. She was also learning something at the college itself. The cost of college wasn’t so high in those days, and women didn’t have debt. They did not have to get a career to justify the huge cost of college to their families. This sort of woman could be expected to be the kind of wife that would insist on great things for her children, and work to achieve them. It would be hard for a man to find this kind of woman outside of a college, especially since most of them were soon married.

Already by 1965, the percentage of degrees given to women was 40% — this again omitting those women who dropped out after getting married. These women were not planning of having careers. They wanted to find a top-quality husband. It was common for men to seek the kind of woman who had a college degree. This still probably meant that she was from a better sort of family, and was both educated — really educated, in those days, not just credentialed — and had good self-discipline. She would make a good wife for the kind of man that has high aspirations for his own children.

Today, women are told that their college boyfriends are transient and replaceable. They can be tossed aside after graduation, as a woman moves to a new city for a new career. Getting married to your college sweetheart is now actively avoided and condemned. Men are avoiding women altogether lest they be accused of “sexual assault.” College-educated women tend to be careerist sluts — “sluts” being the natural result of eight years of high school and college where it is assumed from the start that all relationships are transient and disposable — who are also full of feminist brainwashing horseshit, make bad wives, and have too much debt. They are already Married to the Corporation. A man starts to think that he might prefer a simpler, younger sort of girl, not so full of feminist crap, without such a sordid history, who might be a more agreeable and less contentious and problematic sort of wife, and who might be more willing to stay and home and raise his children properly.

I still think that the kind of woman who went to college in 1958 would be desirable today — probably from a better sort of family, having a real education, having high standards and aspirations for her own children and family, with good self-discipline, no debt (or tattoos), and often virgins. (Even today, about 40% of all women at colleges are virgins.) It would be good if these kinds of women could find a way to meet up with like-minded men.

The true work for a young woman is to bear and raise children. Biology mandates that she do this during her prime childbearing years, 16-32. This is so that she can raise these children with all the energy and ability of adulthood: Age 20-52.

Naturally, a woman thus wants to make babies. We should expect that the Peak Baby-Making Impulse should coincide with Peak Fertility. This is different for women than for men. A man wants to have sex. A man doesn’t know, for sure, if a child is his. But, if he has sex often enough (assuming no contraception), with fertile women, then he can be reasonably assured of having offspring. A woman knows whether she has had a child, and if the child is hers. Thus, if having sex is a man’s reproductive imperative, giving birth is a woman’s.

Today, between reliable and nearly-free contraception (especially hormonal birth control, but even the simple condom), and also readily-available abortion, and even the option of offering a baby for adoption after birth, it is hard to imagine that any woman who gives birth, and keeps the child, does so against her wishes. She wanted to have the baby. Condoms are considered a poor form of contraception. But, in Japan, where hormonal birth control was banned until just a few years ago, and for many decades condoms were the primary form of birth control, only 3% of children are born to single mothers. Birth control doesn’t work, in the US, because people don’t want it to work.

I know the daughter of a friend of mine. She is the Girl Who Loved Children. Her natural inclination, as a teen, was toward children and furry animals. She had no interest in academics and career. She was sent to college, where she milled around aimlessly. (I don’t know if she graduated.) A few years later, she was pregnant by some ne’er-do-well who soon disappeared. Now she is a mom. My friend is not quite unhappy about this. Out of three daughters, this child is his only grandchild. His eldest daughter did well in school, got a job in a big financial institution, and now makes four times his income. No grandkids, though.

Today, about 25% of children born to White women are born to unmarried mothers. We must consider this essentially voluntary. These women have children because they wanted children. And what’s wrong with that?

In the past, it was easy for women to have children, during their peak childbearing years, because it was easy to get married around Age 18-20, or at least, by Age 25.

If you don’t make it easy for women to marry, before having children, then they will have children without getting married.