Today, we have our periodic exhortation for men to become politically active. This means: Take some kind of action that can lead to changes in the legal framework surrounding marriage and other male/female interactions (“sexual harrassment,” “sexual assault,” “domestic violence,” etc.) No woman is going to do this, so complaining to women won’t work. This is mostly State and even Local (Municipal) law, and also law enforcement (that is, how the law is administered).

Get up off your ass and donate some small amount — I suggest $25 — to some group that is acting in your interests. I’ve suggested the National Coalition For Men (ncfm.org). Go there and donate some money. Don’t just “think about donating.” You have to take action.

If you want to take a step further, then establish a similar organization, for your State and Municipality. You can do this in your free time. It would be, for example, the “Ohio Association for Men’s Rights.” You just call yourself that. You can set up a little organization, through an LLC. This would probably include:

1. Defining the problem. Statistics and anecdotes, probably made available on a website.
2. Defining a solution. You might want to talk to lawyers who are involved in these matters, such as divorce lawyers.
3. Informing legislators. State congressmen, city council members. Write them a letter, and maybe meet them in person. It is easy to meet with State congresspeople. Plus, they are probably nearby.
4. Informing “law enforcement administrators.” Police chiefs, sheriffs, public prosecutors, judges.

To take one example, child support apparently did not exist before 1975. Its imposition since then (with a lot of Conservative support) has led to the “child support model of marriage,” where a father and husband is disposable except for a monthly check.

Dalrock on the “child support model of marriage.”

Today, child support is perhaps the only financial obligation that can land a man in jail. You can default on your credit cards and mortgage. You can even fail to pay your taxes. These will lead to consequences, but not debtors’ prison. But if a man doesn’t pay child support — even if, due to a loss of a job, he can’t — then off to the slammer. This didn’t even exist before 1975. In one study, one-eighth of all prison inmates in South Carolina were there for missing child support payments.

Then, of course, you can ask other men to pay you to support these activities. And, these other men should do so, at least in small amounts, if they have any sense of self-preservation. We have a whole legislative system (democratic republicanism) set up exactly for this purpose — to be sensitive to the needs of the people. Make use of it!

An interesting comparison was made between prenuptial agreements — or maybe we should just call them Nuptial Agreements — and Wills. If a person dies without a Will, then there is a standard government procedure to dispose of their assets. This is not good at all, which is why anyone with anything should have a Will.

McDonald Law Firm: Prenuptial Agreements vs. Wills and Trusts

Even if you do not have anything — children or assets — at the time of marriage, certainly you can expect to have something eventually. Thus, like a Will, you should agree on an arrangement for their disposal, in the event of a divorce.

Similarly, you should make every effort to keep the State out of your marriage, such as: don’t sign any Marriage Licenses, or Birth Certificates. In the past, marriages were recorded in the blank pages in the back of a Bible.

In time, marriages without prenups might be like people without wills — basically, poor people with nothing to lose. The regular middle-class process should include a Nuptial Agreement.

Mozart’s Opera Cosi Fan Tutti (“All Women Are Like That”) ends with a wedding. This wedding is consummated by … signing a Nuptial Agreement. (2:56:39) Note that this is done by a private-sector notary, who writes a custom agreement.

Here’s “Pearly” reacting to a video describing the sickening details of some marriage, divorce and domestic violence laws. Actually there is not much reacting going on, so just watch the video.

This is bad, obviously, and equally obviously, engineered by those who want to destroy the institution of marriage.

Although this came about from “feminism,” women didn’t do it. It was feminist organizations mostly operated by Jewish and other Satanic entities. Women do have a tendency to support such things today, because they are not much able to see that causing harm to those who you are engaged in cooperation with (men), results in no more cooperation. Most women can’t really think that far ahead. Pearly and many other women do understand this, but that is above average.

In other words, Matriarchy Does Not Exist.

So, if there is to be any resolution of these problems, it will fall upon men to fix them. This will mean political organization to influence State and Local legislation.

Some women will support these men, acting to fix these problems, but that is about all you should expect.

Alongside this, although many men will of course act to manage their interactions with women along these lines (for example banning any sleepovers), other men, who are more marriage-minded, will have to act deliberately to set up the conditions for a successful marriage within this environment.

Over time, we are seeing the separation of the Home and Family tribe from the Just Having Fun tribe.

Here is a nice item on “courtship” and “dating,” via Lori Alexander:

A Brief History of Courtship and Dating in America, Part 1, by Skip Burzumato

A Brief History of Courtship and Dating in America, Part 2, by Skip Burzumato

This is pretty good, but it is from 2007. And also, it is somewhat in the middling/laggard part of the social spectrum, even for 2007. In other words, it reflects more of a mid-1990s mood. In 2007, “conservatives” were “conserving” the habits of the mid-1990s.

Today, more people are looking not just for methods to navigate today’s “dating landscape,” but a way to check out completely. This is a nice idea, but in the end, those girls who decide, let’s say at Age 14 or Age 16, to pursue chastity and “courtship,” are going to have to be rewarded for their decisions. They are going to have to actually get married, to somewhat attractive men, and not at Age 29. More like Age 20. Also, there should be a way for somewhat attractive men, who are interested in finding a good wife who is on the courtship path (a virgin Age 16-20) for marriage within perhaps six months, to actually get a good wife. The supply of debt-free virgins without tattoos, who are not overweight, is small, but the effective demand seems to be even smaller.

Unfortunately today, parents have gotten into the habit of leaving these things mostly to children. Not only do parents do nothing, they even say nothing. Many young people are set adrift without even four or five sentences about how to do things. And how is a 16yo supposed to “court” exactly, without the help of parents? In the past, they went to dances, parties and so forth — all of it organized by parents. In “dating,” most of this was left to young people, and of course it was basically anarchy, limited only by young people’s sense of propriety. This sense was real in the 1990s, where for most people it was expected that sex and a “serious relationship” (long-term monogamous partnership likely leading to marriage) went together. But, as it is only a “sense” among 16 or 18yos, of course it deteriorated over time. The point is, parents today have little example of establishing and basically managing the framework for courtship. The recent attempts, the Purity Movement, failed to get anyone married.

What if we just got rid of child support?

If a woman has a child without getting married first, the responsibility to support the child is on her. Or, whoever has custody of the child — maybe some men would step up.

If there is a divorce, whoever has custody of the child is responsible for it. A woman can make money just like a man. A man can drop off an infant in daycare, or an older child in public school, just like a woman.

Both of these outcomes seem OK to me.

The Child Support system actually dates from … 1975!

We got along fine without it — better, mostly.

Also, we should eliminate alimony.

I think it is a good thing that nearly all women eventually want to get married. What if they didn’t? But, since it is so ubiquitous, it is also, in a sense, meaningless. The question for men is: which of these women are actually capable of being a Good Wife and a Good Mother? Maybe, not a lot.

Porn queens Riley Reid, Mia Khalifa, and now Lana Rhoades all want to get married. Reid and Khalifa actually did. Here’s Lana, a single mother, now saying that she is a waiting-until-marriage girl. Of course it is a joke, but at least reinforces the idea that waiting-until-marriage is maybe not a bad thing; and that some women will say anything, eventually, no matter how nonsensical.

Maybe she is intentionally trolling. But, it seems that the people who have seen it all, come to the same conclusions. For example, the “No Hymen No Diamond” guy, Undead Chronic:

I think she is flexing here, but nevertheless, it is a wonder to behold.

What do you guys think about this? pic.twitter.com/eUAUa72MsM

— Mike Coudrey (@MichaelCoudrey) January 3, 2023

Helen Roy, who is admirable for many things, has unfortunately slipped from her Dream Babe status. She had a child, which is fine. In the process, she put on a lot of weight; hasn’t been losing it; and instead is making a lot of excuses.

While I think it is fine that a wife and mother in her thirties doesn’t look like a single 22yo, nevertheless, you don’t have to be a fatty.

It is hard for any person to be good at everything. Still, you can try.

The most important thing, for keeping a slim healthy body, is what you eat, not how much. Basically, natural, single-ingredient foods. Get some exercise.

Not a bad idea. These are things that every woman can accomplish, without all that much difficulty. You don’t have to be in the Top 10% for height, or Top 5% for income; a combination that excludes 99.5% of Men.

The most important one is #7: Make His Life Easier. A “helpmeet” is a meet help. “Meet” means:

Even if you fail all the other points, a woman can find an equally unattractive man somewhere, who is willing to stay if you improve his life somehow. At the end of the day, a woman who makes things worse, not better, serves no useful purpose to a man. Maybe that woman can serve a useful purpose to an employer somewhere. Off to work.

Unfortunately, most women today do not meet this very low standard. Most men who get married end up regretting it, either torn to shreds in a horrible divorce, or stuck in a horrible marriage. Other men take note of this.

A woman has to offer at least the promise and potential of serving as a Good Wife and a Good Mother. Unfortunately, many women reject this as a matter of principle.

Today, although any woman could achieve all of the items on this list in the space of six months, most women would rather make excuses about why they don’t have to do that, and end up six months later no better off than they were before.

Increasingly, it seems like we are having a divide between women who a Serious, and everybody else.

Some people, who want to rebuild marriage and family, have been encouraging people to get married later rather than earlier. Statistically, it appears that later marriages have a better chance of success.

I do not think this is a good idea. For one thing, if you are going to wait until after marriage to have sex — which most of these marriage-and-family people also encourage — then you would be waiting a loooooong time. Not only would you be waiting a looooong time, but also, most people wouldn’t make it. Somewhere along the way, while crossing the Sahara Desert of abstinence, they will keel over and die. Also, if you want to wait until you get married to have children, then you would be skipping most of a woman’s window of prime fertility, age 18-32.

Once we do this, we are also promoting careerism for women. What are women supposed to do between ages 18-28, while they are waiting (sexlessly) to get old enough to marry? Are they going to live with their fathers? Are they going to make a living on their own? If they invest a lot of time and energy into building a career during their twenties (and why not, since they aren’t raising children), are they then going to abandon that a Age 31, to become stay-at-home Moms? Are they going to become full-time working mothers? What exactly is the plan here?

One of the advantages to having children early is that they are out of the house early. If a woman is done having children at Age 30, then the last one is out of the house around Age 48. A woman has a good twenty years to have a career, if she wants to. Or, she can just “retire early,” which is what usually happens. Nice choice to have, don’t you think?

Are we really to believe that, with today the highest median age of marriage in US history, the “right” age to get married is actually … even later than that?

Let’s see what’s going on here.

The better-raised, and more self-disciplined, segments of society today are upper-middle income families who send their children to four-year residential colleges. Only in this subset has marriage remained a reliable institution. Once we step out of these pleasant, leafy neighborhoods, we get into a swamp of dysfunction — single parent households, two working parents, children abandoned to television, social media, daycare and public schools, and a dozen other bad things you could name. If the upper-middle class is doing better than average, then everyone below this strata is doing, by definition, worse than average — worse even than today’s very poor averages.

Among the upper-middle class, marriage has been delayed by several patterns: careerism particularly among women, related factors such as student debt and inability to establish a separate household, and also, a tendency to draw out the process of marriage by an incredible 58.7 months from first meeting to the wedding day, much of this spent in cohabitation.

These are all bad patterns, it seems to me. What if the upper middle class today had the habits and customs of the upper middle class of the 1960s, or 1890s? Women would prioritize home and family, leading to much earlier marriages (for women). The risk of divorce, even keeping the legal environment the same, would probably be lower than today.