Among the duties of the Stay At Home Wife, Cooking is a major way in which she can contribute to the family’s health and wellbeing.

There are a lot of things that women used to do, but which have become a lot easier today. Before 1850, women had to spin fiber into thread, and then weave thread into cloth. This was no joke. Then, a woman had to make the cloth into clothing, or perhaps do things like knitting. Today, making clothing is an admirable hobby, but there is no good reason to do it unless you really want to. (I once had a male friend who raised his own sheep, made his own wool yarn, and knit his own sweaters from it.)

Between vacuum cleaners or washing machines, there is no good reason to spend more time on housework than it demands, which should not be more than about an hour a day. It seems like women like to draw this out, and then moan about how hard it is. I did housework when I was single, including vacuuming, bathroom cleaning and laundry, and I don’t think I spent more than about 3 hours a week at it.

Preparing and preserving food used to be a big part of women’s duties. Between harvest time in October and June, nothing was coming from gardens or farms. Everything had to be preserved for the winter. This meant canning, or drying, root cellaring or many other things. Butter or cheese had to be made. Fish or fowl had to be butchered and cleaned.

Today, you can just buy these things.

It may seem that a woman doesn’t really have to cook much these days either. There are all kinds of prepared foods available in the supermarket, or you could go to a cheap takeout option like pizza or Chinese food.

There are a lot of problems with this. The first is: nearly all prepared food options, in the supermarket or from restaurants, are bad for you. If you eat this stuff every day, for every meal, you will end up overweight/obese and with bad health problems. Prepared foods from the supermarket soon degenerates into snack foods. It can become common for 30%+ of people’s diets to consist of junk foods like chips, soda, ice cream, cookies, candy and doughnuts.

I say that a wife should concentrate on making food from scratch, with high quality ingredients, and single-ingredient foods. Organic beans. Rice. Spices. Canned tomatoes. Lettuce. Beef. Orange juice. Olive oil. If you are using basic foods like these, you can raise the quality, buying organic grains or pasture-raised beef, without spending a lot of money. Lots of fruits and vegetables, please.

There are a lot of options available for making food quickly, from single-ingredient foods. Oatmeal for breakfast. A sandwich for lunch. Pasta or soup for dinner. (You can make soup and eat it for several days afterwards.) Canning or freezing your homemade foods will give you instant-prep options that are also healthy and homemade. It is an easy matter to make 12 quarts of homemade chili, and then can it into 12 Mason jars.

Usually, you can save a lot of money by cooking yourself. With a family of four, it is not hard to save perhaps $20/day ($5/person, over three meals) compared to supermarket prepared-food alternatives, or takeout restaurants. That is $600 a month. It’s enough to pay for an automobile.

Also, cooking usually means eating together. That’s because there’s nothing to eat until the cooking is done. There are no snack foods that you can just take out of a plastic bag. It’s important for a family to eat together every day.

But the real fun comes when a wife goes beyond just providing minimum healthy nutrition for a minimal cost and minimum expenditure of time and effort. When a woman becomes a little ambitious about cooking, she provides real benefit to her family every day, while also having a lot of fun in the process. Cooking should be a hobby. You can get enthusiastic about it. The more you put into it, the more you get out of it.

Now we are trying new recipes all the time. A wife might have themes that she is working on. Beans, for example. You can’t just “eat beans.” What can you do with these things? Find 20 bean recipes that you like. Get a pressure cooker. Find 10 different ways to cook potatoes. Practice ten Thai recipes, or ten Indian recipes. Or, make ten things from Mastering the Art of French Cooking. Usually, you have to make something 3-4 times before you get it right anyway. If it is something completely foreign, like chana masala, it might take 5-8 tries.

Maybe you want to get away from typical fare, and try vegan or no-wheat options.

Study nutrition. Unfortunately, this can become very complicated and confusing, so I will simplify: eat natural whole foods, especially fruits, vegetables, and meats (if you want). Get high quality materials, such as organic vegetables. Avoid all GMO foods, which mostly means corn and soy found in processed foods. You might try de-emphasizing, or eliminating, wheat, baked goods, white sugar or dairy.

Teach yourself to cook like a serious chef. This might take five years or more. It took my wife five years of daily cooking to get good at it. Today, it is hard to find a restaurant anywhere that is better than what we eat at home. I have been to not only good restaurants, but famous restaurants, that were not as good as what we eat at home.

Use the dining room. Some women have dinner every day in the dining room. They use the nice silverware, and the glasses, and the napkins every day. Why not. Get some nice dishware. Dishware doesn’t really wear out, so there is a lot of it available on the used market for very little cost. You can find very high quality items for perhaps 10%-20% of the original new price.

Yes, you can do this every day.

I say this in particular for young women, or girls, who think that maybe they want to be a stay-at-home wife, but they don’t really know what this might mean. Sometimes, they think it means: cleaning the toilet. Yes, you have to clean the toilet (you have to do this as a single career woman too), but if you are spending more than 5 minutes at it, it is taking too long. Usually, these days, young women or girls think that being a stay-at-home wife means: being a Disney Princess. Your husband and family is there to serve you and your whims, and are responsible for your continuing pleasure and entertainment. Sometimes, girls are taught that to do anything at all beneficial for the others in the family is oppression. Because: feminism. These women will spend their lives being told what to do all day by corporate bosses. Good luck with that!

No — you must be productive, and one of the best ways to be productive is to cook food that improves the health and lifestyle of the whole family. This is something that people do every day; actually, three times a day. Do it well. It is also a lot of fun. Just watch a cooking show, with Emeril Lagasse or Giada de Laurentiis. Doesn’t that look like fun?

“Roma Army” is certainly one of the strangest apparitions on YouTube. Yet, for some reason — it doesn’t seem quite like TradThottery — she makes videos in support of men and their difficulties.

Yes, you can do that. I include her here mostly as an example of the principle that a woman can be a friend and ally to men, rather than an enemy.

A woman who does not bring benefit to a man, but instead causes conflict and harm, is a woman that men should avoid. Men, in principle, would not marry these women, or even allow a “relationship.” The main problem is weeding them out. If all you offer is WAP, then a man’s primary objective is how to get that and avoid all the rest. This is just rational behavior. Cost/benefit.

In the end, some men will go and do their own thing, along with the women who choose to join them and make themselves tolerable and beneficent, and the rest of the barren whores, manipulative bitches and male feminists will be left to burn in hell.

This is your civilization, if you choose to accept it.

Karolina Zebrowska gets ready for a ball in 1808. This was the “Regency” period in England, which referred to the later period of the reign of King George III (who fought with George Washington in the Revolutionary War), when his mental health had deteriorated badly, and he handed over rule to a Regent, in this case his son, who in 1820 became King George IV. The Regency Act was actually in 1811, so the Regency period was 1811-1820. This was also the period of Jane Austen’s novels, especially Pride and Prejudice (1813), which is referred to many times in this video.

This woman used to wear skinny black jeans and t-shirts every day, but now she makes her own corsets.

Believe it or not, many young men, if they want to marry (and many do, eventually), want to marry virgins — preferably, young ones, age 18-20.

Very often, these young men are not particularly churchy. But, they are beginning to realize that, if you are going to have any chance of success at all in marriage, you have to get the odds in your favor. Plus, a 20-year-old wife is still going to be young ten and even twenty years later.

This guy used to have ten simultaneous girlfriends. His conclusion?

Unfortunately, women who are virgins are very bad for “dating.” They are for marrying, not “dating.” For “dating,” one common rule is: If she isn’t putting out by Date #3, dump her.

If a man wanted to find a virgin wife, age 18-20, where would he go? You can’t exactly hang around the high school playground, and they can’t even go into a bar until Age 21. Colleges have been considered “off limits” for men over 21, but this may change.

Recently, SigmaFrame and NovaSeeker have been complaining that there seems little alternative to “dating,” and even there — as SigmaFrame relates from his own experience — it can take a hookup to get things going. Even today, fully 60% of young women are virgins when they enter college, but only about 3% are virgins when they are married. Obviously, most men who say they would like to marry virgins are not successful.

I think young women who want to “save themselves for their husband” can find Suitors, but only if she advertises herself as such. In the old days, this was what Debutante Balls were for.

If she is advertising (presenting) herself as similar to all the other girls who are Dating, then she will get no interest. Sexless “dating” was fun when you were 13, but not so much for adults. Courtship is a very different stance. It is not just “no sex before marriage,” but rather, a rejection of the whole Feminist Life Script. A woman who is “saving herself for marriage” must also be seeking marriage, right here and now and not in some distant future, after age 28. She can’t be willing to marry, today, but only some imaginary Prince Charming who will never actually appear, and will never be actually interested in her if they somehow crossed paths. (She can, however, make an active search for men of high social standing, intentionally forcing herself into the attention of wealthy men who would also like a slim virgin bride of 18 without tattoos — very much unlike the dozens of other women vying for his attention.) Otherwise, there is no reason to interact with her at all — she is no good for “dating,” and no good for marrying. Basically, she is a Career Nun. She should be seeking marriage right away, at Age 18 or even forming ties at Age 16, perhaps to be married later. (Courtship, or the process of getting married, may involve going on “dates.”)

I have heard some anecdotes that young women who actively seek marriage at Age 18 have had no problem actually getting married. This is no surprise, since 92% of White women have actually managed to get married, once they finally decide that they want to get married. This even includes those 25% of White women who have children out of wedlock! It includes those 25% of women in their twenties who are not just overweight, but actually obese! It is not that hard, if you try. If you also have the advantages of being 18 years old, with a slim and healthy body, and you pay a little attention to beautification (but not so much makeup), and no tattoos or debt, it should be a slam dunk.

I do not think it is so important that a man be a virgin at marriage. For one thing, a man is expected to be able to support a family, which means that he is probably at least 25. Second, most men do not have that much prior history. Third, the family is not as threatened by a man’s past as by a woman’s. Even men who have a history of cavorting with multiple women — John F. Kennedy or Donald Trump, perhaps — normally do not threaten their marriages and families. This requires a wife of considerable tolerance, but Jackie Kennedy did it, and didn’t get divorced. Among marriages between two people with a four-year college degree, the divorce rate is about 35%, and divorce is initiated by the woman 90% of the time. Probably, divorce is really initiated by the woman about 95% of the time, with the woman making herself so intolerable that the man feels that he must flee for is own survival, or at least, formalize what has already happened de facto, such as for a woman who has left the house. 35%*5%=1.75%. So, if a woman behaves herself, and is married to a better sort of man (comparable to the average man with a four-year degree), then there is not much risk to the family. Compare this to the risk of failed marriage for a woman with more than 20 sex partners (about 80%), or even more than 5 (60%).

Courting can be fun, but it is not for fun. It is like looking for a job. It is a transition stage, not something you stay with indefinitely. Fortunately, you only have to do it once, and God has given women many advantages (youth and beauty) so that they can do it without necessarily being so skillful.

I actually like these two women. They seem cheerful and fun — unlike many single women, who need antidepressants to give them a respite from their own bitterness — and they are looking good for their age. After Age 40, you get the face and the body you deserve; and they have apparently done something to deserve good results. After thirty years of Dating, they are really good at it. But, I hope that at least some women will chose Home and Family instead. So, just do that and forget about Dating.

In the pre-1913 era, young women often had fantastic fashions and hairstyles, but makeup was rare. Here, at the dawn of color photography, we see the no-makeup looks of girls and young women of that time.

Women under 25 don’t need makeup. God made them beautiful already. Just don’t mess up His Work with bad diet and flab. Isn’t it a little weird? Painting your face? Really?

In the past, makeup was considered a means of faking/lying/manipulating. Once you start misrepresenting your face — your face! — pretty soon the principle spreads to all actions. Mothers and Fathers told their daughters not to wear makeup, at least when younger. And, by the time they were older (over 25), they were supposed to be married already, with a couple of children, and not trying to attract the attention of other men. Today, Mothers are eager for their daughters to be better fakers/liars/manipulators than the other girls. Hey, it worked for Mom!

Obviously, if makeup didn’t work, then women wouldn’t use it. But, the best girl is the girl who doesn’t need it.

During the Victorian Era (nineteenth century), women often had spectacular clothing and hairstyles, but little or no makeup. Even Queen Victoria herself did not wear makeup.

Going no-makeup doesn’t mean that you dress like you are going to clean out the basement, or that you look like you just woke up with a hangover. You can do all the other stuff. Just, no makeup.

No-makeup looks from the Nineteenth Century:

These Hollywood actresses are definitely wearing makeup, but it is supposed to represent a time when that was rare, so it should at least give a hint of what I mean by extravagant attire without makeup. (Women under 25 with a good diet really do have flawless skin, BTW.)

Things are soooo much less competitive these days. All you have to do is: 1) Have a slim natural body, the result of healthy diet and regular exercise; 2) Wear something nice. Even a $29.99 dress from Amazon would be better than what 95% of women wear these days.

Today, we will celebrate what women actually look like.

Alicia Keyes (age 40) went to the Grammys without makeup.

Looking good in a bikini, with no makeup, over age 50 is not at all easy. But, for those women who want to challenge themselves, here’s Cindy Crawford.

Nice job, Cindy!

This is for: girls and young women.

Girls: look at the loser guys around you. The ones that play video games all day, every day, day in and day out, week after week, month after month, year after year.

They could get a real girlfriend. They could play sports. They could work out in the gym and look good. They could study, or start a business, or learn something, or build something. But, instead of all this, they just play video games.

These video games mostly consists of killing zombies, or space aliens, or something like that. For hour after hour after hour, year after year, they kill hundreds and thousands of zombies and space aliens.

This probably seems pretty stupid, to a girl.

Social media apps are video games for girls. This includes Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and also dating apps like Tinder or Bumble.

While young men mostly like to kill endless thousands of video space aliens, young women mostly like the attention of other people, both men and other young women. Young men stack up kills, and young women stack up likes and views. They bask in the glow of the endless attention paid to them by thousands and thousands of people that they will never meet in person.

Many women just play dating apps like a video game. They never actually meet a real person in real life. They just spend hours each day swiping, and text messaging. Day after day, month after month.

They could find a real boyfriend. They could study, or make real friends with other real girls, or go to a real party, or join a real club. They could develop real social skills. They could marry, have children, and create a family and household. But, they never do this. Instead of all this, they just play video games for girls.

Unfortunately, a lot of women these days are addicted to relationship drama. Some women are so addicted that they actually make a career of other women’s relationship drama. They end up as Dating Coaches. I think they are probably pretty good at Dating, but not so good at Getting Married. If you want to Get Married, take advice from a married woman.

The kind of woman who tends to get married easily, and stay married, are those that actively seek to minimize relationship drama. They just want to have a placid, productive and fun time with their man; and they look for a man that wants the same thing. Women who maximize relationship drama, who deliberately create problems where no problems need exist, or stay in and pursue situations that can’t possibly work out, don’t stay in relationships long. Even if they get married, it doesn’t last.

The difference between the two types was well illustrated in this video, from Julie Nolke.

Another video. “Because Coaches don’t play!” 3:53.

I’ve been saying that young women should skip the Feminist Life Track, of college and career, and go directly to Family and Children. In the end, even if you do all the Feminist Life Track stuff, and you marry at age 32 (getting rarer every day), then you will still have to choose between being a Working Mom or a Stay at Home Mom. If you really want to be a Working Mom, go right ahead, but if you want to be a Stay at Home Mom, then just decide today. Just be a Stay at Home Mom, and then you can have a career later, after Age 45, when all the children are out of the house.

Nevertheless, a young woman can still educate herself, and actually get a much better education than any college today offers. This takes effort, but it is nearly free. It would a nice thing to do while you are living at your Father’s house and looking for a husband.

Dating apps are rather toxic these days, but they can still be a means to find a Husband. Here is a dating profile I would like to see:

Get some professional photos. They should express a) beauty; b) a slim, healthy body; c) cheery manner; d) classy; e) you dress well but not too slutty. No “boozing with friends in Tijuana” pics. Today, a lot of girls get professional Senior Portraits, at roughly age 18. Look below.

Hi guys! I am looking for a man to share a family and lifetime of marital bliss. So, don’t even bother unless you are ready to marry. This is why you should marry me, instead of one of those other girls:

1. I’m 19. I will look almost the same in ten years, and I will still be young twenty years from now.
2. I am a virgin. I am saving myself for my future husband. Please don’t make me wait too long.
3. I want children, and I have enough time to have a big family.
4. I want to be a Stay at Home Mom.
5. I plan to homeschool our children and raise them well.
6. Education is very important to me.
7. I know how to cook, and will be a great cook for our family.
8. I will not divorce you. That is a disaster for everyone involved.
9. I will be your biggest supporter.
10. I will maintain our household to a high standard, and you don’t have to do any housework (besides the usual guy stuff).
11. I think today’s divorce laws are a disaster for the institution of marriage. I insist on a prenuptial agreement.
12. I come from a good family.
13. My parents are not divorced.
14. I have a father.
15. I dress well.
16. I haven’t had the feminist brainwashing that other girls get in college.
17. I insist that you take your proper role as Leader of the Family.
18. I will take very good care of you.
19. I exercise regularly, and plan to maintain a healthy and trim figure, even into my fifties and beyond.
20. I like nice things, but I am frugal and ready to live within our financial means.
21. I like to keep a clean and beautiful house, and am ready to work to get that.
22. No debt.
23. No tattoos.
24. No drug or alcohol dependencies.
25. No prescription drugs, including antidepressants.
26. No goofed-up hormones from hormonal contraceptives.
27. I’m smarter than the average bear.
28. My Mom looks great, for her age.
29. I’ve been practicing ballet for the past five years.
30. Many, many other good things!

Rules:

1. You have to take me on a nice date.
2. You have to pay.
3. No kissing.
4. You have to make a decision to marry or not within a reasonable amount of time (probably less than six months). Seriously, how long do you want to postpone our honeymoon?
5. No exclusive relationships. If you want me all to yourself, you know what to do. Otherwise, I have to entertain other prospects.

You are:

1. Not too ugly.
2. Not too fat.
3. Have good career prospects.
4. Under 35.
5. It would be nice if you are wealthy.
6. Be ready to be a good husband. Be nice to me!
7. Be ready to support a family.
8. Manly. No male feminists or soyboys. Ugh.
9. Probably, a political conservative.