I was reading in the comments section about a woman who did many of the things we talk about here. She married a decent, hard-working man, became a stay-at-home Mom, and took up homeschooling her three children. Her husband works in a middle-class sort of occupation, probably in the trades, and makes about $60,000 a year.

This is not much money for a family of five, but it is a common situation for many today. The woman said that she lives in a modest 1600sf house, and barely has a few dollars left at the end of the month.

What would I say to a woman like this?

Obviously, one solution is “make more money,” and maybe she could try a few things, perhaps starting a YouTube channel. I’ve suggested that a nice occupation for homeschoolers is homeschooling other people’s children. But, let’s look instead on the expenditure side.

Houses today tend to cost about $180/sf, so a 1600sf house would probably cost about $288,000. This is way too much for a $60,000 household income. They need to get that way down. The typical guideline is 3x income, so that’s 3x$60,000 or $180,000. But, that is the outer limit, so I would try to get way below that, perhaps around $120,000. At a similar $180/sf, that would mean about 670 square feet. I would look for a decent 670 square foot condo, in a decent neighborhood with decent neighbors. Location, location, location. I chose a location at random: Sarasota, FL, and saw what kind of condo you could get for $120,000. As expected, you can get 650-750 square feet, in a nice sort of place, which typically means one bedroom. Here is a 715 sf 1BR condo for sale at $105,000:

Not too shabby, right?

One bedroom for a family of five is not much; on the other hand, the monthly payments, including a mortgage, all taxes, insurance, HOA condo fees etc., is $813 a month. And, since it is a condo, you don’t have to do any yardwork or building maintenance, also saving time and energy. Utilities costs can be much, much cheaper. Since you would own this condo, you could potentially split the one bedroom into two somehow by adding a wall — probably an easy job for a husband who is a tradesman, even if that is not his specialty.

You can live well in these conditions. Here is a story about a family of four in 660 square feet in Brooklyn, NY — including a Home Office.

In the late 1940s, developer William Levitt produced neighborhoods of identical single-family houses in the suburbs of New York City. Levitt’s houses fit two bedrooms into 720 square feet. They were immensely popular with young families.

Since most people make an average amount of money, and we are promoting the Stay-At-Home Mom here, it is important to create a lifestyle that is sustainable. You are going to need a car too, probably, which means another $600 a month for that.

You can still make more money. In that case, you can just pay down your mortgage, and before too long, you will be free even of that (remember our purchase cost is only $105,000), which means that your expenses will decline too. Thus, you would have both more income and less expenses, which could be pretty pleasant.

Being willing to live like this is an important element of being a Good Wife. The fact of the matter is, not all men make a way-above-average income. You can live comfortably, and well, under these conditions. It is a far better outcome than being perpetually short of cash because you are trying to do the impossible.

Here is some commentary by Rod Dreher about a long piece by David Brooks about the end of the “Nuclear Family” in The Atlantic. The Atlantic is mostly Leftist brainwashing, so you have to be careful about these things. Nevertheless, the article by Brooks is not as bad as you think. Brooks argues that the Nuclear Family is a short-lived aberration from the long-term norm, which was the Extended Family. The Extended Family typically meant that grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins all lived close to each other, and often, grandparents lived with their children in old age. Brooks argues that the Nuclear Family, as an ideal, was a post-1950 notion. You could make a connection with “dating,” which we know mainly as a Postwar 1950s-era institution. It seems “traditional” but actually it was a short-term aberration that has shown no signs of long-term viability.

The Nuclear Family, in which there is a mother, father and children who live otherwise isolated, far from relatives, has many inherent difficulties; and this is doubly true when you add Working Moms. So many people without the support of Extended Family end up in trouble, because of circumstances, because of a lack of support available between family members, and because of bad choices made with little guidance. A Working Mom also necessitates Public School, or perhaps private schools for a lucky few who can afford them. So, you end up with Cultural Marxist brainwashed children — often, even the ones that go to private schools. As increasing numbers of people lack either Extended Families or Nuclear Families, they tend to look toward the government to provide alternatives in the form of socialist policies.

For now, it is hard enough to get young men and women to interest themselves in a Nuclear Family — to make that a priority, instead of something that you can add to your resume after a graduate degree, or just a necessary step toward the main goal, which is to win Cash and Prizes in divorce court and welfare benefits. But, I think there is a point here that the Nuclear Family is often not quite enough, and that you should either form connections with your biological Extended Family, or perhaps, create a network that serves like an Extended Family, which is not easy or it would be less rare than it is. This “network-creating” takes time and effort; while not having one also means that you are thrown on your own resources, i.e., your own time and effort. Either way, you should prioritize the Stay At Home Mom.

I believe in focusing on solutions, not problems. But, one of the problems is that people are still sitting on their asses. You can tell if you are sitting on your ass, because if you weren’t, it would be very obvious. For example, plenty of people complain about the education system, but only homeschoolers, and people who send their children to a few select alternative private schools and colleges, have actually got up off their ass.

Apparently, 30% of all women under 25 now identify as LGBTQ. This includes “bisexual,” which might include also a lot of girls who just want to be in the fashionable crowd. It compares to about 5% for women over 60. This is a sign that you better damn well get up off your ass.

Remember that “women under 25” includes basically all of the women who are in their prime window of marriage, 16-25.

It is easy to imagine the kind of talk this topic might generate. But, the goal is not talk, but action. Some young women will have to break from where the mainstream is going. They will be acutely aware of this. “Other women do this, but I will do that.” Also, older people, and parents especially, need to take some action if they are going to avoid these kinds of outcomes. These people will not only feel different, and think differently, they will do everything differently, just as homeschoolers are not just public schoolers with funny thoughts. Homeschoolers do everything differently. Certainly, the fraction of people who will do this is small. But, just as with homeschoolers, if only 2-3% of people do something differently, they soon find that 2-3% of everybody is still millions and millions of people, and quickly makes a huge community.

Unfortunately, I think that MGTOW is contributing to these trends. Many older men are telling younger men that they should avoid marriage. There are a lot of good reasons for this, and it is actually good advice, broadly speaking, to avoid marrying the majority of women today. But, you can have a rational view of the present state of most women today, and the present legal standing of men, and still be a supporter of marriage and family, in principle even if not in practice with most women. In other words, MGTOW for Marriage.

A commenter, who is a Catholic woman under 25, said:

But I have seen an increasing number of women swear off dating, swear off marriage, swear off kids, and especially, swear off men, in the last several years. (I’ve also seen the other side, where many women are decrying the lack of decent men to date, or decent men to marry, but that’s a whole other discussion) The Anti-Men crowd, in my honest opinion, is a new wave of Neo-Feminism that not only wants to ‘crush the patriarchy’ but also wants to be able to move in a circle where men are not just optional, they’re completely unnecessary. These New Feminists are also increasingly gender-fluid, and welcome (with open arms) male-to-female Trans Rights Activists into their ranks.

This is a sort of WGTOW stance. I have warned that women are basically incapable of leadership (Matriarchy Does Not Exist), and they take their guidance from others, especially men. They are hearing that Men want to go their own way, and conclude naturally that they too should be planning for a life lived alone. They are actually doing what men are telling them to do. That is why I think that we should take seriously all the problems leading men to rationally conclude that they should not marry the majority of women available today, under today’s legal situation, and then say: Women Should Behave Like This, and the Laws Should Be Changed Like This, because Family Is Important. Women will hear this, and they will change their behavior (some of them), and also add some support to changes in the laws. Because, women do what you tell them to.

Get Up Off Your Knees
Get Your Patriarchy On
Tell The Bitches What To Do

Christmas is “date night” in Buddhist Japan. Here we have Moe, a wife and mother, dressing up for her husband Moto for Christmas dinner. Moe is a Level 5 Housewife in the realm of Japanese traditional dress. Here she is taking the evening off in Western wear. Unlike 10/10 girls in the West, where Hot=Crazy, and also Lazy, Dream Babes in Japan often make good wives too.

Western wear is fine for fooling around, but things get serious when the Kimono come out.

Her kimono here are spectacular, but also quite modest, as appropriate for a married woman out in the city.

The Greeks and Romans did not have morality as part of their religion. The “religion” of the Greeks and Romans includes stuff like this:

Zeus takes the form of a swan, and rapes/seduces Leda, the wife of King Tyndareus of Sparta. She bears two children from this, Helen and Polydeuces. Later, at a feast, Zeus is asked to declare which goddess is fairest, among Hera, Athena and Aphrodite. Zeus apparently perceives that he might be in some trouble whatever his answer is, so he asks a Trojan prince, Paris, to judge between them. Paris looks at the three goddesses and declares that he can’t decide with their clothes on. So, the three goddesses get naked before him, and also make promises to Paris if he chooses them. Hera offers to make him king of Europe and Asia. Athena offers her wisdom and skill in war. Aphrodite offers him the world’s most beautiful woman. Paris takes up Aphrodite’s offer. The world’s most beautiful woman is Helen, the half-bird girl, who is now married to Menelaus, King of Sparta. Paris goes to Sparta and (with Aphrodite’s assistance) “rapes” (seduces) Helen, who goes off to Troy with Paris. This begins the nine-year Trojan War, in which Troy is reduced to ashes, and its citizens slaughtered. Aeneas, prince of Troy, escapes the burning city, wanders the Mediterranean for a while, and eventually ends up in Italy, where he founds the city of Rome.

Leda and the Swan. 16th century copy after a lost painting by Michelangelo.

From this, you can get an idea of why Christianity replaced this pagan gobbledygook in the fourth century.

Because the Greek/Roman religion was so inadequate for an advanced civilization, the morality of Greece and Rome was often found among the philosophers, which did not have much connection to religion. However, in the Christian tradition, the morality of the society is integrated into the teachings of the Church. As Church involvement has declined, this has left many young women today, and also their mothers, without much guidance.

This is an introduction to a short new book by Lori Alexander, called Biblical Womanhood — a Study Guide. It is only $1.95 in Kindle version.

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A “Sex Goddess” is not a slut. Nope. A Good Girl can be a sex goddess.

You are going to be doing something together for the next forty years, so you might as well do it right.

Those babies aren’t going to make themselves.

I describe what I mean by a Sex Goddess in the Good Wife Level 5:

Since we are talking about the Good Wife Level 5 here, of course her sex life is the stuff of legend. She is not horny all the time, does not have an “insatiable sexual appetite,” and is not interested in sex with men (or women) other than her husband. Kinky and deviant things she regards as a sign of dysfunction, for people who, for some reason, can’t enjoy things the normal way. She is normally quite modest, and careful not to attract the attention of other men with suggestive dress or coquettish behavior. Other men notice anyway, and regard her with a kind of respectful admiration. Sex is not always such a big affair, because that would become silly. But, from time to time, she and her husband enjoy a long session of lovemaking, where she will have a dozen or more orgasms over the course of an hour or longer — she can never keep count. And since she has a bangin’ hot body (for her age), this is quite a lot of fun for her husband, who hardly has any interest in other women, who he knows could hardly be any better and very likely much worse. With the help of “wife goggles,” her husband considers his wife very sexy well into her forties and even fifties. Her husband too, knowing that sex is a shared endeavor and that he has to keep up his end of the deal, keeps himself in shape and polishes his lovemaking skills. If you asked the Good Wife Level 5 what she attributes her bedroom success to, she would insist it is her husband’s extraordinary ability and inherent natural sexiness, since he does the work and she mostly just rolls her eyes back and goes along for the ride. If you asked the husband, he would certainly give credit to his wife, since he is not doing anything else than any other man might do, but he is getting much better results. The Good Wife Level 5 read on the internet somewhere that 75% of women report that they rarely or never achieve orgasm during vaginal intercourse, but she regards this as ridiculous and inconceivable. She might get interested in sex as a realm of exploration and study, just as she is interested in all the other aspects of her life. She has her favorite parts of the Kama Sutra. She might get involved in Tantric sex practices, and not in a dilettantish way either. This would require the participation of her husband, who would also join her on this journey, as any man would who is not a damn fool.

This is a series originally written for men — men who, over and over, do stupid things that they should not do. Thus, they need to be talked to in plain language. I am presenting it here for women, particularly younger women, who still have something left to save. Mostly, it is pretty obvious stuff, that women can agree with. But, alas, like men, women today do the same stupid stuff over and over, which they should not do. For example:

Prescription antidepressants are bad for you. If you need evidence that you are a fucked up mess, you have it right there. So, don’t get to that point in the first place.

Don’t complain about your health. (a common means of manipulation, attention-whoring, and excusing indolence)

Don’t make fake rape claims. If you were really raped for real, you might just want to shut up about it. Also included: don’t make fake domestic violence claims. If you have really experienced real domestic violence, it is probably because you chose that kind of guy on purpose to begin with, which was obvious to everyone around you.

Don’t be messy. Also, don’t be a whore.

“Strong and Independent Woman” = noisy pain in the ass who is unfit for a relationship.

You could go on and on and on. It would be nice if a few girls today didn’t end up a shitshow at 30.

When a nation is torn apart by war, it can be rebuilt. Foundations can be re-poured and made with stronger concrete; buildings and bridges can be reconstructed using modern materials and updated practices; and infrastructures can be improved upon and modernized—things can be made better and stronger than they were in the past due to technological advancements and the know-how provided by men.

But what about the people? Sadly, the ravages of war will be etched into their minds until death. The passage of time will certainly ease old wounds, but ultimately, people can’t be rebuilt, they must be replaced. Only a new generation can come along to provide a fresh start and relieve the pain that was once endured. And even then, history will always be there to remind everyone of the past.

It’s no different than a war being waged against feminist indoctrination and “equality.” There are no buildings, bridges, and monuments to rebuild or resurrect. But there are millions of battle hardened women with cum-drenched souls, mental disorders, and everlasting baggage. If every woman in America stood up today and said she wanted to end the war and return to traditionalism, it wouldn’t change a thing. You would still have the same amount of women worthy of commitment, marriage, and bearing your children as you do right at this moment: practically zero. [editor’s note: The good ones are gone by 26.)

A new generation of women would have to be brought up in order to see an improvement, but who would be the mothers and role models for this new crop of females? Who would we entrust to raise respectable young girls who would grow into traditional women with good values? The same degenerate losers we have at our disposal right now? The same women we deliberately avoid impregnating in the first place?

They would be the ones to pull it all together and steer the ship back on course? I don’t fucking think so. The foundations and infrastructures between the sexes are far too fractured and fragmented for things to ever be what they once were—never mind being improved upon or strengthened. This is a war that isn’t even close to being over, and we’re losing.

It’s not going to get better, it’s just that simple—this is it. Women are not going to magically become friendly, feminine, chaste and well-mannered just because that’s what men want them to be. Mental illnesses are not going to miraculously disappear with a pill or therapy. The carnage from all of the drugs, alcohol, and promiscuity is a permanent fixture on the American dating landscape—it’s not a bug, it’s a feature. This is not some passing storm that one can just ride out and there are no clear blue skies just beyond the horizon. And I wouldn’t count on this forecast changing anytime during our lifetimes, either, if I were you.

Additionally, we have to accept that women are fine with this—they like the storm. They have their beta male raincoats and their government sponsored umbrellas: they’re drier than a Jewish girl’s pussy when she’s surrounded by men who don’t make good money. They’re high, they’re dry, and they don’t have anything to worry about. And why would they?

No matter how bad life gets for a woman, no matter how much of a fuck-up she becomes and no matter how much destruction she leaves in her wake—some dickhead will be there ready and willing (and enthusiastically) to break her fall. This is why they don’t take their jobs seriously; it’s why they don’t take their finances seriously; it’s why they don’t take anything seriously—because they know if things start to get the least bit difficult, men will always be be there to apply tourniquets to the most hemorrhaging areas of their lives. And the worst part is: they’ll never appreciate or be grateful for any of it.

That’s not easy to accept, especially since men have no such luxury: it’s either make it or break it, sink or swim. No matter which direction you turn, the guns of failure are aimed directly at your temple, and, in many cases, it’s women with their dirty little fingers comfortably nestled on the triggers, patiently waiting for the opportune moment to squeeze.

The modern woman is not going to take care of you. She’s not going to pick you up when you fall and she’s not going to be there for you when you fail. A supportive, decent woman is something your grandfathers and, perhaps, your fathers got to enjoy. But for you? Nope, you’re on your own, buddy. It’s on you, as a man, to step it up and get to where you want to be.

Women aren’t taught to appreciate your efforts and sacrifices. Your success as a man will always be reduced to “privilege,” luck, or some other make believe advantage or benefit that you wish like hell you truly had. Women either hate you for your success or want to use you because of it—loving you for it never enters the equation. This is the default setting on the modern female, and there’s no way to reprogram the bitch.

And that is what you are up against. You’re surrounded by a very sick group of battle-worn women, and it’s from this pool of women that you’re supposed to—somehow—find someone decent and respectable with whom you can build a solid relationship and start a family. The odds of finding a good one aren’t in your favor, and the majority of us aren’t going to make it.

Despite this unfortunate reality, we still have lives to live. We still have our biological needs and those must be met one way or another. For better or worse, these are the women we have at our disposal. So, it’s in our best interests to be proactive in our defenses, and to ensure our future and well-being stay firmly in tact. We do this by sniffing out red flags and knowing when it’s best to just walk—or run, if necessary—away. It is my goal to provide this knowledge to the very best of my ability.

Basically, if you want a good marriage and family, you better actually do something that produces that result — and from a young age, like 16. If you spent all your time and energy doing everything that is contrary to that result, it might not happen.

Unfortunately, women can’t figure this out for themselves, until after the age of 30, when it is too late for most of them. That is why older women like Suzanne Venker have to explain it.

Lori Alexander, of The Transformed Wife, wondered why today’s Christians don’t support getting married young. In the past, women got married around age 16-25, with the peak and ideal window around age 18-20.

It wasn’t that long ago — the 1950s and 1960s — when the age of first marriage was about the lowest in US history.

Even today, millions of women (about 14% of all married women) marry their high school sweethearts, typically around age 18-20. Commonly, these relationships begin when the girl is 15-17. And, they often involve “dating.”

In Mexico, and elsewhere in Spain and Latin America, a girl was considered ready for courtship at age 15. This was celebrated as the quinceanera.

In the US, “Sweet Sixteen” was a similar celebration, and 16 was a typical age of “debut” among the upper classes.

Apparently, it is OK if a 16yo girl and 17yo boy become a couple and get married a year or two later. But, it is not OK if a 21yo man and a 16yo girl become interested in each other, perhaps not even “dating,” but an actual courtship, and they actually get married. Anything but that! If that same 21yo man gets married to another 21yo man, well, that’s OK, even among some Christians. Every kind of degeneracy is tolerated and celebrated, but not that.

“But,” seems a common complaint, “a girl that age is not mature enough to make a commitment of marriage.” Unless, apparently, she marries a boy of the same age who is equally clueless. Then, it’s OK. But, if she were to court with a man of 25, who is probably more capable of supporting a wife and children, and not so clueless, somehow that’s a problem.

In the 1850 data above, the peak of the curve (the mode) is about 19 for women, and about 24 for men.

The real Laura Ingalls began courting the real Almanzo Wilder when she was 15, and he was 25. They married when she was 18, in the year 1885.

Nevertheless, it is true that women of that age have bad judgement. That is why, in the past, the process was inevitably guided by the parents, who would make an effort to ensure that their daughters met the right sort of men. Of course their permission was required for marriage.

Some of this comes from the Feminist types, who are worried that, once they get tired of “learning about what kind of men they want,” during the ages 15-30, there won’t be any men left to save their hoe ass. Sensible men don’t want to wait around for a decade until their future wives get tired of having sex with other men. They would be looking for younger women without all this sordid history, who have more than a few months left in their prime childbearing years of ages 16-32, who have some remaining pair bonding capability, who haven’t been poisoned by feminist/Leftist filth in college, who aren’t already married to their careers, and who don’t have such a nasty fucking attitude. They might seek out sixteen year olds who they might marry at age 18.

Even today, about 60% of college students are virgins when they enter college. Avoiding premarital sex is not so hard when you only have to avoid it until age 20.

I estimate that about 20% of American women make good wives. Another 20% or so could have made good wives, but things didn’t work out. The median age of marriage today is about 28, but a woman who gets married at age 28 is often in a relationship with the man she will marry by age 26, or earlier. I think most of the 20% of women that make Good Wives are gone by 26. Of the 20% that could have made good wives, but didn’t; by age 26, most of them have been too far corrupted.

These numbers, admittedly, leave out the Fuglies, some of whom might make good wives to equally Fugly men. No woman should be Fugly, and wouldn’t be, if she ate well and got some exercise. Oh well.

So, by age 26, the good women are gone. They are no longer single. A few are, but they are the stragglers. So, who is left?

About 25% of non-Hispanic White children today are born to Single Moms. Let’s say that means that about 25% of non-Hispanic White women become Single Moms. Probably, they are not married by 28 either. If half of women are married by then, but none of the Single Moms, that means about half of single women over 26 are Single Moms. If 20% of women are confirmed sluts, and these don’t get married by 26 (before their Epiphany Phase), then 40% of the women who are left after age 26 are Sluts. Plus, all the other wreckage and leftovers. When the good ones are gone, it seems like all the women who are left Are Like That.