Men looking for wives in today’s swamp of party sluts looking for Captain Save-A-Ho and “good girls” ground down and worn out by a decade of “dating” might despair at the seeming lack of suitable women. But, actually, a CDC study found that 43% of senior high school girls were virgins in 2015, and this was actually up from 35% in 2009. A fairly large percentage of college girls (hard as it may be to believe) are also virgins. So, if you are aiming for the 16-25 range, there are still a lot of options even among those girls who are not necessarily pursuing a “no sex before marriage” strategy. I think that young women today have a vague sense that “dating” and “hookup culture” has become a meatgrinder from which few emerge with happy results, and they are pulling back a little bit. Still, they don’t know what else to do.
Nevertheless, only about 3% of women are virgins at marriage. So, it seems that premarital sex is part of the accepted path to marriage. This certainly creates problems for women: damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
Those women who have deliberately chosen to avoid premarital sex, and even premarital kissing (!), are a lonely bunch. It is not easy for a girl to say today: “No, you can’t kiss me, but you can marry me.” Men don’t know what to do with that. In the “dating for fun and sex without commitment” model, it is an instant dealbreaker.
The point here is: virtuous girls are rare today, but the men who want them are even rarer, so there is a relatively large amount of supply and not very much demand. Rather nice girls are getting no attention and languishing unmarried, and even unkissed. This is good for the man that is considering pursuing the Courtship Model to find a wife today.
Let’s meet a few of these girls.
Never been kissed at 19. Any man who is unmoved by her particular manner of gentle romantic coquettishness could probably use some testosterone injections.
Six years later …
Miss Universe competitor from Philippines says that she has never had a boyfriend. (Yes, I know but that’s what she says.)
Yesterday, our pastor said that an atheist man set out to figure out what destroys nations. His conclusion was that the leaving of morals (disintegration of family and unbound sexuality) is what destroys nations in three generations. We can see this happening in our nation.
Chapter 3.XLVIII.—How Gargantua showeth that the children ought not to marry without the special knowledge and advice of their fathers and mothers.
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Could the Goths, the Scyths, or Massagets do a worse or more cruel act to any of the inhabitants of a hostile city, when, after the loss of many of their most considerable commanders, the expense of a great deal of money, and a long siege, they shall have stormed and taken it by a violent and impetuous assault? May not these fathers and mothers, think you, be sorrowful and heavy-hearted when they see an unknown fellow, a vagabond stranger, a barbarous lout, a rude cur, rotten, fleshless, putrified, scraggy, boily, botchy, poor, a forlorn caitiff and miserable sneak, by an open rapt snatch away before their own eyes their so fair, delicate, neat, well-behavioured, richly-provided-for and healthful daughters, on whose breeding and education they had spared no cost nor charges, by bringing them up in an honest discipline to all the honourable and virtuous employments becoming one of their sex descended of a noble parentage, hoping by those commendable and industrious means in an opportune and convenient time to bestow them on the worthy sons of their well-deserving neighbours and ancient friends, who had nourished, entertained, taught, instructed, and schooled their children with the same care and solicitude, to make them matches fit to attain to the felicity of a so happy marriage, that from them might issue an offspring and progeny no less heirs to the laudable endowments and exquisite qualifications of their parents, whom they every way resemble, than to their personal and real estates, movables, and inheritances? How doleful, trist, and plangorous would such a sight and pageantry prove unto them? You shall not need to think that the collachrymation of the Romans and their confederates at the decease of Germanicus Drusus was comparable to this lamentation of theirs? Neither would I have you to believe that the discomfort and anxiety of the Lacedaemonians, when the Greek Helen, by the perfidiousness of the adulterous Trojan, Paris, was privily stolen away out of their country, was greater or more pitiful than this ruthful and deplorable collugency of theirs? You may very well imagine that Ceres at the ravishment of her daughter Proserpina was not more attristed, sad, nor mournful than they. Trust me, and your own reason, that the loss of Osiris was not so regrettable to Isis, nor did Venus so deplore the death of Adonis, nor yet did Hercules so bewail the straying of Hylas, nor was the rapt of Polyxena more throbbingly resented and condoled by Priamus and Hecuba, than this aforesaid accident would be sympathetically bemoaned, grievous, ruthful, and anxious to the woefully desolate and disconsolate parents.
1) Get Up Off Your Knees. 2) Get Your Patriarchy On. 3) Tell The Bitches What To Do.
Readership: Fathers; Parents; Grandparents; Christians; Introduction The author of Biblical Gender Roles made the following statements in a comment.* “From everything I have seen of Red Pill, it completely rejects a man appealing to a woman’s sense of duty and honor as if women are incapable of having any such sense. So according to the […]
Women getting to about 35 and freezing their eggs has become popular. I think it is little more than fantasy and delusion. Upfront, the process has an official success rate of 14.8%. But, that even assumes that we successfully get to the point of actually wanting to unfreeze those eggs, for example by finding a man. Roosh (yes, him) recently summed things up on Twitter.
Women: if you get to the “freezing eggs” point, I suggest:
Finding a husband pronto. Think “arranged marriage.”
Get artificially inseminated and becoming a single mother.
Stop using the Pill and don’t tell your boyfriend.
Accept your fate and be a wonderful Aunt with plenty of time and money for travel.
You are out of time. You have one last chance to stop fantasizing.
Whoa, is arranged marriage a thing now? I thought I was going to be very lonely with that one, for a long time. But, a lot of people are perhaps realizing that dragging out the getting-married process over 10-20 years causes little more than trauma and damage. Get it done.
This is a message for: men, although women should find it of interest.
In this life, you will either marry or not marry. You will either have children or not have children. If you do have children, I suggest that you marry first. (There have been some, such as Tom Leykis, who have suggested fulfilling your biological responsibilities by just impregnating a woman and paying child support; others have suggested surrogacy.) There are a lot of reasons, today, why marriage is a bad idea, which have been covered by the MGTOW people. But, in the end, some men will marry. In general I am a supporter of marriage and family, in principle. We are trying to get to the point where it can be recommended in actual practice as well.
In practice, about 92% of men eventually marry.
If you marry, marry deliberately. It is something that you Do or that you Do Not Do. Don’t stumble into it haphazardly, because your girlfriend, who is fun to hang around with on weekends but who you never considered fit to be your Wife and Mother Of Your Children, is pressuring you into it. If you are going to Do it, then you want to do it well. The consequences of failure here are enormous.
The only good reason to get married is to have children and family. Marriage also provides other benefits, including sex and companionship, and maybe evening meals that are much better than what you often cook for yourself. But, given the great risks, costs and restrictions of marriage today (and in fact in every era, though never so bad as now), there is no reason to get married just for sex or companionship alone.
Here I am going to suggest how a man today might find that the Courtship Model works for him, to achieve his goals.
In the Courtship Model, men marry young virgins, typically in the 16-25 age range, with an ideal around 18-20. You could use the Courtship Model for older women with a history, but this introduces complications and is suboptimal. The courtship process is quick: three months from an initial meeting to a wedding ceremony gives a general idea. It could be three days. But, it is a process, like the process of getting a job. It is not a stable state, like “dating,” that one continues indefinitely.
At first glance, this notion may seem impossibly distant. Are we seriously to believe that we are to marry a girl, without actually having sex … or kissing … her first?
But, that is not really so much of a concern in the Courtship model. If you are going to marry a girl, and it is going to be quick (let’s say three months from when you begin “courting”), then you can wait for three months, get married, and then you two can make love nonstop for a month. (This is called the “honeymoon.”) There is really nothing you are going to determine, regarding a girl’s ability to serve as a wife and mother to you, from giving her a poke in the crotch beforehand. Actually, this would probably cloud your judgement — and this is, I might say, the primary means by which so many women today who are unfit for marriage end up eventually finding husbands. Heavily-indebted sluts with tattoos have to do something when, around age 28, they decide to go looking for their Captain Save-A-Ho, but don’t let them do it to you.
In the Courtship Model, you make it clear upfront that you are looking for a wife, and there is going to be a straight Yes or No result in a short amount of time. Women too, given a Take It Or Leave It proposal, might find that they would rather Take It than take their chances with whatever other nebulous happenstance (“dating”) that constitutes her other options, even if she doesn’t really know you that well.
The advantage of the girl who does not have sex with you before marriage is, of course, that she also does not have sex with other men before marriage. Remember how sweet and tender your first girlfriend was? It was probably in high school. A woman will never have that kind of pair-bonding potential again. Every time a woman has a failed relationship (including those that she ends herself), she adds to her distrust and hard-heartedness towards men. She builds the habit that relationships don’t last. This is one reason why marriages with virgin brides have the highest success rate, even in an environment like ours today where divorce is promoted from every angle.
Among other things, a woman that is a virgin at marriage today is already well-practiced at separating herself from the mainstream culture. It is true that this may have been imposed on her by her parents, and reinforced by her community such as a church group — and she might not be so successful at this when these supports are removed. Nevertheless, it is a good precedent for avoiding all the other negative influences from media and society that she will be exposed to throughout her life.
This woman should be young — age 16-25, with an ideal around 18-20. I would not cross out sixteen-year-olds today. You might have to get things rolling at an early point, maybe have a discussion with her mother, so that she does not end up going off to college and making a mess of her wifely potential. Then, you can marry at 18. Saint Mary was sixteen when she married Joseph, who was much older. It worked out OK. She is not going to get any better with age.
You can scope out the family that she comes from, which will probably be pretty good. Their wealth and status is not such a big deal, since it is primarily you who are bringing the money to the table, but obviously there is better and worse here. Look for high standards, a strong sense of morals and behavior, and encouragement of wifely skills and natural feminine inclinations, such as a love of children. There aren’t many quality virgin girls who grew up in single-mother households with a revolving door of boyfriends. Feminists go direct to the trashcan, although it is hard to imagine a (voluntary) feminist virgin.
Of course she should be pretty, and slim, but it is not necessary that she be a great beauty. As has been said many times down through the centuries, sometimes it is nice to have a wife that does not attract the attention of every man in the room. Often, a husband sort of forgets what his wife looks like, due to constant exposure. He doesn’t really know if another man might think her very pretty, or not so much. Even if she really is an extraordinary beauty, you won’t care that much, and whether she has a bad habit of nagging and complaining, or if she is a good cook, will be much more important to you. Likewise if she is somewhat plain. But, there is no reason to accept ugly and fat girls, unless perhaps they come from wealthy families. In general, if a woman is tolerably pretty and slim, then various character traits are much more important than an additional step up in beauty. Beauty is often overvalued in the wife-choosing process, and also, it fades. Just as location, location, location is the rule for real estate (rather than the building itself, such as how many bathrooms it has, which tends to get too much attention from the homebuyer), so too character, character, character is the rule for women. It is said that, after age 40, you get the face (and body) you deserve, and many women who were a 6/10 in their youth can advance to an 8/10 or even9/10, compared to other women in their age group, from taking good care of themselves. Other women crash into obesity. In other words, character also produces beauty, later in life.
Probably you will want a wife whose intelligence is somewhat similar to your own. An intelligent man will want someone he can talk with. A man of average intelligence will want a woman who does not think he is a dunce. But, intelligence is not the same as education, or the ability to jump through educational hoops on demand. Smart girls are usually smart in their free time. Look for the seventeen-year-old girl who is reading George Eliot for fun because she finds Hollywood movies intolerably stupid. She isn’t going to get any smarter at college. But, a woman can be a very good wife, without needing much intelligence. Character is not the same as intelligence. There are a lot of smart girls who will use their wonderful brains to figure out novel ways to skin you alive in divorce court, or to invent a neverending deluge of plausible reasons why It Is All Your Fault, or why you need to do XYZ because Feminism.
It helps if you are in love with each other — that there is mutual attraction that goes beyond your respective “courtship resumes,” and it is not so much of a dry business proposition. Since you will probably have a fair amount of experience, and she not very much, it might be mostly a matter of her falling in love with you, and you liking it. Often, all this takes is for her to be in your general vicinity for an adequate amount of time — with the unspoken understanding that she might be riding your dick soon if things go well, which is pretty exciting for a virgin of eighteen. This is one goal of the courtship process.
Much more can be said about these matters, which I will get to in time. But, already perhaps I have convinced many men that the Courtship Model is what they want to follow, when it is their time to do what 92% of men eventually do.
One of the funny things that happens is that the “red pill” types, who tend to be coolly analytical and not attached to any predefined moral code, end up being more “traditional” than all but the most ardent Christians. This was my conclusion too: that you would either have Courtship or chaos, and if you choose Courtship, then everything that is contrary to that pattern will have to be discarded. This is the “realistic guide to men getting married,” a classic from Men 101 (formerly MGTOW 101) on YouTube. Women could also learn a lot from this.
Since we have been on the topic, I will bring up the point here that, not only is being a babe (the term “hottie” implies a little too much sluttishness) a rather nice thing in general and also an important part of your husband-hunting strategy, it is also one of your primary duties as a wife. You do not “pull the pin on the fat grenade” and bloat up like a pig after your wedding day. You do not make a bunch of excuses after childbirth. Looking good (and consequently, good diet and exercise) is something that the Good Wife does for the rest of her life.
For example:
Yes, this is Hollywood actor Pierce Brosnan, who is not only Alpha As Fuck to begin with, but also plays that role in movies. And, that is his wife, who is, naturally, the sort of woman that a man like him deserves.
Mandatory Credit: Photo by David Fisher/REX/Shutterstock (9762646u)
Pierce Brosnan and wife Keely Shaye Smith
‘Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again’ film premiere, Arrivals, London, UK – 16 Jul 2018
Here is Pierce Brosnan again, looking as good as ever. He is 63 in this photo, and teaching all us men what we should also look like at age 63. If he was single today, at age 63, he could have a “soft harem” of girls under 25 by the end of the week. They would be pulling each other’s hair out for a seat in his German luxury sedan. There is his wife again, looking like … well, let’s be nice. I respect Brosnan for sticking with this woman, actually. I was going to say: “which is more than she deserves,” but as a faithful married woman, she does deserve that. Considering that she could afford all the personal trainers, dieticians and personal cooks that money can buy, her failure is particularly acute. But, there are plenty of slim high-society wives whose husbands look like the male equivalent, and they deserve fidelity also.
Nevertheless: No fatties.
NO NO NO NO NO NO
I find that it helps to attach words to image, so we will here admire some “fitness moms,” who exercise regularly, look great, and are married with children.
LIKE THIS, GIRLS:
It gets even better when Dad joins the fun. Pierce Brosnan would.
Those girls are going to have veeeery high standards when they get older. And those baby boys are not going to tolerate any fat bitches, no way.
You don’t really need to be so ripped up as this. But, it just happens when you eat well and exercise every day.
If you wife looks good in a bikini while actually pregnant, you are winning.
Yoga is good. I like yoga. Oh yes.
Tattoos on four-year-olds, not so much.
You don’t really need to go to fitness competitions as a husband/wife pair. But, you could.
Of course, everybody ages. When she is in her matronly years (45+), a wife should still look good, just as Pierce Brosnan does as a man. Here you can put the bikini away. “Dignity” and “elegance” are your goals. Here is former top model and raw foodist Carol Alt, in her mid-fifties. This is what Pierce Brosnan’s wife (who was almost as good looking as Carol Alt when younger) should look like now:
Not too much makeup. Natural beauty.
Nice job, Carol!
For her age group, still one of the most beautiful women around.
I have a soft spot for these “before and after” pics. In a world where people seem to be getting uglier and uglier, here are a few girls who went the other way. You could be one too, girls. It’s not hard to do.
5/10 to 9+/10. Potential fully realized.
4/10 to 8/10. You would be excited too.
4/10 to 7/10. She could probably clean up to an 8.
6/10 to 9/10. This is a very pretty girl to begin with. She looks over 30, so on an age-adjusted basis, we might have to give her a 10.
3/10 to 8/10. I don’t like the tattoos much, but: Great job!
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