I was at a party talking with a better sort of girl. Yes, they do exist.

In 2021, she graduated from a Christian college in Manhattan. She was planning to return to her hometown in Georgia. After a few inquiries, I gathered that the main motivation was to meet up with her boyfriend — presumably, her high school sweetheart.

So, she had managed to spend four years unsupervised in Sodom on the Hudson — admittedly, at a Christian college — and still had connections with her high school boyfriend. Probably, she did not stack up too much of a body count along the way.

Naturally, I took this as a good opportunity to give some unsolicited advice.

I did this in part because young people today tend to get no guidance from anybody, including their parents. Certainly the common experience from people my age is that they had virtually no guidance at all. Among younger people, of the better sorts of families, I think it was more common to push women into career-oriented paths, even disparaging relationships as an obstacle to career success.

But, having sallied forth into advice-giving, there then rose the question of: what can you say in a minute or two that might be helpful?

I told this woman that, among women her age, perhaps 50% of them will never marry. The Pew Research Center estimates the figure at more like 25%, which is still way above the 8% common for White women up until now. But, for some reason, I think the real number (which we will not know until twenty years from now) might be much higher than that.

Marriage is not something that “just happens” these days. You have to do it deliberately.

Also, I said: She should plant the flag with marriage and family. This is the hill you want to die on.

Plan on homeschooling.

Since she was already leaving New York to return to her (presumably) high school sweetheart, she had already discarded career ambitions for “relationships.” She had already made a sort of do-or-die commitment to marry her high school sweetheart, although perhaps she did not herself understand this.

So, having come this far, she should marry this guy, and make it quick. They have already known each other for over four years, so get it done in six months. Then, have a bunch of babies before Age 27.

Among college educated women, about 35% of first marriages end in divorce, and 90% of these divorces are filed by women. In other words, women themselves blow up their families. If a woman doesn’t blow up her own family, there isn’t much risk. So, don’t do that.

If you were to ask all these college-educated women, the 90%, that blew up their own families, I think every one of them would claim that their ex-husbands were “mentally and physically abusive.” This is because they are a pack of damn liars. Women know that other women lie, but the younger ones may not know that these too are lies.

Today, we men have to sift out the women who are much too high risk/low reward for marriage and family. Men are better off alone than marrying these women. They are unfit to be wives and mothers. Please don’t get children involved. Let’s just say that 50% of women fall into these categories.

But, there are also the Other 50% — and also, the Top 10%, which, let’s say, includes this fine young woman. She was, on top of her other virtues, also quite beautiful. We can be happy that she at least seems to have found a husband. But also, she apparently spent four years in Manhattan, and no other man snapped her up, which probably wouldn’t have been that hard if you tried.

So, just as we Men should resolve to leave aside those women who can serve no useful purpose as a wife and mother, and only strew destruction and chaos in the lives of everyone she comes in contact with, we should also endeavor to make sure that those better sort of women, with whom lie our best hopes, are not abandoned and, most likely, left to accumulate damage and hardship as the years pass by. Those women who probably could be good, and even great, wives and mothers should be given a chance to realize their natural destiny.

Women, as we know, are somewhat shapeless and formless by nature. They are blown about helplessly by their feelings and emotions. They have no principles.

Women look to men to provide order, form, and direction. Women conform to the “container” provided by their surroundings, whether it is the men in their life — their fathers or husbands — or organizations such as schools and corporations, or social pressures, or examples on television.

Thus, men need to provide this “container.” This is “leadership.” Or, it is “frame.” Basically, it means: Tell The Bitches What To Do. It may also include discipline and punishment. Sometimes, in the past, if they deserved it, men would take their wayward wives, tie them to a post, and whip them. No More Mr. Nice Guy. Women were not exactly unhappy about this — especially, if the women knew they deserved it.

Rather, women tended to be disappointed if they did something obviously wrong, and suffered no punishment. WTF kind of half-assed, limp-dick Patriarchy is this, anyway?

Unfortunately, many men today seek favor by conforming to a woman’s wishes. Basically, this is “simping.” First of all, you can’t “conform” to a woman’s wishes, because they change like the wind. There is no “container” to conform to. Women’s wishes are, you could say, limitless. Second, women hate this, because men are essentially acting in a feminine manner. Now there is no order, form and direction, because women can’t, and men won’t.

There are many reasons why men do this. For one thing, they spend nearly all their young lives conforming to women’s wishes — their mothers, and their teachers at school, who are mostly women. For this they are rewarded, while independent-minded men are punished. This does not produce strong men.

But, a man can certainly be kind, generous and loving to a woman, especially if she deserves it. Tell The Bitch What To Do, and then, if she cooperates productively, give her her just reward.

When women quit their jobs to stay at a home and care for their children, sometimes they need to cut back on their expenses. Sometimes this is easy stuff, like skipping a week of skiing in Colorado. But, sometimes it is big stuff, like moving to a smaller house.

But recently, a lot of women have been leaving their jobs for one reason or another, and they end up at home even somewhat unexpectedly. Maybe they got kicked out due to vaccine requirements, or maybe they had to stay at home because the children were attending public school remotely.

Either way, many women found that they quit their jobs, and … they didn’t have to cut back at all. The costs of working were actually more than their net income. They were working for nothing, and they didn’t even know it.

The income of a working wife is subject to payroll and income taxes. Then, with whatever is left over, the household has to pay for childcare expenses. This includes daycare, and it might include private schooling, if you don’t like public schools. Even if you do use public schools, it probably includes some kind of afterschool program. Then, a woman has to pay for the direct costs of working, which includes commuting — probably a second car — lunches, clothing, etc. Then, there is a long list of things that are not direct costs of working, but which tend to arise because a woman is too tired to do typical housewife tasks. This is often a lot of restaurants and takeout. It might include paid activities for the children. It might include babysitting or other expenses.

A big benefit for staying at home, today, is homeschooling. You face either public schools today, which are mediocre even in the best neighborhoods, or private schools which can become very expensive, and even then can be far less than ideal. There may be no good private school alternative in your neighborhood, at any price.

Another important item is food. If you don’t have someone at home preparing healthy meals from scratch, from healthy ingredients, the alternatives are only restaurant food (including fast food and takeout) and prepared foods from supermarkets. These are all bad alternatives. If you eat nothing but restaurant food/fast food/takeout/supermarket prepared foods all day every day, your health is going to suffer.

A stay-at-home Mother might also be involved in elder care. Probably, most women today don’t relish the idea of taking care of her own parents in their decline, or those of her husband, but it is something that women did in the past. This can save a ton of money — money that the family may eventually receive, in the form of an inheritance. But, even while the parents are still alive, let’s say that they are spending $40,000 a year to maintain their own household (with difficulty due to their age), forgetting for now the super-high expenses of assisted living or nursing homes. As part of a woman’s household, their additional costs may be little more than groceries — let’s say, $1000 a month for an elderly couple. If the elderly couple agrees to pay $3000 a month for their upkeep ($36,000 a year), that means an extra $2000 of tax-free cash for the household per month — enough for both house and car payments. Everybody wins.

Then there are the “soft” costs, which are, in many cases, the most important. An overworked woman is in a constant bad mood — as anyone would be, in that situation. This will affect her relationship with her husband and children.

But even if we set this aside, women should sit down and calculate whether they are getting any net monetary benefit at all from working full time. A lot of women weren’t, and had no idea.

I was talking with a friend whose daughter recently had her first baby.

She was making $250,000+ per year doing marketing for pharmaceutical companies. She was planning to go back to work. But, she decided instead to stay at home with her baby.

Her husband doesn’t make as much as she did. The household income will fall by 50%+. She doesn’t care. She figures that they will get by somehow.

Around here, we promote the idea of the stay-at-home Mom. Cut back on expenses if you have to. Some women will be offended by this. But, if you are a woman that actually wants to be a Stay At Home Mom, then do it!

Men sometimes have a problem with this. There was a time when even I thought my wife should go to work, on principle, even though we didn’t need the money. But, she refused. So, guys, go out and make some damn money, and stop complaining. You will be glad you did.

How can you, as a man, do this to your wife? pic.twitter.com/baFC7HZbnq

— Your Favorite Fed 💋 (@amorettelocke) December 7, 2021

This woman really loves her baby. But also, working full time, plus commuting, is a damn grind even without children. This is harder for women. After not working for 12 weeks, I wouldn’t want to go back to work either. And what’s wrong with that?

“Dating is hard for virgins,” especially girls who want to wait until marriage. This is because, as Tom Leykis used to say, “dating is fucking.” Saying that you want to “date but not have sex” is like showing up to a tennis court and saying “I don’t believe in tennis racquets.”

So, you are not going to play that game. You are playing a different game. And, you have to say what the game is that you are playing, so that people don’t expect you to play tennis.

The game you are playing has basically two aspects:

One is casual socializing, without any expectation of sex. This is “below dating.” It is more like “hanging out,” and often happens in groups instead of couples. Courtship, it seems, requires some entry levels that are not all about marriage. In the past, people went on picnics, or had dances, or had clubs of various sorts. There was also “traditional dating,” where people went on dates, but it was understood that no sex was involved. It was just about meeting people. For example, women might schedule three dates in a week, with different men. This was not whoring, it was just meeting people. No kissing.

The other aspect is: Courtship. Here, you are specifically looking for a marriage partner, and you expect to get married perhaps within six months of finding a partner.

Thus, a virgin girl, let’s say of 18, who wants to wait until marriage, might either casually socialize in ways that are definitely not “dating,” probably in groups, or, will be actively engaged in a husband search. There are no “boyfriends.”

Sometimes, a girl won’t be interested in marriage right away, for whatever reason. But, women tended to get married young in the past, Age 16-25 with a peak around 18-20. If you get married at 19, it was because you started your husband search at 16. You can’t really expect a woman to avoid sex until marriage, and then wait until Age 28 to get married. That is bonkers. So, women, if you are going to go the virgin-until-marriage route, that also means that you should get married young. In the past, during the nineteenth century, 23 year old women were not virgins. They were getting pounded four nights a week, on their way to their third child.

Women are confused because it seems like men don’t want to date virgins, but also, that men say they want to marry virgins. It is hard for women to find these marriage-oriented men, who will seriously consider the idea of getting married within about six months, and might marry a girl without having sex first. Also, it is hard for marriage-oriented men to find these young virgin girls — so hard that, although they might definitely entertain the idea of marrying a virgin girl of 18, if one somehow crossed his path, they may not take any actual steps toward achieving that goal. Many of these men might be over the age of 25, and you can’t exactly go hanging around the high school.

In the process of Courtship, you can go on a date. A man should know that no sex is expected. If you are going to get married anyway, within six months or less, then it is not that big a deal to wait a little bit — even, no kissing. Do not rinky-dink around for the 58.7 months it now typically takes for a couple to get married, after their first meeting. Get married or GTFO.

It would be nice if there were dating apps that were specifically for virgin women actively looking for husbands. (Maybe there are.) But, if you are using more mainstream methods, then you should say upfront what game you are playing. Your dating profile should say: I am looking for a husband, to get married within perhaps six months. I am a virgin, and no sex, and no kissing, before getting married.

This will eliminate 98% of men, which is not a bad thing since women get too much attention to deal with anyway. If your matches go from 800 to 5, what’s wrong with that?

From a man’s perspective, let’s say that he was actually interested in finding a good wife, and would prefer a virgin bride of 18-20, of course accepting that there would be no sex until marriage. How would this man find a girl like that?

So, basically, for young women of perhaps 16-20 who wonder how this is supposed to work, you have to say:

PICK MEEEEEEE to be your wife and the mother of your children, because I am a virgin girl who wants to get married soon! I am so much better than all those other hoes! (Which is true.)

Don’t keep it a secret, that you mention hesitantly on your third date. Not gonna work.

This will make a lot of sense to men. They will understand.

We were discussing how to be not just a Good Wife, but a Wonderful Wife for a rich guy, who rarely end up with good wives, much less wonderful ones. Unfortunately, one common challenge for the Wonderful Wife of a rich guy is: some variant of the Side Chick.

Your rich guy is not likely to be a Wonderful Husband, who would never consider such a thing. He is likely to be a man of average virtue, who is exposed to waaaaay-above-average levels of temptation. Maybe, before long, there might be some sort of Side Chick.

What then? 99% of women would march straight off to the divorce lawyer, full of righteous indignation. Do not do this.

Let’s see what Debi Pearl, author of Created to be His Helpmeet (2014) has to say about it:

Your husband is, without a doubt, wrong. It would be wonderful if he were wise and godly, but he isn’t. [ed note: he is rich, which is not too bad.] … You now stand where millions of wives have stood. …

Yes, he is wrong, but your response, though justified, will certainly lead to the destruction of your marriage. … if you really, honestly want to win your husband back, you must change your game plan. Face it: you have a competitor. She is your rival. …

Your husband is going to love what is lovely to him. … The tool of your warfare is your loving, kind, delightful, radiant, adoring self. …

[Debi Pearl recommends being loving, kind, delightful, radiant, and adoring during the whole day, but she doesn’t stop there.]

Call his work, with a giggle in your voice, and give him fair warning that you expect “some loving” when he gets home …

[Now we get out the big guns.]

Once or twice a month, show up at work during lunchtime for a brief unexpected visit. Make sure you are looking radiant and delightfully in love. Your very sweetness and thankfulness toward your man will make that cheap office hussy feel she is beneath your class. And your “innocence” and confidence will cause all the men in the office to be angry at “the woman” for her underhanded advances. …

[And just in case you haven’t got the point yet:]

Be creative and aggressive in your private, intimate times. Keep him drained at home so he won’t have any sexual need at work. … God is on your side. Fight and win.

If a rich’s guys wife did this, she would enter into the Olympic Class of wonderful wives. For one thing, a rich guy knows that 99 out of 100 women would drag him through divorce court, instead of “keeping him drained at home.” He will know that his wife is a 1 in 100, or better.

Confused women on Twitter:

I don’t know why this is hard, but that’s why you have to 3) Tell The Bitches What To Do.

Stay at home daughter: This is what women did in the past, before they got married. But, they got married around Age 18-20. Women who stayed at their parents’ house were Spinsters — that is, they made themselves useful by spinning thread and weaving cloth. So, if you did go back to your parents’ house, it would be to get married right away. But, you can already get married right away, so what do you need to go to your parents’ house for? Just get married. The idea of a stay-at-home daughter was that she was protected by her Father from the degenerate world; basically, it means that she was a virgin. But, a woman that has already gone to college and then lives unsupervised in Sodom on the Hudson doesn’t exactly have a lot of cred when it comes to Purity and Innocence.

Au Pair in France: France is nice, but an au pair is basically a nanny, or a servant that does motherly duties for young children. It is what poor young women did, at least until they got married. So, just get married. If you want, get married to a French guy, make some babies, and then be a mother to your own children, not somebody else’s. Just say that you want to marry a French guy and live in France. If you are not too ugly and not too much of a loudmouth you might get your wish.

I used to know a Japanese woman living in Tokyo, at a big company, who had a bad case of Norway. She was nuts for everything Norwegian. She even look lessons in the Norwegian language. Yes, she married a Norwegian guy, and now lives in Norway.

In other words, just get married and make babies. Be a stay-at-home wife and mother. I suggest saying so publicly too: “I want to get married, have children, and be a stay-at-home Wife and Mother, preferably in France.”

Whether you are 15 or 81, a woman these days needs to focus on eating good food. Most of the stuff that people eat today is not good for them, and you can see the results: the ugliest and unhealthiest people ever.

The quality of your food matters more than the quantity. “Dieting” through calorie restriction doesn’t work well, and is no fun. If you eat good food, and get regular exercise, your body will tend to naturally maintain itself in a slim condition.

About all that a young woman needs to do to Be a Babe is to eat good food, exercise regularly, and pay a little attention to beautification. Your body type doesn’t really matter that much. Fortunately, this is about the least competitive environment for young women in all of US history. Easily 30%-40% of all women under age 30 end up Fugly, mostly due to their own carelessness rather than any inherent disadvantage.

Later, one of a wife and mother’s primary duties will be to prepare good food for her family.

Mostly, this “good food” means food prepared “from scratch,” or from single ingredients. Don’t buy things in the supermarket with a list of ingredients. You can make a few minor exceptions, mostly for condiments like ketchup and mustard, but even then, look for products that might be organic or have no funny things in their ingredients. Visit the produce section, the meat section, pick up some laundry detergent, and you are done. All those other aisles of packaged foods are not for you.

Although I would caution against using food with any kinds of ingredients, I would especially caution against “natural ingredients.” What is this? It can be anything, as long as it comes from a natural source. For example, if you make MSG in a chemical factory, but use soybeans as a starting point, you can call it “natural ingredients.” Also, even the ingredients that seem relatively harmless, would be better if you used better-quality alternatives. For example, a salad dressing that contains canola oil is not going to be as good for you as one that you made at home with organic olive oil.

Focus on fruits and vegetables. If you like, you can have meat, or perhaps, if that is not your style, then you can go in more of a vegan direction. There is a lot of focus on meat-heavy diets these days, but actually, Americans eat twice as much meat today as they did in 1900, and it is still going up. You could cut your meat intake in half, and it would still be a lot of meat. The main advantage of a meat-heavy diet is not that meat is so good for you, but it is better than processed foods made from GMO corn and soy, white sugar, seed oils, and stuff with weird additives. Meat is a single-ingredient food.

I would de-emphasize the “white foods,” including refined grains (white flour), sugar (white sugar), and vegetable oils, and things made from them (doughnuts). People ate chocolate cake in the past, and ice cream, but they didn’t eat it all the time, like people do today.

Around here, we look for bulk foods of high quality. We get organic rice or various sorts of organic beans, mostly in 25lb bags. Other bulky foundation foods include potatoes, onions, squash, beets and turnips. You can buy a 50lb bag of potatoes for $18.

Although we are not strictly no-wheat around here, we stay away from modern wheat. Unfortunately, although wheat has been a core element of the European diet since antiquity, common wheat underwent a change around 1980 that seems to have rendered it slightly toxic. I consider regular wheat a “GMO” food although this is not quite strictly true. This includes organic wheat. Instead, look for pre-1960 forms of wheat, or even pre-1700 forms. This includes: einkorn, emmer, and spelt. Einkorn is the original grain domesticated in Mesopotamia about 10,000 years ago. By the age of the Romans and Egyptians, the common form of wheat was Emmer. You can buy organic einkorn and emmer flour today, and make bread from it if you like. It is much heavier and crumblier than wheat bread — somewhat like cornbread — but it is satisfying nevertheless if you want something like “bread.” I think this is better than “gluten-free flour” alternatives. They work especially well for uses where you don’t need something so fluffy, like a cupcake. Try einkorn pasta (which you can purchase readymade, try vitacost.com), or pancakes made from emmer flour. Or, you can just skip the wheat. Asians didn’t use it.

Canning is a good way to prepare instant foods for later. It is not hard to put pasta sauces or soups into 1 qt. Mason jars. Put together 16 quarts of chili or minestrone soup on Saturday, and can it into jars. Then, whenever you want something quick, just open a jar and reheat it. Since you made it yourself, it will be much better quality than almost anything you can buy in a store.

Fruit is a nice instant food. You don’t have to cook it. You can just eat it. However, fruit often needs to be ripened. This is somewhat strange to some people. What, I can’t just eat it? Just set it aside somewhere to ripen. But, don’t forget it. Keep an eye on it, so you can eat it at its peak. A watermelon or pineapple makes a nice lunch. Just some watermelon or pineapple. That’s all.

Fruit is seasonal, so eat a lot of what’s in season. If it’s not in season, skip it until it is. Watermelon is a summer fruit. Cherries are available in early summer. Citrus is winter fruit. Apples ripen in the autumn. Tropical fruits like bananas and pineapples are available year-round, but they are best in winter since that is when there are no summer fruits available. There are also Southern Hemisphere seasons. There’s a burst of fresh grapes from Chile that arrives in US supermarkets around February. Anyway, if it’s cheap, it’s probably in season. If it’s expensive, then forget it — not only does it cost more, but it won’t taste as good because it is not in season. If you are buying fresh strawberries or peaches in March, where do you think those came from? Instead, you might be better off with frozen strawberries and peaches, in March.

While you can just eat fruit or meat, without much preparation, most vegetables are not very good by themselves. Remember steamed broccoli, or steamed green beans? Not so good just by itself, right? Most Americans are rather retarded about this. Vegetables need combination, and preparation and spices.

Green salads should be part of your diet almost every day. Make your own salad dressings.

I do not recommend any vegetarian “imitation foods” including soy burgers or vegan ice cream made from rice. But, since these are all processed foods, if you are sticking to single-ingredient foods, then you won’t be using this anyway.

If you eat meat, look for better quality meats.

The process of learning how to cook delicious food from single-ingredient sources can be a lot of fun. When you get the hang of it, it doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Just eat organic oatmeal for breakfast, instead of Lucky Charms. What’s so hard about that? If you’re busy, open a jar of homemade soup that you made six months ago. If you are too lazy even for that, then eat some fresh dates and walnuts, washed down with some apple juice.

Along the way, you will be much healthier, and look much better. Also, if you are feeding a family, it can be much cheaper. Even if you pay extra for organic ingredients, it is still pretty cheap if you buy in bulk and cook yourself.

Guess what girls: Men like women with full and perfectly formed tits.

I guess you knew that already.

But, in practice, they will marry most any sort of woman who is not too chubby, gets a little exercise, and stays in good shape — including flat-chested girls. It then becomes a question of: other virtues.

Personally, I have a thing for bony, flat-chested girls.

Nearly any woman, if she takes good care of herself, is good enough for most any man, in physical terms.

For example:

Here is a homely sort of girl, without makeup, without the aid of clothing, rather flat-chested, and with a hairstyle that hasn’t been popular since the reign of Mao Tse-Tung. She is actually posing in front of her toilet. But, making the best of what she has (on the right), she is definitely Good Enough for most any man — even the tippy-top sort of man, if he didn’t have better options available. She could easily provide her husband decades of Happy Fucking, especially if she embraces her natural potential to be a Sex Goddess.

Apparently, the Height Thing has been around a while, but women seem particularly dizzy about it in recent years. Maybe they get told that “they need to have high standards,” and they don’t really have any idea what this is supposed to mean, so they assume that it means they need to have “height standards.” Finding a decent sort of man, that is single, not too ugly, not too old, not too mean, not too druggy, or drunk-y, not too soy, not too wimpy, or simpy, or faggy, or otherwise Woke, who can support a family, and likes you, that you could possibly marry, is hard enough as it is. Why mess it up with dealbreaking height requirements?

In the 1950s, the pinnacle of American femininity was embodied by Grace Kelly:

Even after hundreds of starlets have come and gone, Grace Kelly, along with Marilyn Monroe or Rita Hayworth, remains in the top class of the most spectacular American women of all time.

She married Prince Ranier III of Monaco, and became Princess Grace.

Grace Kelly was 5’6″. It looks like Prince Ranier was about 5’7″.

Okay, he was not only wealthy, he was actually royalty, even of Monaco, a tiny city-state. They made a nice couple.

But, he was not too short.

OK, this is now completely demented.

Girls: It’s time to just say goodbye to the zombie hordes of women today that are on their way to the biggest Spinster Bubble the world has ever seen. For women getting married at 18, I recommend having your last children around Age 26, not your first.