“What do you bring to the table?” men sometime ask women. A popular response seems to be “I am the table,” which doesn’t even make sense. You are a piece of furniture? I guess the ability to formulate a coherent answer is not something she brings to the table.

I think what she really means is: “my pussy.” That nice … I guess … but usually it is best to rent by the hour. Especially when the woman herself has told you that the rest of her is worthless. A woman of this sort doesn’t even try to lie convincingly. She hasn’t even thought of what a good answer might be. She is not much more than a life-support system for her snatch. A rational man knows exactly what to do with a woman like this.

So, since it seems that many women are not capable of devising a response to this question, even in the form of a plausible lie, I will give you some help:

I am debt-free.
I am not a slut (preferably, a virgin).
I value children and family.
I am under 25.
I reject feminism.
I want to be a good wife and mother.
I want to be a stay-at-home Mom.
I will stay in shape and dress nicely.
I will not Compete, Criticize, Complain or Control.
I believe that women should be cooperative (“submissive”) to their husbands.
Raising our children well is a major life goal for me.
I want to homeschool our children.
I will keep a beautiful house.
I am frugal.
I will work every day for the family’s benefit.
I will support you in your career.
I will cook tasty, healthy meals from natural ingredients.
Education is important to me; beginning with my own education.
I think single cat ladies over 30 are losers.
I love sex.
I think it is important for a wife to have sex with her husband regularly, even if she is “not in the mood.”
Women who divorce for no good reason are a plague on society and their husbands and children.
I want to avoid divorce for all but the most extreme circumstances.

I could go on, but I already did in the Good Wife series. You get the idea. Obviously, a woman can say a whole lot of stuff, and what actually happens after you marry her is another thing. Also, there are some women who are pretty much brainless, and couldn’t formulate a list like this if you asked them to, but nevertheless actually have good behavior and make good wives, because they were raised well. Still, if a woman can’t even manage to blurt out some hypothetical virtues, a man is probably better off leaving her be. Let her be the table! Har!

Evie Magazine, for women, had a pretty good article that looks into the legal problems with marriage these days. Because … fifty years of men getting their guts torn out in divorce court, having done nothing wrong, after their dumb bitch of a wife says “I’m not haaaaaaaappy,” makes up some phony domestic violence claims, and steals his children, his money, and makes him a financial slave for decades afterwards, kicks him out of his own house to make way for her new fuckbuddy who sleeps in his own bed while his own children are in the room next door, while he has to call his old college friend to see if he can sleep on his sofa … does not matter to women. All is right and proper in the world, as far as women are concerned. But, finally, after men get a bit of a clue, and decide that they are not going to eat that shit sandwich … now it matters to women.

It’s working, men!

Men today actually want family and children. A few women will figure out that if they are men’s enemy — if these things do not matter to them, and in fact they encourage women’s legal advantages over men — then a smart man will not let them advance beyond the FWB level. You have to limit your risk. Unfortunately, this whole process will probably take at least another decade, and before it is over, I suspect that 30%-50% of White women (and men) will never marry. You can eat your shit sandwich all by yourself, girls.

Men today have two basic problems:

1. Women’s behavior.
2. The legal standing of men in divorce court.

Of course, one leads to another. A woman with good character will not break up the family unless it is really, really justified, no matter what the laws are; also, she will not give her husband any reason to divorce her, and instead give him every reason to keep a good thing going (hint: great food and hot sex). One-sided laws have tempted millions of women to do destructive things that otherwise they wouldn’t have done.

Today, since the laws won’t change right away, this means that a man who thinks he can beat the odds, so very badly stacked against him, has to find a woman with very, very good behavior, or character — for example, a woman that will not divorce him because “I’m not haaaaaaappy” (no good reason at all). You have to be very selective, and even then, it is a roll of the dice since who knows what a woman will be like in 15 years.

These being the problems, the best kind of woman today is easily identifiable:

1. Very good behavior. Wants to be a good wife. Values family. Heaps scorn upon women who treat their husbands badly and divorce for no good reason.
2. Wants to see change in the legal system to make marriage a viable proposition for men again.

Are you this kind of woman?

If not, then you still might be able to get married, but only to a man who is too stupid to know what he is looking for.

Apparently, about 15% of women report that they have had more than one orgasm, at least once in their lives. This leaves 85% who have not.

That is appalling, actually.

Here, at Women’s Health magazine, Vivienne Cass says that “Many women are able to experience five to seven [in a row] easily.”

I consider it a husband’s duty to make your wife a five-to-seven girl. Because, who is going to do it, if not you? Then take a break, and do it again, and again.

This was in the comments section of an item by Henry Makow.

“In conjunction, the Illuminati has taught MEN to seek women who seek power and has destroyed men’s will to be spiritual leaders in a family or distorted their compass to lead via the porn culture.

Speaking from experience, as an international beauty, I’ve met and dated some of the richest men (including Trump) in the world and “nice” Christian farmers from SD and everything in between. I’ve had many marriage offers.

There are probably a few exceptions but in general – only super rich men can afford/want stay home traditional wives but they also want mistresses – a’ la Trump. But at some point the rich men become old farts and just don’t have the energy to have a wife and a mistress. So they either divorce their wife and marry a young trophy wife or if they are divorced, they finally settle down and marry a “mistress” a’la Melania.

I’m Melania’s age and met Donald Trump about the same time she did. Like her I had many choices- marry a stinky old gross rich man who probably wouldn’t cheat /leave me as they are too old. Or take my chances with a man my own age. I chose the path of a traditional man my own age. After being the good wife helping him climb the success ladder (Ivana) I discovered his mistresses and cocaine habit. (I know so many good women in my shoes) My X tells me today that I didn’t drive him to cheat. I was the model good wife but he said the culture brainwashed him to not appreciate me and think he was a loser if he DID NOT have a mistress.

Now the “nice” middle class Christian men I meet, my own age, expect/demand I work. Only rich men can afford to support a wife and when a man is rich (or relative to the woman) he will choose a woman 20, 30 plus years younger then himself.

So a woman is stuck, if she wants a non-cheating traditional man she must marry a man 50 plus years of age when she is in her 20s-30s Let me tell you something -its a spiritual and biological fact- No woman can truly Love a man that much older. It is a calculated compromise for security, that kills a woman’s soul, it’s not out of a natural hormonal oxytocin passionate love.”

I complain about women a lot here, but here is (at least by her own account) a Total Package: 10/10, model wife, prefers to be a stay-at-home mom, supports her husband in his career. It is distressing that even such a woman has such difficulties.

Although, I might add that she apparently divorced him. Justifiably, perhaps. We don’t hear what cash and prizes she gained as a result, or what he thinks of this, or what her children think.

Jackie Kennedy stayed married.

Most American women these days do not make good wives. If a man could know what is in store for him, over the next 20+ years, if he married a certain woman, I think that men would not marry 80% of American women today. They are a net negative. Often, a total disaster. I think about 20% of American women today make good wives. By “good” I do not mean very good, extraordinarily good, but only that a man, upon taking stock of a lifetime (or not) spent together, can say: she was a net positive. In the past, I think this was the case 60%-80% of the time, but the odds are much lower today.

A woman who does not want to be a Good Wife, as a matter of principle, should not marry. Nobody should marry her. Avoid those bitches. They are unfit for marriage. Unfortunately, this is common today. There are enough women already who want to be Good Wives, but fail. All women who are contentious from the outset, the feminists or #metoo nutjobs, those who insist on control, the gold-diggers who are in it for their own personal advantage alone, should be avoided, at least for any serious relationship. They don’t advance beyond the Friends With Benefits level.

It is actually quite easy to be a good wife. I did a series on the Good Wife earlier, which gave a series of things of increasing ambition by which a woman can be a Good Wife. But, I think the most important things were in the first post, a Good Wife Level 1.

Being a Good Wife is not the same as being a good student, or a good employee, or a good daughter, or a good neighbor. A woman can be all of these, and not be a good wife. This is very common.

One of the best guides for How To Be A Good Wife is Fascinating Womanhood. Just this book alone is a litmus test. A woman who wants to be a good wife is often eager to learn how to do so. But, many women think that nobody can tell them what to do. They want “freedom” without responsibility. This “freedom” is not really freedom, of course. She had that as a single girl. It is “freedom” to insist that others serve her whims. It is the “freedom” to be a narcissistic piece of shit, while everyone around her must make self-sacrifices, conform to her demands, and clean up her messes. It is “freedom” for me-not-thee. It is the “freedom” to do anything, and have everyone praise her actions no matter what damage they cause to others, or to herself. A man should give this kind of girl her “freedom” to be a train wreck all by herself. She does not advance beyond the FWB level.

So, if you are the kind of girl that is averse to reading a book like Fascinating Womanhood, you are probably unfit for marriage.

A woman does not have to get married. It’s OK if you don’t. Nobody is insisting on it. There are many, many men who wish that you would stop bothering them about “commitment.” Enough for a lifetime of transient relationships. But, nearly all women — I would say, more than 95% — want to get married eventually. We know this because 92% of White women have gotten married, eventually, despite all the difficulties involved. It wasn’t an accident, like catching the flu, or getting pregnant. You can’t get married by accident. So, if you think that YOU are not going to get married … good luck with that. I hope you change your mind before it is too late. The regret that many women feel drives them to a lifetime of antidepressants. And if YOU think that you are going to get married, but that you don’t need to be a Good Wife … well, good luck with that. For men today especially, that is a Hard Fail. No man should marry such a woman.

The basics of being a good wife are:

Do something productive. Provide benefit to your husband, children, family, and community. This is not very complicated, but it is completely the opposite of what many women think their role as a wife is, which is: to consume. To have others provide for her. To gain personal benefits. To manipulate all those around her to her personal advantage, and their detriment. To create work for others. To consume the benefit of others’ productivity, time and attention. Basically, to be a princess.

By providing for others, and for the benefit of the family as a whole, the Good Wife will benefit herself. It is not a zero-sum game. When both husband and wife are producing, instead of consuming, the result is shared abundance. Children will naturally demand a lot of time, attention and resources, so both parents have to be productive to meet this need. This is the main purpose of marriage.

Don’t make problems. A wife should be productive, and not make problems. This is very obvious in the case of an employee, and most women are able to be productive, in the context of a job, and not make problems. However, for some reason, as a wife, they like to make a ton of problems.

I made a long list of common problems in The Good Wife Level 1. Here are more:

I like the writing of Henry Makow. He simplifies things: don’t compete, criticize, complain, or control. Note that these are all politics, not production. Some women think they can have everything they want in the world if they just complain enough. Mostly, they just make their husbands sick of their shit. A woman can take part in the decision-making process for the family. This may include disagreements. But, in the end, she has to accept her husband’s decision. Ultimately, a woman will only be allowed to take part in the decision-making process if she brings something beneficial to the table. If she just introduces hardship and trouble, then she will get cut out of the loop.

https://www.henrymakow.com/000319.html

Excessive ambition. A woman can share her husband’s desire to be successful and have nice things. She can play an important role in the processes of achieving these things. But, if she thinks she is going to get everything she wants in the world — a nice house, children in private schools, fancy cars, international vacations — just by complaining a lot, then she is basically a useless piece of crap.

Spending too much money. Consumption rather than production.

Cheating. Blowing up the family.

Divorce/divorce threats. Commonly related to “I’m not haaaaaappy.” In other words, no good reason at all.

No sex. Attempting to control a man through withholding sex, or even just refusing because she is “not in the mood.” Once a week is a good commitment, even if “not in the mood.” And, what if you enjoyed it? Some women seem to have a principle of not enjoying it. Obviously, unfit for marriage.

It is easy to go on and on with these problems, but we can see that it is also easy to just not do these things. Any woman can manage to not do these things. If she also does something productive and beneficial to others, then she will end up with a positive overall score, and meet at least the minimum requirements of a Good Wife.

It isn’t difficult. But, you have to want to do it.

One of the prime advantages of having a stay-at-home wife, or being one, is the ability to homeschool your children. You don’t need daycare, government school, or private school — all either bad or expensive options — to take care of your children while you are away at work. Not only do you save a lot of money compared to daycare/private school, but you do not have to choose your residence based on the school district. Elizabeth Warren, back when she was doing interesting research instead of being a Socialist pest, found that one of the primary ways that American families (especially two-income families) got into financial trouble was by spending way too much on a house in an attempt to get into an attractive public school district.

But today, even the “best” public school districts are little more than Marxist indoctrination centers, combined with twelve years of empty pablum where little is learned. Homeschooling is the best option, and really the only option, by which children can obtain a good education. If you send your children to government schools, and then they come back ten years later and burn your house down, well — what did you think was going to happen?

Most Moms don’t really have any idea of how to homeschool. It is not very hard, especially in the K-6 years, but it is not exactly trivial either. I would plan on spending about 3 years just studying how to homeschool, and also, familiarizing yourself with some materials of substance, which you can then offer to your children.

There is a lot of overlap among homeschooling methods, but also, people tend to segregate into one community or another. I follow the Thomas Jefferson Education method of homeschooling (tjed.org). If you want an intro, the place to go is Mentoring in the Classics, a how-to course for parents.

I also recommend AmblesideOnline.org, in the Charlotte Mason style. This has a wealth of wonderful curriculum materials, mostly from the pre-1920 period. They are really good. The difference between what people learned from in those days, and today, is vast.

The books of John Holt, and other materials in the “unschooling” style, are worthwhile. Also, read the books of John Gatto, particularly Dumbing Us Down and the Underground History of American Education.

Among the great works for children, we have:

The Little House on the Prairie series
The Little Britches series
The Anne of Green Gables series

Plus, many more, such as from this booklist.

I would just read them. They are for children, so they don’t take long. Read the first two Little House books, the first Little Britches book (Father and I Were Ranchers), and the first Anne of Green Gables book. Read Heidi, Little Women, Treasure Island, and Captains Courageous.

I would do all of this while your children are infants, or even before then. It will help establish in your mind what you are going to be doing for the next twenty years.

But, all this is mostly for children ages 5+. Later, I will talk about what to do for infants and toddlers.

The median age of first marriage in the US, today, is higher than it has ever been.

Today, we talk about those women who squander their youth and beauty on sluttery and concubinage, and then have an “epiphany phase” around age 28 (coinciding perfectly when they perhaps realize that single women are in the minority), where they decide that maybe being a slut/concubine forever is not such a good idea. Certainly, there are millions of these women.

Nevertheless, there are also many women — half — who get married at the median age of 28, or younger. If you consider that it often takes 6-12 months from the decision to get married to actually doing it, and that we can imagine at least 6-12 months from first meeting until the decision to marry, again we find that about half of the women meet their future husband during the ages 16-25. I would say that this is the better half — those women who are, obviously, not wasting the entirety of their twenties on sluttery and concubinage, and among them, some pretty decent girls. It is hard to imagine a slutty girl who then somehow marries at age 25, unless perhaps to an unusually wealthy and stupid man, who makes an offer she can’t refuse.

I guess that nearly all the women who go on to make decent wives are in this younger-half category. Some of them take a little longer, and get married around 28-30 perhaps to a man that they have been in a monogamous relationship with for a long time, like five years. These are the women who naturally form lasting relationships; and this is what they do. Thus, they are gone: only the leftovers remain. The back half, after the median. Among these leftovers are some decent girls, including the “never had a boyfriend” girls and even some very high quality but deluded Christian girls who are waiting and waiting for God himself to deliver Prince Charming on a cloud with a host of angels. No mortal man is good enough for her; and even if she does find such a man, she waits and waits and waaaaaits for him to chase her, as if a man of that sort needs to do that.

But, mostly, the good ones are gone. Increasingly, men understand this. Something happened to her between the ages of 16-28; and mostly, it was something bad. I think that we are going to see many men decide that they would rather be single than take these old and damaged leftovers. The risk and disaster of divorce, or an unhappy marriage even if one doesn’t get divorced, is too great. Mostly, these will be the men of insight and self-control — that is, the best men. Until now, nearly all women (92% of white women) eventually got married, but I suspect that, going forward, of this latter half who aren’t married by 28, perhaps half of those never will; thus, 25% unmarried, which will seem like a very big number.

This is not just my opinion, but the conclusion of the Pew Research Center:

Since only the good girls are likely to be reading a site like this, I interpret this to mean that good girls should endeavor to be in this earlier-than-the-median half, which is where most of the good girls already are today.

The men who are interested in marriage and family would do well also to search in this younger-half cohort.

In the past, women married young. The prime window was 16-25, with the peak around 18-20.

How did this happen? There were a number of elements to it, but among them, women lived at their father’s house until marriage. They kept busy, but they didn’t have to make a living. Getting married was their prime “activity,” if you could call it that.

Mothers and Fathers wanted their girls to marry decent men; and, no dilly-dally. To achieve this end, parents themselves arranged a variety of situations where their daughters could meet the right kind of suitor. Dances, in particular, were popular. The entire family went together. Clubs of various sorts, where boys and girls could meet each other, were established by parents; perhaps, as part of the Church. On top of this, mothers especially would help set up meetings with the promising sons of the women in their matronly circles.

Along with all this, mothers taught their daughters to be attractive to a man (dress, skills, manner), while fathers taught discipline. Parents did all this work because they wanted a good outcome. Girls mostly just had to go along with the program.

Today, parents largely practice a policy of neglect. They don’t tell their daughters much of anything at all, and don’t help in any way. What little they do tell them is mostly contrary to marriage: go to a good college, get a job, don’t be distracted by a man, don’t get pregnant. Girls don’t learn much in the way of skills, and are mostly told that they can enjoy freedom without responsibility.

In short, parents are hideously negligent. This includes upper-middle-class parents, who, in many cases, make all the same mistakes with special enthusiasm and effort.

Along with all this, women knew that, if they wanted to marry a Top 20% man, they had to out-compete 80% of the women; and, 80% of the women weren’t going to be successful. As Dalrock has observed, in the past, women were quite active in seeking a partner and gaining his attention. Today, they mostly put all their chips on random luck, while they are busy doing other things.

These patterns, perfectly sensible if a woman wanted to actually get married, are nearly the perfect opposite of the way women behave today. Women seem to think that marriage will just happen, if they make no effort at all. They also seem to think that they are entitled to a Top 20% man, but need make no effort to achieve this besides actually having a vagina, nor have any attractive qualities, even the most rudimentary virtues such as not being grossly fat. Thus, they reject any man perceived as not among that Top 20% (even though he might actually be in the Top 20% for marriage), perhaps threatening to have him arrested for “sexual harassment” along the way.

Thus, women today become experts at waiting. Waiting and waiting and waiting. If waiting worked, they wouldn’t be waiting so long.

This puts our young woman in a challenging position. She has no help from parents, or other social institutions, or the observable norms of society. Even work and school, which was recently the place where about 40% of people met their spouse, is now increasingly off-limits. Men won’t even get in the same elevator as you, for fear of losing their jobs as a result. It is common for men to avoid all eye contact with women at work. This is not because they are excessively timid, but because they simply have worked out the risk/reward ratio and have adjusted accordingly. Do not interact with these toxic bitches any more than you have to. (As if to prove their toxicity for all to see, women then complain that men are avoiding them! Guess what girls: men aren’t interested in women, or any people really, that do nothing but spew complaints and demands. Someday, let me explain what the phrase “a firehose of shit” means.)

Men today have, with great effort, trained themselves not to engage with women in day-to-day activities. Mostly, they won’t approach you. This kind of hard discipline worn into habit cannot be easily turned off and on. Theoretically, men would be more willing to interact with women, if there was some kind of situation where it was established beforehand that women want to be approached. Today, this mostly means bars and clubs. But, this is almost entirely hookup-related today, and many men, who are not interested in this — in other words, the kind of man who is interested in a more serious relationship — will simply not be there.

I conclude that women will have to make a special effort today to indicate to men that they will not be sent to court on sexual assault charges, if men break their policy of non-interaction. The first reaction, for a lot of men, if a woman interacts with them, is not “Oh, this is pleasant!” but: “Am I stepping into a pile of shit here?”

This is difficult for many women. They find it very difficult to be proactive. Here is one woman — a very nice woman! — who concluded that the Bumble app was unusable because it required women to “make the first move.” Women can’t even do this in the most indirect possible fashion, a text message.

If women want to go on a date, increasingly I think they will have to ask a man to go on a date. If she wants to, a woman can do 90% of the asking, basically telling a man that he is pre-approved:

She: “Let’s do something together sometime.”
He: “What, you mean like a date?”
She: “Well, that might work. What do you think?”
He: “Dating is kind of a shitshow these days.”
She: “Well, maybe it wouldn’t be a shitshow if we did it.”
He: “OK, well, my friends tell me that you shouldn’t waste any cash on a bitch unless you have screened her first. I’m not going to be a Foodie Call. So would you like to get some coffee?”
She: “OK, that would be a good start.”

This “date” should be, explicitly, part of a marriage strategy. Don’t ask a man on a date who you are not prepared to potentially marry — who has known, pre-existing disqualifiers. Otherwise, you are just wasting your time, and he is just wasting his time, unless there is some sex involved. Now you are having sex with a man who you have already pre-determined that you will definitely not marry — burning up time and accumulating damage.

Not the most romantic thing, I admit. But what are you going to do? Wait?