The common pattern these days is that women chase fuckboys when they are younger. This ultimately results in a lot of trauma for women. Two things happen around Age 26-30. First, this is known as the Epiphany Phase. Second, they become Whores. They are not professional escorts, or OnlyFans girls, but they concern themselves not with the primary interest of Sluts (pleasure), but rather, economic benefit from men that they do not take much pleasure in. Their capacity for pleasure is burned out. They have lost their pair-bonding ability. They have had the experience, over and over, of pleasure leading to pain as their attempts at forming “a relationship” fail. Or, attempting to constantly “trade up” in endless hypergamy, they have formed the habit of dumping men who might have been willing to give them more than sex. They are carrying the DNA of too many men.

Then they are ready to “settle down and find a husband.” This is the Epiphany Phase, which also coincides with the common onset of Whoredom. They look at men primarily as dumb animals to be exploited, just as they feel that they have been exploited like dumb animals by the long string of Fuckboys that they have spent their entire adult life with up to that point.

Read Rollo Tomassi on the Epiphany Phase, 2012.

Thus, a woman who seeks marriage after Age 27 can be very different from one who seeks it at Age 17. It is not just her shrinking window of fertility, or a few wrinkles around the eyes. She is a burned-out husk intent on exploiting men to her advantage, rather than cooperating with men for mutual prosperity and benefit — being a Good Wife and a Good Mother. In this, she has an enormous amount of assistance from the anti-male legal system, which is exactly as she likes it, due to the influence of similar women who came before. This is why you Can’t Turn A Whore Into A Housewife. This is why they seem incapable of love. Do you “love” a cow before you slaughter it?

Dalrock: Why won’t these Peter Pan manboys man up and marry aging flighty selfish career gal sluts already? (2011)

I do not think “all women are like that.” There are a few who are virgins even at Age 28, and they actually might make good wives. But, unfortunately, most women over Age 26 are Whores, and Whores are Like That.

The Epiphany Phase normally consists of a decline in Sluttish behavior, as the woman learns that nothing much good comes of it. This seems like a return to some kind of Morality. A woman begins to seek a husband to form a family. She is driven by her biological urges, which informs her that she has not yet had children. She sees that raising children is best done with a family, rather than as a Single Mom. These are healthy impulses. But, it combines with her Whorish realization that the best way to get paid for her pussy, rather than giving it away for free as was the case up to that point, is by locking some man into the Lifetime Contract. Once she gets this Contract, she doesn’t even need to have sex with him anymore. What a deal! This is definitely the best possible Whoredom. And, she deserves it, having been so ill-treated by men up to that point. She can even get rid of him later, via divorce, and he will still have to pay her on the Lifetime Contract. She can even go and find some new fuckboys, and there is nothing her husband can do about it except — give her his house and children!

Although there are some women over Age 27 who really aren’t Like That, they are hard to identify. There is really no telling what a woman will do in five or ten years. This is a dangerous situation for men.

For thousands of years, girls were told not to be Sluts and Whores. Today, they have to learn the hard way. I hope that some girls will figure it out before causing damage that is too often irreparable.

We’re hearing more of the “can’t find a good man” line from women these days — mostly, women over 27yo. What were they doing during their decade of prime marriageability, attractiveness, and fertility, ages 16-25? What would these 30+yo women do if they found a good man, today? Would they be Good Wives and Good Mothers? Would they make him miserable for about eight years before taking his children and assets in divorce court? Are they even capable of having children?

Marriage is way too risky in general these days, but the risk/reward proposition is particularly bad among women over Age 26 who were doing something for the last decade besides Looking For A Good Man.

“Girls, we’re friendzoning all the good guys!” says Kristen Corley. Let’s see what she means.

“He’s not my type,” I said trying to justify my previous actions.

“Why because he treats you well,” my friend said completely calling me out on my bullshit.

But the truth was if I said I’m not attracted to him, he made it too easy and as much as the idea floated in my head considering it, I wasn’t interested.

I wanted to be. I would have loved to say I left that date and went right home instead of right to the nearest fuckboys house who I had been seeing more off than on.

And the only difference between these two guys was one kept me completely on my toes, one kept me guessing, one kept me playing this game I swore I hated. And I was more physically attracted to him than anyone I had ever met.

The other answered every text quickly, paid for everything, opened my door and told me exactly how he felt and on many occasions dropped whatever he was doing if I asked.

I cried that entire drive home. I cried because I knew what I deserved and I knew I was choosing the opposite. But the heart wants what it wants. And that was the problem.

We claim we want a good and decent guy but when we meet him, we look for every reason we don’t want to give him a chance. Maybe it’s his appearance. Maybe it’s his demeanor. Maybe he’s exactly everything we want and need. But we dabble with the idea, liking them one day, then ignoring them the next. Blowing up their social media one day then doing the casual fade out.

We like the attention but we don’t like it enough to reciprocate it. So we text them every few weeks just to boost our own confidence that they’ll answer and they do like us still.

But to look at someone who would do anything for you and someone who says all the things we wish someone else would, it’s disrespecting and hurting the one person who wouldn’t do the same.

I sat stag at an event looking more beautiful than ever and dropping more than I should have to impress someone who didn’t even respect me enough to show up. Again let down by the same person who continued to disappointment me.

“I would have come if you needed me there,” I read in a text that made me smile and frown. Despite it being 3 hours away and me not even considering asking him in the first place, the other guy would have been there.

I showed the text to my friend, “he might not be what you want but he’s what you deserve.”

That statement stayed with me.

Maybe we aren’t getting the person we deserve not out of bad luck but because we are choosing the wrong people.

We throw all these great guys in the friendzone claiming there is no spark but we don’t even wanna see if there will be. We run from all the right things into the arms of the person who is completely wrong.

My heart hurts for these guys. The ones who deserve the same type of love and affection they are willing to give. The guys who look at their best girl space friend and want nothing more than to delete that space and make them theirs.

The guys who are there every time she gets hurt. And when she questions her self-worth because of some asshole who doesn’t see her beauty, you are perplexed. Because you look at this girl like she’s the most beautiful one there is. And no matter how much you tell her, she doesn’t believe you because it isn’t coming from the guy she wants to hear it from. You keep your feelings quietly tucked away because you aren’t what she wants, so you stay friends hoping and praying for the day maybe it will hit her that you can be more than someone who dries her tears. Maybe you can be the one who doesn’t cause them at all.

My heart hurts for the guys who think they have to change and be an asshole because it seems that’s what girls want.

To those guys I say, don’t change. Don’t do anything different than be exactly who you are. And don’t settle in love simply because someone couldn’t reciprocate all you have to give. Because one day someone will. And they’ll be everything you deserve. And when you introduce them to your girl space friend I promise the idea will cross her mind, “that could have been me.”

And to the ladies who don’t give these good guys chances, one day you’re going to get tired of dating assholes and you’re going to look around at the person who was had been there the whole time and he’ll be gone.

This Good Guy is way too simp-y, but even so, this is what these 27+yo “I can’t find a Good Guy” women were doing, before they turned 27. Obviously, nobody wants to be the Good Guy. Everybody shits on that guy. They should be the Fuckboy, or at least, imitate one convincingly. Nobody should marry this woman, when she finally gets to her “I can’t find a Good Guy” phase a few years from now. Let her marry some idiot. Then, you can be her Fuckboy on the side, after she is married. These women eventually go looking for their Good Guy, but after they get married, they can’t give up their Fuckboy habit.

They say that “All Women Are Like That,” but I think it is more like: most women end up like that, after a decade of chasing fuckboys. They don’t start off that way. If Good Guys are going to have a chance at all, they need to look for virgins in the 18-20yo range. If Good Girls are going to have a chance at all, they have to avoid making the same mistakes that all the other women make.

Although I usually give guidance to (largely hypothetical) young women and girls here, sometimes our young men and boys need some help too.

In general, it takes longer for a man to mature than a woman. This is because, among other factors, men are more complicated than women. Women are largely imitators, and it is not too hard to imitate. Men are creators, which can involve a lot of trial, error and experimentation.

But, even so, men today take too long to grow up. Time to grow up!

For young men, or perhaps boys around Age 15, I would say: skip “youth culture.” You are eventually going to drop all that stupid “youth culture” crap anyway, so why not just drop it now? I mean: the clothes, the manner of speaking, the poor grooming habits, the music, and all the other things of that sort. Before 1960, people went directly from childhood to adulthood. The “culture” of a 19-year old college student was the same as his 50-year old professor. Boys became men without getting bogged down in “youth culture” for 15 years.

These young men are not playing dress-up for the camera. This was jus a regular day in Princeton in the 1950s.

Young college men during their free time.

A dance.

Serious young men. They also knew how to party.

Look to somewhat older and serious men that you admire, and imitate them. This might be men around Age 28-45. In the past, boys were naturally inclined to begin the transition to manhood around Age 13. This often involved beginning grown-up tasks like an apprenticeship in some useful trade or occupation. It often involved being in the company of other grown men.

Here is a painting of “Midshipman August Brine.” The year is 1782. The boy is thirteen years old. His father is Admiral James Brine. August Brine enlisted that year on a warship, the “Belliqueux,” under the command of his father.

The boy is on a warship at Age 13. Can’t you just tell he is going to be a badass? He became a Rear Admiral in 1822.

No childish things here. Look at his dress. Look at his manner. He is trying to be a man. Most American men don’t achieve this level of maturity even at Age 25.

No dopey dumbass “youth culture” for these young men.

The average time, we are told, between when a couple first meet, and when they get married, is 58.7 months. Much of this consists of a “virtual marriage,” of cohabitation, averaging 3.5 years. An astonishing 20 months typically passed between when a couple decided to get married, and when they actually did.

This is ridiculous. In the past, you didn’t have sex before marriage, but courtships often didn’t last more than a few months. Sometimes, they would be longer, perhaps for a girl to reach an acceptable 18th birthday, or perhaps a man was in school and not ready to support a household. But, sometimes courtships were three days long. When courtship is just a transition process to marriage, like a job interview, not a permanent state of “dating,” you end up with a yes or a no pretty quickly.

But, this also means that, if the median age of marriage is 28, already the highest in American history, then those women first met their husbands around age 23. They were gone. No longer single. Off the market. Women over Age 26 are leftovers. There is usually a reason they are left over. Mostly, it is because they couldn’t maintain a stable relationship, or didn’t want to, or are just too fugly.

We don’t really need any women to be doctors. Men can do all the doctoring, as they did in the past. No benefit has been gained from having women doctors. However, for every woman that is a doctor (and about 50% of med school students today are women), there is a family without a Mother at home. The children are neglected, shunted off to daycare, and eat frozen pizza every other night, with the usual health consequences. The children are later abandoned to public schools, where they are undereducated and brainwashed to be Marxist workerbees. Private schools, even superexpensive ones, are often not much better. When they are at home, they are abandoned to social media and video games, since Mom “needs a break” from the endless press of her job and the bare minimum of housekeeping duties. The culture as a whole declines, since a lot of “culture” has always amounted to: what people do at home. This is probably why about 40% of women doctors have gone either part-time or quit within six years after their residency.

If we assume that the doctor/population ratio is stable, then for every woman that becomes a doctor, there is a man that would have become a doctor, but did not. The woman took his job. This male doctor could have made a high enough income to support a family in comfort — including his wife, who could stay at home. His wife could take care of a lot of housekeeping and childcare duties, so that he could focus on his work, and still have some time to rest, and have time with the children. Instead, if we assume that a woman doctor is married to a husband who also works, that husband then becomes as overworked as she is. For every household duty that the woman doctor (quite rightly) pushes upon her husband, so that they equally share the necessary household tasks, the husband becomes as overworked as the wife, and equally prone to neglect the children.

Today, we need women more than ever in the home. This is because many of our social institutions are deteriorating or collapsing. Public schools used to be better. When I was in public school, in the late 1970s and early 1980s, it was not too hot but it wasn’t bad either. Today, you would be a fool to allow your children anywhere near those places. You have to homeschool, or, at least, find some acceptable alternative. The culture as a whole is a toxic mess. If you are not a part of your children’s lives, and presenting them with guidance and alternatives — throughout the day, not just during a few hours of “quality time” per week — they will default to the television and the norms of their peers. Basically, this means being sluts (for girls) and playing videogames (for boys), followed by porn. Have a beautiful house. This will take effort. Cook healthy food for your family, so that they don’t end up obese.

If you aren’t going to be a stay-at-home Mom, please don’t have children. You aren’t taking your responsibilities seriously. Just be a single woman. Take vacations in Greece. Have a string of noncommittal “boyfriends.” Contribute to society, perhaps by being a doctor, without the distractions of children and family.

If a woman doesn’t want to be a Stay-at-Home Mom, at least in principle, as a goal or aspiration, then don’t marry her. She doesn’t really want to be a Mom at all. She is not serious. Probably, she doesn’t really want to be a Wife either, and being overworked, plus subject to all the distractions and influences of working, she will not be a good one. There really isn’t a good reason to marry a woman unless it is to have a family. Otherwise, it is too risky, and unnecessarily confining. If she says that she wants to be a Stay-at-Home Mom, but is over Age 26, then she probably squandered her best ten years on Feminist crap, and is trying to remedy her ways, but is probably too far gone and too damaged to bother with. There are some good women over Age 26, but they are the exception. Usually, it is best to just find a younger woman.

If you are going to be a Mother, and have a family, then it is not too important to have a career that you would leave anyway. You don’t need a Feminist Merit Badge. You need a husband. I suggest starting early. Get married around Age 20. Do not get divorced. If you keep your husband happy, there is rarely any good reason for divorce.

From “Sorcha Faal“:

“[W]oke leftist political leaders of NATO member Norway gave full command of their newest multi-million dollar warship KNM Helge to an all-female crew, that promptly sunk this vessel because its female officers “made crude, almost incomprehensible human errors, making them look like amateurs”—that was followed by Biden ordering nuclear weapons capable B1-B stealth bombers to Norway to threaten Russia—but who gifted Russia by placing in command of these B1-B stealth bombers costing over $350-million for each of them an inexperienced female officer to oversee their maintenance—who is US Air Force Lieutenant Colonel Kristen Shadden, and was just relieved of her command in after she destroyed the engines on one of these multi-million dollar stealth bombers in Norway.”

But, didn’t we already know this?

Many women figure out their errors sometime after the age of 28, but it is mostly too late for them by then. Not only are they running out of youth, beauty and fertility, but their feminist habits, burned-out hormonal system and sordid histories create the practical result that these women make bad wives. Some women can overcome this, but it takes a special sort of woman, basically one who commits herself to being a Good Wife no matter what.

So, I am mostly speaking again to young women (under 23) and girls, who need some good examples to follow and positive influences. I like Robyn Riley, who we have seen earlier on YT. She has a worthwhile Twitter feed, which is here.

I don’t think it is worthwhile to pay much attention to supposedly “Trad” women who don’t have a family at a relatively young age.

Some women today “want to get married,” sometimes even “be married,” but they don’t want to “be a Wife.” Huh? This should be a red flag for any Man. Don’t marry her. But, some women might be feeling something similar too. I am talking especially to those women under age 21 or so, who might have thoughts like this. Those over 28 are probably too far gone to be salvaged. Leave them alone.

Basically, a woman wants the advantages that she perceives coming from marriage, without the duties or responsibilities of “being a wife.” We can imagine what these are, for both categories.

Let’s see where this leads. Here is one woman who says: “I Want To Be Married But I Don’t Want To Be A Wife“

The other day I watched “Think Like A Man 2” and one of the couples were offered great professional opportunities individually. One was offered to be a chef in a top notch restaurant in Vegas and the other, CEO in New York. They truly loved each other because they both passed on the opportunities so they could be together. They were stoked when they were presented the job positions but they let that go. I got a little sad to see them walk away from something that they wanted and had been working so hard for. Does it have to be either or? Relationship or…

Comments: This is a common problem in marriages with two working adults. Here, there are no children. If there aren’t going to be any children, why be married? Marriage is basically an institution for raising children. A stay-at-home Mom is not only able to care for children, she can go wherever her husband’s career opportunities lie.

Just because we’re married, it doesn’t mean that we drop our individual interests. I don’t want to just be a wife. And at the same time, I don’t want my husband to just be a husband. I’d like him to be a son, a brother, a friend, a professional, a tennis player if that’s what he wants to be, a hiker or a gamer. Idk. Don’t give up your dreams just because we’re supposed to be physically attached to each other.

Comments: Did anyone say that “being a wife” meant dropping individual interests? It is true that, often, people drop their hobbies when they have to devote a lot of time and attention to childcare. This is voluntary and mostly done without remorse. Time to grow up.

I’m not saying we’re gonna live apart most of the time and be happily ever after. It’s about empowering each other to pursue the interests that conserves our individuality. A Work-Home-Occasional Outing routine is not living. Gotta break that. Go do you. Take the kids to school and then go ride a rollercoaster haha. Go visit your parents, just you. No spouse, kids, other siblings, pursue your passions.

Comments: Whoops, now we’re living apart. But, neither husband nor wife, living apart, is ever going to start having sex with others. Unimaginable. How are you going to raise children like this? Here we have a complete abandonment of childcare responsibilities, just “drop them off at school” and “go ride a rollercoaster haha.” Basically, ride the Cock Carousel.

Now, working 2,800 miles apart is not an ideal situation but I believe that this is what it comes down to. I’d like us to still follow what gives us joy in life… even if that meant that we’d have to be away for some time. I agree that money is not everything but I’m not talking about money, I’m talking about joy.

Comments: Not only living apart, living 2800 miles apart! Can’t even visit on weekends! What kind of marriage is this?

For what I’ve noticed, people who follow what gives them joy, love life and everything in it. They are happy! Happy people show gratitude aaand grateful husbands spoil their wives. That’s my game plan: I want to get spoiled. You thought I was doing this for him? Hahaha

Comments: She wants to get spoiled, but she doesn’t plan on doing anything for him, hahaha.

Senseity stands for individuality. It’s a give-and-take cycle that consists of discovering and embracing who we are and aspire to be as well as accepting others for who they are and aspire to be.

“A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences” -Anonymous

And there you go. This is the mentality of “wanting to be married, but not wanting to be a wife.” Basically, it is “getting spoiled by your husband” who lives 2800 miles away (basically, spending his money), while not giving anything in return “hahaha,” and also, apparently, doing nothing by way of raising children, in favor of “discovering and embracing who we are.” Why would any man marry a woman like this? How do you raise children like this? In the best possible case, this woman will die single and childless. Unfortunately, perhaps someone will marry her, or be one of her children.

Men need to avoid women like this. A woman should be enthusiastic about being a wife because, although it has responsibilities and restrictions, and largely amounts to working for the benefit of others including the husband, children and family, it can also be a lot of fun. You are going to be working for the benefit of others anyway, as a single childless woman — namely, the benefit of the corporation or your customers. I can see why a woman might want a life of Nonstop Party Time, paid for by some husband 2800 miles away, but men should avoid these women, and women should avoid becoming one of these women.

Young women and girls, who are picking up on this sort of thing from their older sisters without really understanding what it means, need to reject this kind of horseshit immediately. Be a Good Wife and a Good Mother. It’s actually a lot of fun.

I’ve heard that most men are bad at sex. I’ve also heard that most women are too.

Women’s role in sex is mostly “passive.” This does not mean “inactive,” but rather, “reactive.” In other words, a woman “goes for a ride,” and a man “takes her for a ride.”

Here is an exercise for women to try, who think that they may be bad at sex.

Lie quietly on the bed. Invite your man to “come and take me for a ride, Big Boy!” The basic pattern is to react, erotically, to his action or stimulation. This can be a simple touch on the abdomen, or something of that sort. The reaction might be an erotic writhing and soft moaning. But, you should definitely express, so that your man can see and hear it, your internal state of pleasure.

For women who have a tendency to lie still like a sack of sand (apparently, most of them), this “erotic reaction” can be somewhat exaggerated and theatrical. But, it should be honest. It should be a portrayal of your interior state, of excitement. Don’t fake it. You can express what feels good and what doesn’t work so well, and the man can adjust accordingly. Also, a woman will probably find that, by being somewhat exaggerated and theatrical about it, her actual enjoyment is increased. By amplifying her external reaction, her internal reaction is also amplified.

I would do this with simple touching or kissing at first.

Eventually, you can advance to full-on screaming multiple orgasms. You might want to go somewhere that you don’t have to worry about other people hearing.

For some women, the screaming is the best part.

Most of the popular music of today, and also that of the 1970s, is basically hookup music. Here is an alternative, from 1973. Also note the singer (Karen Carpenter’s) dress and makeup. At the time, she lived with her parents in a small suburban house.

OK, some people would say “that’s so uncool!” But remember, Good=Boring. Things that are Good will seem Boring to people who are not that good. For example, some people are careful about their diet, because they are aware of the consequences of eating bad food. To people that are not careful with their diet, this seems very boring. Wouldn’t you rather binge on beer and Doritos?

However, to those that are Good, it is a lot of fun to be Good. For example, some people get very interested in vegan cooking, and working out, and looking good, which is the natural outcome from eating well and working out. They become Moms, and have a lot of fun with it.

Lots of girls these days, and also in the 1970s, wanted to be Bad. It seemed like so much more fun! But, don’t be surprised if they end up here:

People are Good basically because they don’t want to play out these dramas. Dating apps are full of worn-out sluts that now — after a decade of “fun” — say they “just want a good relationship with a good guy! Where have all the Good Guys gone?” But, usually they are not really capable of this anymore, and if they ever found a Good Guy, they would just make a mess of it. Can’t make a Hoe into a Housewife. Can’t make Jenny into Karen.

Jenny was a hoe and a druggie who became a single mom and died young from an STD. Sounds like “fun” doesn’t it?