Stay At Home Dads

Recently, there is a cohort of Stay At Home Dads, who do all the duties that Stay At Home Moms used to do.

Probably they didn’t plan on this. But, with children came a lot more work than they could handle while both working. Maybe the wife was making a lot more money, or the husband lost his job, or his wife got a new job that required a move to a new city, or maybe his wife just refused to quit working even though he asked her to.

Anyway, they became full-time Stay At Home Dads. They do all the normal stuff. Plus, they do all the “guy stuff” too — repairing and maintaining the home, taking care of the cars, taking out the trash, doing yardwork.

They discovered that this is very easy.

They make breakfast for the wife and kids. With their children in school (commonly), everyone is out of the house by 9am. There is about two hours a day of housework — cleaning, vacuuming, yardwork, grocery shopping, laundry, etc. They do all the cooking in the evening. When you cook every day, it doesn’t take long before these guys become junior Gordon Ramsays and Emeril Lagrasses. They think this is a lot of fun.

But, between 11am and about 5pm, they have a ton of free time. They have a good time with this. They go mountain biking, they play tennis, they hang out with their friends, they do their hobbies.

It is a very cushy life for them.

When their wives get home from work, everything is in proper order and a great meal is on the table.

At no point do they ever complain about their cushy lifestyle, or ask their wife to “do their share of the housework.” They never complain that their wife “is never around.”

Since they can get everything done during the week, during the weekend they mostly just play with the kids.

Of course, their wives hate this.

Fit Moms

Apparently this is becoming common:

This is very dumb, but it seems like young women in particular can’t figure anything out (Matriarchy Does Not Exist), so we have to spell it out for them.

A woman’s physical attractiveness is primarily due to three factors:

  1. Diet. This means what you eat (food quality), not how much (calories). Single-ingredient foods. No processed foods.
  2. Exercise. Get some exercise.
  3. Beautification. Basic beauty skills. Nice clothes and a good hairstyle. Makeup is not really necessary. No tattoos, noserings, blue hair, ugly short hair, etc.

This is true for women whether they have children or not. A 35yo mother of four children who does these things, will look better than a 35yo childless woman who does not.

Recently we looked at MacKenzie Scott-Formerly-Bezos, who gave birth to three children (and adopted another). She was 23 when she married Jeff Bezos. Here she is in her mid-forties:

Paulina Porizkova, who, if there was a Guinness World Record for best body at Age 56 would be the winner, is a mother of two. She married at Age 24 and remained married for thirty years, until her husband died. Her first child was born when she was 28.

At age 42 in this 2022 performance, ballerina Svetlana Zakharova’s body is so dance-honed it is almost alien. She has one daughter, born when she was 32.

But I think that we are not quite talking about bodies alone here.

When a woman has children, she loses sexual appeal. She has baggage and complications. She is supposed to be married. Or, she is a single mom. She is thinking about childcare, not mating. She has better things to do than be too concerned about how she looks to other single men. Pretty soon, she is over 30 and then, over 35. This is a troubling notion to a lot of young women these days, who really are addicted to social media validation. Getting married and having children should mean shutting all that off.

Basically, it is the transition from Maiden to Mother.

Today, just as women want to keep their economic independence, so to they want to keep their sexual potential. They want to, at any time, go back to being an economically independent Maiden. Of course the clock is ticking on this. They need to cash in their potential for reality.

Many women do lose it after they have their first child. Many gain a lot of weight during pregnancy — not pregnancy weight but plain obesity — because they get even less exercise, and end up snacking on junk food all day for nine months. But, that is just sloppiness. If you want to regain a fit body after pregnancy, it doesn’t take that long.

And, you can just be beautifully pregnant. Your husband won’t mind.

Some Stats on Egg Freezing and IVF

Women: Egg Freezing is some kind of sick joke. Just don’t do it. Have children, or do not, but don’t bother with egg freezing.

I think there is a cohort of mostly upper-income professional women who become voluntary single mothers, from a sperm donor.

A better path would be “natural insemination.” For one thing, you can choose the father more reliably. For another, it a lot cheaper and also more fun. Elon Musk has the right idea here. Good genes.

I know men with an IQ of 160+ ( 1 in 10,000+ level), and probably in the top 10% for looks too. They should have more children. Fifty seems like a good number.

This would require some legal means of formally removing the father from any child support responsibilities. I think an upper-income woman can probably find an adequate legal solution. The existing adoption laws might work. Basically, you would adopt your own child; or, the father would “put the child up for adoption.”

Lolo Jones

Lolo Jones, former Olympic athlete and professed virgin, is still single at 40. She gets a lot of flack for this. I find it rather unfortunate. Here is a woman with a lot of virtues: a virgin, among them, looks good, many fine character traits, and apparently enthusiastic about marriage and family. This would put her in the top class of Wifey women, except perhaps for her age. Someone should have stepped up for that one. While I think we have to accept these days that perhaps 70% of women are not fit for marriage, we should Take A Stand with the Top 30% that are, and this would certainly include Lolo Jones, at least an under-35 Lolo.

Here she was in the past:

For a woman that is a hurdler, and bobsledder (thus the shoulders), and not specifically an IG model, that’s pretty good.

I’m sure we could have a long list of “things she did wrong,” including “too picky.” Obviously, something must have gone wrong. But it was probably not being “too picky,” or not just that. Mostly, I think, an incompatibility with the “dating” path to marriage, and being a virgin. She would need a man that would marry her without kissing first.

On the bright side, if you are that kind of guy, maybe you could have married the younger Lolo Jones.

Extinction Protocol

Lori Alexander writes that high-achieving professional women are complaining (do they ever stop complaining?) that happy marriage has become elusive for them.

“Getting a top job dramatically increases women’s chances of divorce, even in egalitarian countries. Why isn’t it the same for men? Having a successful and enjoyable career alongside a fulfilling romantic relationship is a life goal for many of us. But even in the most gender-equal countries, finding a partnership that lasts is trickier for high-flying women than men…Female medical doctors, police officers and priests who progressed in their careers also followed the trend.” (Source)

Don’t you love the language here? Among women with a bachelor’s degree, divorce is initiated by women 90% of the time. I would guess that the effective initiation rate is higher than 90%, maybe 95%. In other words, divorce arises from womens’ bad behavior perhaps 95% of the time, even if men are the legal initiators (men get sick of their crap).

Nevertheless, it’s always someone else’s fault. Not theirs. In other words, Matriarchy Does Not Exist. Even among this select group of high-earning, highly capable women, we find the perennial failure to take any responsibility. The only odd thing, at this point, is that men still expect women to act like men. They won’t.

“Finding a partnership that lasts is trickier…” As if it was something rare that had to be found “out there.” The statistics suggest that men are the instigators of divorce perhaps 10% of the time. Since the divorce rate among college-educated women is about 35%, that would mean women have a 35%*10%=3.5% risk of divorce based on mens’ actions. In other words, a 96.5% success rate. They would have a good deal, if they didn’t screw it up.

Why would divorce risk increase when a woman “gets a top job” (has a career advancement)? Since it is women initiating these divorces, this means that a high-earning woman becomes more likely to initiate a divorce. I think we all know the answers to that.

We’ve seen that, even back in the 1990s, about 43% of high-earning corporate women failed to get married in the first place. This was when 92% of White women got married. 57% did get married, but that will be lower going forward, probably under 40%. Then, we have more of these higher-earning women then divorcing. What a shitshow! No wonder men don’t want to marry these women.

If you are a high-earning married woman, get a housekeeper.

If you are a brainy, capable woman, find a man that makes decent dough, stay at home, and have a lot of children. Your genes are more valuable than anything you could do in an office.

Old and Ugly

It’s tough for women to get old, especially if you are ugly. Mostly, we have been giving a thumbs-up around here for women who were beautiful in their youth, and are still keeping it together as they pass 40. These are good examples to follow for all women. But, we have to give a special both-thumbs-up for women who were actually ugly in their youth, but now look great over 40. Winning!

In this elevated class, we have Mackenzie Scott-Formerly-Bezos.

Here she was in the past:

It is rare to see a woman that ugly, who is not also obese. She also seems to have many excellent qualities and virtues, which is probably why Jeff stuck with her.

With the help of a pro photographer, I sorta get it.

Here she was in her mid-forties:

Still not a cover girl, but she stuffs a dress like a boss!

And here, more recently (Age 52), no makeup, no clothes, no filters, no stylists. Not a beauty, but healthy, slim, and cheerful. And, with many other virtues. I bet she can still stuff a dress when she needs to.

Get A Housekeeper

Around here, we encourage women to be stay-at-home homemakers.

But, if you are one of those high-earning married women in a dual-income household with children, and with more money than time, then consider getting a live-in housekeeper.

This used to be common in — not only the upper class — but the upper middle class, and even when Moms also stayed at home.

A housekeeper doesn’t need to be paid much, since she would have almost all of her living expenses covered. You would still have to pay minimum wage of course, but that is only about $20,000/yr.

Desexing the World

Miles Mathis, who is also interesting for many things, recently took up the topic of relations between men and women, including a lot of details about his own marriages.

Desexing the World

Mathis doesn’t really go for the “no sex before marriage” line as we do here. Mostly, he is all for it, as part of the path to marriage, in what you might call a 1980s sort of way. Basically, it is the typical “things should be like they were when I was young.” Nevertheless, much worthwhile commentary in the piece.

Jim’s Blog


“Jim’s Blog” is interesting for a number of reasons, among them a somewhat extremist, but maybe difficult to refute, take on relations with women.

Female Sexual Preferences
Make Women Property Again
Three Magic Words

Here is a recent take:

I attempt to control my wife’s social environment so that the women in her environment are good influences – that the social environment is such that a woman may not be permanently on the prowl for an upgrade.

Patriarchs take their families to church for the social environment – for the backing of God and man to maintain good behavior in wife and children, and also to obtain virgin wives for sons, and suitable husbands for daughters.